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My husband had quit cigarettes for 3 months. I thought he had quit for good, but guess what?? I found a cigarette lighter on the bed under the sheets when I got in bed the other night. I was upset that he didn't tell me, but he thought NOT telling me would be better cause I guess he figured I would never find out being he has enough control not to smoke around me in the house. He didn't want to upset me by telling me he went back to smoking, but I told him that by lying to me and saying he quit is more upsetting than hearing he is still smoking.
His parents both had cancer - mouth/ throat and both due to smoking. His father died from it and thank God his mother was cured. So thats why for the last 20 years I have been hoping he would quit and up until now, I thought he did.
Did anyone have a real hard time giving up cigarettes and knew that they needed extra help. If you did get extra help, and were able to quit, how did you do it? He'll try anything but hypnosis. He even thinks he needs to talk to a psychiatrist cause he just can't believe how he keeps going back to it - even after 3 months of not smoking. He thinks he has a harder time than anyone and I can't convince him that all ex-smokers had a hard time and you just have to resist.
I had given it up years ago on my own without using anything, so I am unable to suggest anything to him.
Any suggestions or maybe someone has gone through the same thing and took some pill or something. I remember reading a while back that there is a pill to help a person stop smoking but I forgot the name of it and I don't know if it has sx. I am upset that he lied to me, but I won't harp on that because he thought he was protecting me from added stress - thats how different men are from women,,,I would have wanted to know and hear the truth so I could help him.
well if you have any ideas please let me know. Thanks, MO
His parents both had cancer - mouth/ throat and both due to smoking. His father died from it and thank God his mother was cured. So thats why for the last 20 years I have been hoping he would quit and up until now, I thought he did.
Did anyone have a real hard time giving up cigarettes and knew that they needed extra help. If you did get extra help, and were able to quit, how did you do it? He'll try anything but hypnosis. He even thinks he needs to talk to a psychiatrist cause he just can't believe how he keeps going back to it - even after 3 months of not smoking. He thinks he has a harder time than anyone and I can't convince him that all ex-smokers had a hard time and you just have to resist.
I had given it up years ago on my own without using anything, so I am unable to suggest anything to him.
Any suggestions or maybe someone has gone through the same thing and took some pill or something. I remember reading a while back that there is a pill to help a person stop smoking but I forgot the name of it and I don't know if it has sx. I am upset that he lied to me, but I won't harp on that because he thought he was protecting me from added stress - thats how different men are from women,,,I would have wanted to know and hear the truth so I could help him.
well if you have any ideas please let me know. Thanks, MO
Remember when you were a kid, and the cigarettes tasted really good when you had to sneak them. Im guessin thats how your husband feels, they probably taste a lot better if he has to sneak them lol. Tell him (I know you are smokin so u dont have to hide it) and he will probably quit. They wont taste as good. Put a pic of a human lung full of cancer on the fridge that might help.Or you can fill the ashtrays up with a little water, (gross). good luck
19 days clean... seems to be getting easier and feeling well.
Wife's last cigarette was Sept 21.
Hope everyone is doing okay around here.
Wife's last cigarette was Sept 21.
Hope everyone is doing okay around here.
"..nicotine withdrawal sex is pretty good.."
Is that anything like makeup sex. After you have a good fight ?
Bobby
Is that anything like makeup sex. After you have a good fight ?
Bobby
"..nicotine withdrawal sex is pretty good.."
Can't think of a better incentive!
Addiction isn't something new to me. My wife stood by me a few years back and after that, so I know we can get through this together. I think it is going to be rougher on her because her two best friends smoke, and a couple of her family members. I come from a family where no one smokes.
Can't think of a better incentive!
Addiction isn't something new to me. My wife stood by me a few years back and after that, so I know we can get through this together. I think it is going to be rougher on her because her two best friends smoke, and a couple of her family members. I come from a family where no one smokes.
Congratulations on deciding to get pregnant! Of course you cannot conceive while treating or for six months after because of the ribavirin. But I believe you also will have to wait a certain amount of time after conceiving before you can take the drugs, but better research this one out cause I'm not entirely sure here. Speaking of getting pregnant -- BTW nicotone withdrawal sex is pretty good if I remember correctly, and especially if two are withdrawing at the same time. Did I mention SmokeEnders was both a medical and social interaction for me :)
Bug - you're my mentor!!! Words of encouragement are welcome and appreciated! lol. The wife is pretty motivated and seems to be proud of me ... so let's say that boosted my ego a few knotches :0)... I like being on her good side. Actually started smoking after I started dating her and she's always felt a little guilty about that - she shouldn't. I was older (clearing throat) and more experienced in life afterall ;) We all make our choices. Like now, we're going to kick this. Congrats... to you - we'll do it, won't we?
jmjm530 - There is more to it then the kit, there's courses as you mentioned- I just need to look at it more. She has. She doesn't want to be left behind on this. Anyway, appreciate it. One of the reasons in waiting on treatment other than the hep dr says I shouldn't be in a hurry, we've decided to get pregnant and I've said Let's wait 'til we kick smoking. A good motivation, I'd say.
jmjm530 - There is more to it then the kit, there's courses as you mentioned- I just need to look at it more. She has. She doesn't want to be left behind on this. Anyway, appreciate it. One of the reasons in waiting on treatment other than the hep dr says I shouldn't be in a hurry, we've decided to get pregnant and I've said Let's wait 'til we kick smoking. A good motivation, I'd say.
I like your wife's motivation! Really, it was something I thought about a lot too. I can always recognize an ex-smoker by the voice, the decreased lung power, (always more difficult for smokers to build up endurance as they're battling shortness of breath)
and the tell tale wrinkles on the face, especially the mouth.
And if smoking can make the outside deterioate, imagine what the inside looks like!
Hey, I'm really beginning to sound like an ex-smoker! Nothing worse than a convert to a new philosophy. I'm starting to preach about the things I already knew when I smoked:)
Have a great week, good luck to both of you.
Bug
and the tell tale wrinkles on the face, especially the mouth.
And if smoking can make the outside deterioate, imagine what the inside looks like!
Hey, I'm really beginning to sound like an ex-smoker! Nothing worse than a convert to a new philosophy. I'm starting to preach about the things I already knew when I smoked:)
Have a great week, good luck to both of you.
Bug
Jacob: Getting the kit for the wife.
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I guess Smoke Enders has changed some from back in the day. Twenty or so years ago, it was a weekly course of around ten weeks if I remember correctly. There were about 20 in my class plus a leader. If they still offer this option, I highly recommend it for the group interraction, and that's not coming from someone very big on these group meeting things. If they don't, hopefully the kit consolidates some of the core ideas covered in the course I took.
Congratulations yourself on being clean for a week! If you can make it clean for six weeks you'll be significantly free from the physical addition (actually you'll be mostly there in another week or 2) but remember, it's the psychological addition that brings most back so don't get complacent and start patting yourself on the back. Always be vigilant and never take "just one" because that surely will bring you back 100% -- maybe not that day, but soon enough. I have a feeling you have the motivation to make it work yourself, but if not, follow your wife's example and try the "The Kit".
Brave couple, both stopping at the same time, but hopefully it means you both will be able to support and understand what the other is going through.
-- Jim
-- Jim
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I guess Smoke Enders has changed some from back in the day. Twenty or so years ago, it was a weekly course of around ten weeks if I remember correctly. There were about 20 in my class plus a leader. If they still offer this option, I highly recommend it for the group interraction, and that's not coming from someone very big on these group meeting things. If they don't, hopefully the kit consolidates some of the core ideas covered in the course I took.
Congratulations yourself on being clean for a week! If you can make it clean for six weeks you'll be significantly free from the physical addition (actually you'll be mostly there in another week or 2) but remember, it's the psychological addition that brings most back so don't get complacent and start patting yourself on the back. Always be vigilant and never take "just one" because that surely will bring you back 100% -- maybe not that day, but soon enough. I have a feeling you have the motivation to make it work yourself, but if not, follow your wife's example and try the "The Kit".
Brave couple, both stopping at the same time, but hopefully it means you both will be able to support and understand what the other is going through.
-- Jim
-- Jim
ladybug52... well over a week now and still clean! Hope you're doing well too! No, not so bad. We've always smoked on the terrace (wife's a clean freak around the house) even in the winter, so not having to deal with her secondhand smoke . She works at the hospital and always breaks with her smoking buds. This is going to be real real difficult for her to quit.
jmjm530 - Getting the kit for the wife. She's five years younger than me and the idea of putting wrinkles on her face is her biggest motivator .. lol. She sees from some of the older smoking nurses there what it does to the skin.
jmjm530 - Getting the kit for the wife. She's five years younger than me and the idea of putting wrinkles on her face is her biggest motivator .. lol. She sees from some of the older smoking nurses there what it does to the skin.
I'm so happy for you and proud of your success! I am pleased to report that I am still not smoking and think of it less each day.
It was really hard all last week, and I may have lost a few friends:), but overall, I have this pride and commitment to continue.
Just don't give in, one day at a time, you CAN do this. My "sinus" problem has disappeared and my voice already sounds better (to me, but that's all that counts!)
Good Luck!!!
Bug
It was really hard all last week, and I may have lost a few friends:), but overall, I have this pride and commitment to continue.
Just don't give in, one day at a time, you CAN do this. My "sinus" problem has disappeared and my voice already sounds better (to me, but that's all that counts!)
Good Luck!!!
Bug
jmjm530 - Thanks for the site
Fl_Gator - Thank you for sharing your grandmother's story. Another day down, and still not smoking.
Fl_Gator - Thank you for sharing your grandmother's story. Another day down, and still not smoking.
Well, I THINK that these are the true "Words of Spiritualness" that make ME better than YOU! And I'm smarter and prettier too!
Armaments, chapter two, verses nine through twenty-one.
Cleric: [reading] And Saint Attila raised the hand grenade up on high, saying, "O Lord, bless this thy hand grenade, that with it thou mayst blow thine enemies to tiny bits, in thy mercy." And the Lord did grin. And the people did feast upon the lambs and sloths, and carp and anchovies, and orangutans and breakfast cereals, and fruit-bats and large chu...
Brother Maynard: Skip a bit, Brother...
Cleric: And the Lord spake, saying, "First shalt thou take out the Holy Pin. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. Once the number three, being the third number, be reached, then lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in my sight, shall snuff it.
Brother Maynard: Amen.
All: Amen.
Armaments, chapter two, verses nine through twenty-one.
Cleric: [reading] And Saint Attila raised the hand grenade up on high, saying, "O Lord, bless this thy hand grenade, that with it thou mayst blow thine enemies to tiny bits, in thy mercy." And the Lord did grin. And the people did feast upon the lambs and sloths, and carp and anchovies, and orangutans and breakfast cereals, and fruit-bats and large chu...
Brother Maynard: Skip a bit, Brother...
Cleric: And the Lord spake, saying, "First shalt thou take out the Holy Pin. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. Once the number three, being the third number, be reached, then lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in my sight, shall snuff it.
Brother Maynard: Amen.
All: Amen.
I quit 10 years ago...when I was having trouble breathing...It took me 5 years to recover but I am much better now.
FYI...My grandmother is a long time smoker...she is 88 and has lung cancer, emphysema and macular degeneration...all of which has been linked to smoking. Two weeks ago she was hospitalized with a collapsed lung. This is no way to spend your last days...I believe that she would have lived to be 100 or more if she hadn't started smoking as there is longevity in her family...before the cancer she was very active...ran her own home drove herself everywhere...cut her own grass...funny how we don't learn from our elders how to take care of ourselves.
Please quit ASAP...not only is lung cancer a horrible death...it's torturous for your loved ones to watch as someone you love will have to take care of you at some point. My mother is caring for my grandmother right now. She puts up a good front but I can see the strain in her eyes as she watches her mother slip away no matter what she does.
FYI...My grandmother is a long time smoker...she is 88 and has lung cancer, emphysema and macular degeneration...all of which has been linked to smoking. Two weeks ago she was hospitalized with a collapsed lung. This is no way to spend your last days...I believe that she would have lived to be 100 or more if she hadn't started smoking as there is longevity in her family...before the cancer she was very active...ran her own home drove herself everywhere...cut her own grass...funny how we don't learn from our elders how to take care of ourselves.
Please quit ASAP...not only is lung cancer a horrible death...it's torturous for your loved ones to watch as someone you love will have to take care of you at some point. My mother is caring for my grandmother right now. She puts up a good front but I can see the strain in her eyes as she watches her mother slip away no matter what she does.
This is what worked for me. Cant recommend the program enough. No gimmicks. Works because it deals with why you smoke.
http://www.smokenders.com/
http://www.smokenders.com/
Thanks. I know its got to be done. Almost hesitate to say but haven't lit up since my last comment above. Don't hold me to it.. but Good Luck to you too
I love your name so much, I named a son that 23 yrs ago.
I work in health care, trying to rehab people who have had a hip fracture or stroke or pneumonia, have been hospitalized and want to regain their strength to go home.
It's easy to spot the smokers, whether they've quit or are still addicted.
They have a harder recovery, not much lung power to build endurance on, and have many more wrinkles than the non-smoker.
I bet you could care less about wrinkles, but statistically, smokers have a higher incidence of stroke, osteoporosis which causes those hip fractures, and a much harder time healing due to the decreased circulation.
Why did I ever start? I will say this--and it's really a stupid thing to say--(that's never stopped me before) the ex smokers are usually more fun! They're usually more social and more likely to laugh at their situation...
But it's not a recommendation to continue smoking! I hope you go through with it and conquer the addiction. You'll feel better about yourself, your skin and teeth will look better, and those lungs will thank you for the rest of your days!
Good luck,
Bug
I work in health care, trying to rehab people who have had a hip fracture or stroke or pneumonia, have been hospitalized and want to regain their strength to go home.
It's easy to spot the smokers, whether they've quit or are still addicted.
They have a harder recovery, not much lung power to build endurance on, and have many more wrinkles than the non-smoker.
I bet you could care less about wrinkles, but statistically, smokers have a higher incidence of stroke, osteoporosis which causes those hip fractures, and a much harder time healing due to the decreased circulation.
Why did I ever start? I will say this--and it's really a stupid thing to say--(that's never stopped me before) the ex smokers are usually more fun! They're usually more social and more likely to laugh at their situation...
But it's not a recommendation to continue smoking! I hope you go through with it and conquer the addiction. You'll feel better about yourself, your skin and teeth will look better, and those lungs will thank you for the rest of your days!
Good luck,
Bug
MsOckert, just know it can't be good for us. My wife's been wanting to quit too. It would blow your mind to know how many nurses light up. It's bad... really bad. I WANT to quit... I just hope my wife's serious, it would be hard to do on my own. Addictions *****. If I can kick it, it wouldn't be the first thing I've overcome but it might be the hardest.
LadyBug... yep, I want to. Congrats on day FIVE!
LadyBug... yep, I want to. Congrats on day FIVE!
I didn't start smoking till I was 50 yrs old. Pretty darn stupid right??
I tried several times to quit, smoke during tx even though I could hardly breathe walking from the car to the bldg I worked in.
You DO have to want to quit. I wanted to stop, but I enjoyed it too much to try very hard. I stopped for 3 weeks a few months back when I was sick with a respiratory virus. I thought I'd just have an occasional cigarette when I had my first one, but quickly got hooked again.
I thought Everett Koop said it was a pediatric disease and hard to hook folks over 21??
Well, I'm on day 5 of quitting again, and though it's hard I know what I need to do. Just don't light up, just don't think "I'll just have one" because for me it will never work that way again.
I'm so proud of myself for making it through this last week at work, even though I have no friends left, and my co-workers all hate me!
Good luck to all that want to quit!
Bug
I tried several times to quit, smoke during tx even though I could hardly breathe walking from the car to the bldg I worked in.
You DO have to want to quit. I wanted to stop, but I enjoyed it too much to try very hard. I stopped for 3 weeks a few months back when I was sick with a respiratory virus. I thought I'd just have an occasional cigarette when I had my first one, but quickly got hooked again.
I thought Everett Koop said it was a pediatric disease and hard to hook folks over 21??
Well, I'm on day 5 of quitting again, and though it's hard I know what I need to do. Just don't light up, just don't think "I'll just have one" because for me it will never work that way again.
I'm so proud of myself for making it through this last week at work, even though I have no friends left, and my co-workers all hate me!
Good luck to all that want to quit!
Bug
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