I slept with my partner for the first time yesterday. He penetrated me before I stopped him and said we should use protection. The next day he told me he has Herpes type 2 confirmed. He contracted the virus about 10 years ago, has chickenpox like outbreaks that are less frequent now and was not symptomatic at the time of intercourse. I went to the std clinic today and they gave me the impression I shouldn't worry as so many people carry the virus and don't know it unless they get symptoms, I should come back if I do only then they would test, they also said protection doesn't offer much protection against Herpes and then sent me away.
To be frank although I understand and feel sorry for the guy I am seeing as I understand so many people have it and don't know, I feel very betrayed as it should have been my choice not his to risk me being exposed if I have not been previously. Because, of this (not Herpes but because of all the issues surrounding him not telling me, trust, honesty etc) I am not sure whether I want to see him anymore.
I would really like some peace of mind and am not satisfied with what I feel was a flippant attitude on the part of the doctor I saw. If I met someone else one day (although I feel like becoming a nun right now!) and one day they became symptomatic quite possibly because of me passing this to them, that would be horrible. I would rather not have to discuss the real 'possibility' of me having Herpes 2 virus with a future partner but have some real facts to offer. I just don't know quite what to think or exactly what to do in terms of what tests and when. Please may I have the correct title of the specific type of test I must ask for in order to conclusively identify whether type 2 specific antibodies are being produced in me and if I have the specific genital herpes virus? When would be a reasonable time to expect they would be present in my system if this was the only occasion I've been exposed?