Maybe up the Valtrex to twice a day and definitely get checked of other autoimmune conditions. I don’t understand husband part. You didn’t tell him the meds don’t work or that you have hsv? Is it HSV1 or HSV2?
OK first things first. You need to find out if you have HSV one or HSV two. The IgG test for HSV one isn’t very good but the test for two is much better. I think you need to type specific IgG test. You need to find out what you’re dealing with here because both of them, while similar, Are different in how infectious they are. I would talk to your doctor about that test definitely and maybe switch to Valtrex for a time and see how that works. Also have your doctor check for everything. Have them check all your vitamin levels and your hormones. But do you see where you’re at now? You’re stressing over this. That’s making things 10 times worse. Stress lowers the immune system. And with this you’re more susceptible to outbreaks. Get in the doctor and get your testing done. Try a new anti-viral. And no matter how tough it is, the stress and heavy burden your currently dealing with by yourself is unfair. It’s unfair to your husband and it’s unfair to you. Of course, I’m not going to say that oh it’s OK you didn’t say anything. You know that it’s not. But the longer you keep this, the more deceitful it becomes. Imagine the shoe on the other foot. What if he did get infected? Even with condone and antivirals, there is that chance. He married you because he loves you right? And you love him right? You have to tell the truth. This is a huge secret and there might be some hurt in there on his part. I understand that and I’m sure you do too. But you need to be strong, admit where you failed and tell the truth. You’re not giving him a choice in this matter. I have a feeling getting this out of your system, will do a ton for your stress levels and a ton for your outbreaks. And the honesty will benefit you both.