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Freaking out - herpes risk from fingering

On June 1 my bf fingered me and we made out (I have never had oral, anal, or sexual intercourse in my life) about 2 weeks after I developed a uti (streb b infection) my bf says that he is clean, is there any way that i would have gotten genital herpes through fingering

This is his point of view of everything that happened on June 1st

"Okay showed up showered both of us then cuddled watched movies and I fell sleep you went talked to your roommates then woke me up we went ate came back showered again got in bed cuddled I think both of us went to the restroom at least once or twice while we was watching movies we cut the movies off then we was just laid up talked a bit I wanted to kiss you didn’t so we was just cuddling then I was rubbing your back and legs and I put your legs around me and was just holding you and rubbing your back trynna go to sleep and then you told me you wanted to kiss , we started kissing n I was rubbing your butt then I started fingering you from outside your underwear until you was satisfied and we both went to the restroom then cuddled and went sleep got up showered and left "

Please tell me if there is a risk of genital herpes or how could genital herpes be transmitted in this scenario?
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There is no way that you could have gotten genital herpes from anything you describe.

Genital herpes is only transmitted in two ways:  via oral sex, in which the person getting oral sex could get genital hsv1 if the person giving oral sex has oral hsv1, or via genital to genital contact (either vagina to penis, vagina to vagina, penis to penis, or penis to anus). That would require one person to have hsv2, and then the other person would get hsv2. It doesn't require penetration, but can transmit if there is rubbing, grinding, etc., without clothing.

Group B strep can be something found normally in your body, but it can sometimes overgrow and cause symptoms. It's really only concerning if you are pregnant or have other serious health concerns - otherwise, they just treat it with antibiotics if you have symptoms, like your UTI.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/group-b-strep/symptoms-causes/syc-20351729

You have nothing to worry about here. :)

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He was stimulating my clitoris under my underwear as well, would there be a chance if he had herpetic whitlow on his finger ?
Also, I heard something about group b strep being related to HIV ?, I’ve never had sex in my life anal or oral, and he’s the ONLY guy I’ve ever let finger me in my life
If he had whitlow, you'd see it. It's big and very painful for him. He wouldn't be fingering you with that finger.

Group B strep can cause problems in those with HIV, and in those who are undergoing chemo, or are otherwise experiencing immune system issues, as can many other things.

However, it can happen in those who are otherwise healthy.

Why are you so worried? Has your boyfriend had other partners? Have you asked him to test? If he tests, that could put all this to rest for you, but there is no risk for STDs from fingering.
My IGG TEST For HSV 1/2 came back negative today

HSV1: <.90

HSV2: <.90

This is currently at 7 weeks, is there a possibility of this changing on September 1 at 12 weeks ?
Also any risk for HIV from what I described?
No risk for HIV or herpes. Your herpes test will not change because you had no risk.

Have you asked your bf to test? Do you know if he has anything? If he doesn't have anything, you can't get anything.

HIV is only transmitted by having unprotected vaginal or anal sex, sharing needles for drug use, or mother to child. You have done none of those things.

No STD is transmitted by fingering.

Really - just ask him to test. If he won't, he's not the guy for you.



He tested negative for his IGG results as well.  The HIV 4 Th generation test was also negative 2 days ago, I’m just paranoid about catching something through kissing or maybe one of the bloodwork labs I went to ? Ok it sounds very trivial but it’s very real for me.. I’m also seeing a psychiatrist today
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He tested negative for his IGG results as well.  The HIV 4 Th generation test was also negative 2 days ago, I’m just paranoid about catching something through kissing or maybe one of the bloodwork labs I went to ? Ok it sounds very trivial but it’s very real for me.. I’m also seeing a psychiatrist today
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When was the last time he was with anyone else? His IgG will be conclusive at 4 months after he was with someone else. His HIV 4th gen test is conclusive at 28 days.

So listen, it sounds like you have a phobia about STDs. I'm not sure if it's just herpes and HIV, because those aren't curable, or other germs, but if he doesn't have them, you can't get them. Kissing never transmits HIV.

Also, at labs now, they use needles that you can't reuse. It's not possible to get HIV from blood draws now. I know it doesn't feel like it to you, but it's the truth.

I'm so happy that you are seeing a psychiatrist. I sincerely hope it helps. You should be able to enjoy intimacy with your bf without fearing it every time. <3
The last time he was with someone else was like 2 years ago and he said he took std test and all was clear including herpes, my concern is if I test at 9 week and then twelve weeks again do you think my IGG results will go up ?
Like what percentage am I currently at ? If you could give a estimate?
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The last time he was with someone else was like 2 years ago and he said he took std test and all was clear including herpes, my concern is if I test at 9 week and then twelve weeks again do you think my IGG results will go up ?
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If he doesn't have herpes, he can't give you herpes. This means that no matter what you do with him sexually, you have no risk of getting herpes. You don't need to test again at 9 weeks or 12 weeks - you can't get herpes from someone who doesn't have it.

If you decide to test again at 9 weeks and 12 weeks - which is unnecessary and a waste of your time and money - it will be negative. You didn't do anything sexually that would put you at risk, and he doesn't have herpes. You can't get herpes from what you did, from someone who doesn't have it.

<.90 is negative. It won't go higher. I hope you decide not to test again, and to stick with your psychiatrist.

(I don't mean to sound harsh, I just want to be really clear since I know your anxiety is really high.)
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