All individuals are different, so we can only give you averages for a population of people in your situation.
Women on antivirals spread HSV2 to a male on average 2% in a year. For say 100 episodes in a year, this means a single encounter is 1 in 5,000 chance.
Type is very important tto the equation. If she has HSV1 genital, the odds are much lower.
Thanks very much for your response. It is HSV2 genital. is the 1 in 5000 taking into account the variable of unprotected sex? I've been sexually active for twenty years, and doing so much research today surprised me to know considering the number of partners I've had its a pretty good guess I've unknowingly slept with one or more females with Hsv2.
I can't stress enough the importance of talking to your doctor. I think it's awesome you were willing to pursue this girl and even better she told you before hand. With that being said even without symptoms it can still be spread and many people don't have symptoms or know they are carrying the virus. And there is no way to track when a carrier is "shedding" the virus. Do you intend on making her a lifetime partner? If your unsure , I would use condoms and seek clarification from a medical professional. Take it from someone who has been there. Best of luck in your relationship.
Thanks for your response. I had posted a follow up question regarding whether or not the 1 in 5000 takes into account the variable of protected versus unprotected sex.
I haven't had any symptoms, except this morning I noticed a small mouth sore on my inner cheek. I normally wouldn't think anything of it except for my recent possible exposure. However, she has HSV2 genital and researching this morning it seems like this sore is likely unrelated as we didn't engage in oral sex. Would you agree or is this is a symptom that is cause for concern?
Thanks for your response. And no, we're not at a stage to have the lifetime partner conversation. I'm going to start using protection if we continue to see each other.
Yes the 1 in 5000 is for unprotected sex, it is less if protected.
Your mouth sore has nothing to do with herpes let alone HSV2.
Your information is very useful. Thanks.