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Genital hsv 1. What am I dealing with?
Hi All,
So my girlfriend just told me she has genital hsv 1. What am I dealing with here? Should I be concerned?
She referred me to this site if I had any questions and I have been reading up on some information and from the looks of it I shouldnt be concerned as it rarely sheds. How accurate it this?
I am a little concerned because the forums also state that there is a risk but its highly unlikely to spread from genital to genital but what about oral? Am I at risk for catching it orally?
I have been tested previously and am negative for both types of hsv. I always make sure I am tested for everything. I really love this girl and have know her since freshman year in college she is 23 and I am 26. I care about her so much but I'm not sure i want to contract this although she definitely defines and has everytihng I want in a woman. Can someone tell me what genital hsv 1 is and what it does to the body? Am I safe to have unprotected sex with her? We have always used condoms but after shes told me I've been a little less spontaneous in fear that I might contract her hsv 1.
I really dont want her to feel like Im pushing her away but its hard not to feel scared about this.
Is it really just a skin condition?
How come I have not acquired this yet? I have dated a handful of women and none have told me about any type of hsv 1. My gf said everyone has it in the form of cold sores on their mouths but to my knowledge I have not seen anyone with cold sores.
Can someone shed some light as I am very concerned and do not want to leave her without knowing the facts or what I will be dealing with.
So my girlfriend just told me she has genital hsv 1. What am I dealing with here? Should I be concerned?
She referred me to this site if I had any questions and I have been reading up on some information and from the looks of it I shouldnt be concerned as it rarely sheds. How accurate it this?
I am a little concerned because the forums also state that there is a risk but its highly unlikely to spread from genital to genital but what about oral? Am I at risk for catching it orally?
I have been tested previously and am negative for both types of hsv. I always make sure I am tested for everything. I really love this girl and have know her since freshman year in college she is 23 and I am 26. I care about her so much but I'm not sure i want to contract this although she definitely defines and has everytihng I want in a woman. Can someone tell me what genital hsv 1 is and what it does to the body? Am I safe to have unprotected sex with her? We have always used condoms but after shes told me I've been a little less spontaneous in fear that I might contract her hsv 1.
I really dont want her to feel like Im pushing her away but its hard not to feel scared about this.
Is it really just a skin condition?
How come I have not acquired this yet? I have dated a handful of women and none have told me about any type of hsv 1. My gf said everyone has it in the form of cold sores on their mouths but to my knowledge I have not seen anyone with cold sores.
Can someone shed some light as I am very concerned and do not want to leave her without knowing the facts or what I will be dealing with.
I was just diagnosed with HSV 1 about 2 and a half months ago, and like some of the other commenters, it was a terrifying and devstating blow. I'm 29 and single, and caught it from my ex-partner who was having a genital outbreak but didn't realize that the little red mark on his penis was an oubreak. Once I saw it I freaked out about it, and he tried to convince me that I was being a hypochondriac and that it was nothing.
Low and behold, not too long after I had my first outbreak and the tests confirmed it was HSV 1. I've since started dating a new person and my anxiety around disclosing this to him is high. I know that I will not be sexually active with him until I tell him, but trying to find out the right time and way is scary. That said, I've done a lot of research on this, and some of the most helpful information has come from forums like this where people have shared thier lived experience. Like someone else has already mentioned, this isn't something to hang a relationship on. And the reality is that if any future partner doesn't want to be with me because of this, then odds are that the relationship wouldn't have worked out for other reasons down the road anyway.
Concerned, I hope that you didn't end your relatonship with your gf due to her hsv status...and that you and she were able to work through it. Thank you to grace and petal for the support that you offer others living with this.
Isn't it funny that if we just had cold sores, rather than genital hsv we probably wouldn't feel obligated to tell people, or afriad of thier response. Moreover, if people did find out they probably wouldn't even care, despite the fact that it's actually more contagious and more prevalent (and affects your life more, since kissing is so nice to do). It's only through educating each other and choosing to fight against the stigma that this issue can become more normalized, and people don't need hide it or feel shame due to it.
Low and behold, not too long after I had my first outbreak and the tests confirmed it was HSV 1. I've since started dating a new person and my anxiety around disclosing this to him is high. I know that I will not be sexually active with him until I tell him, but trying to find out the right time and way is scary. That said, I've done a lot of research on this, and some of the most helpful information has come from forums like this where people have shared thier lived experience. Like someone else has already mentioned, this isn't something to hang a relationship on. And the reality is that if any future partner doesn't want to be with me because of this, then odds are that the relationship wouldn't have worked out for other reasons down the road anyway.
Concerned, I hope that you didn't end your relatonship with your gf due to her hsv status...and that you and she were able to work through it. Thank you to grace and petal for the support that you offer others living with this.
Isn't it funny that if we just had cold sores, rather than genital hsv we probably wouldn't feel obligated to tell people, or afriad of thier response. Moreover, if people did find out they probably wouldn't even care, despite the fact that it's actually more contagious and more prevalent (and affects your life more, since kissing is so nice to do). It's only through educating each other and choosing to fight against the stigma that this issue can become more normalized, and people don't need hide it or feel shame due to it.
I was just diagnosed with HSV 1 about 2 and a half months ago, and like some of the other commenters, it was a terrifying and devstating blow. I'm 29 and single, and caught it from my ex-partner who was having a genital outbreak but didn't realize that the little red mark on his penis was an oubreak. Once I saw it I freaked out about it, and he tried to convince me that I was being a hypochondriac and that it was nothing.
Low and behold, not too long after I had my first outbreak and the tests confirmed it was HSV 1. I've since started dating a new person and my anxiety around disclosing this to him is high. I know that I will not be sexually active with him until I tell him, but trying to find out the right time and way is scary. That said, I've done a lot of research on this, and some of the most helpful information has come from forums like this where people have shared thier lived experience. Like someone else has already mentioned, this isn't something to hang a relationship on. And the reality is that if any future partner doesn't want to be with me because of this, then odds are that the relationship wouldn't have worked out for other reasons down the road anyway.
Concerned, I hope that you didn't end your relatonship with your gf due to her hsv status...and that you and she were able to work through it. Thank you to grace and petal for the support that you offer others living with this.
Isn't it funny that if we just had cold sores, rather than genital hsv we probably wouldn't feel obligated to tell people, or afriad of thier response. Moreover, if people did find out they probably wouldn't even care, despite the fact that it's actually more contagious and more prevalent (and affects your life more, since kissing is so nice to do). It's only through educating each other and choosing to fight against the stigma that this issue can become more normalized, and people don't need hide it or feel shame due to it.
Low and behold, not too long after I had my first outbreak and the tests confirmed it was HSV 1. I've since started dating a new person and my anxiety around disclosing this to him is high. I know that I will not be sexually active with him until I tell him, but trying to find out the right time and way is scary. That said, I've done a lot of research on this, and some of the most helpful information has come from forums like this where people have shared thier lived experience. Like someone else has already mentioned, this isn't something to hang a relationship on. And the reality is that if any future partner doesn't want to be with me because of this, then odds are that the relationship wouldn't have worked out for other reasons down the road anyway.
Concerned, I hope that you didn't end your relatonship with your gf due to her hsv status...and that you and she were able to work through it. Thank you to grace and petal for the support that you offer others living with this.
Isn't it funny that if we just had cold sores, rather than genital hsv we probably wouldn't feel obligated to tell people, or afriad of thier response. Moreover, if people did find out they probably wouldn't even care, despite the fact that it's actually more contagious and more prevalent (and affects your life more, since kissing is so nice to do). It's only through educating each other and choosing to fight against the stigma that this issue can become more normalized, and people don't need hide it or feel shame due to it.
Just read through all your questions and may have some insight. I think you should stay with her, in all honesty the chances of you contracting hsv1 from her ate very low. It's actually safer being with someone who is aware they have this disease as there are so many people out there who have it and dont know, therefore making them less cautious about passing it on. If you think you will marry and have kids with this girl then it woukdnt really matter if you contracted it eventually anyway. Most people with hsv1 only have one outbreak and its very minor. It really is just a skin irritation and in most cases would not be unbearably painful. Hope this helps.
I'm reading this as a recently single 24 year old mother who has just acquired HSV 1 genitally from a one night stand (I found out when I spoke to him about it that he suffers from cold sores. great!). Had an awful outbreak but thankfully it was only very bad for a few days and took 2-3 weeks to clear up. I hope I never get an outbreak again but at least I know that if I do, it will never be as bad as the first one.
I was an emotional wreck as well, initially, but after doing a lot of research, realised that it is nothing to worry about. It is basically only a coldsore in an awkward place! The only thing that concerns me is the lack of knowledge that people have about this trivial skin issue and how it will affect me being single. I will not hide this from anyone I wish to have sex with but I know that I am going to find a lot of people who wish to run a mile because of it. Those people will be the ones not worth bothering with, but it's still a horrible notion having to do "the talk" :(
I just wanted to say thank you though to all of you who have been posting on this thread! If I manage to find someone who is still interested, regardless of my HSV 1, but wants to have more reassurance, I can refer them to this! I hope that you, concernedbf123, are no longer concerned because I can empathise with your girlfriend and it is obvious that she needs you. I wouldn't worry about therapy, I would just focus on doing normal couple things and like has already been said, forgetting this whole herpes thing, coz lets face it, even if you did get it, there is a 90% chance you won't have any symptoms anyway and even if you did, it's not that bad really. Asthma and hayfever symptoms are worse! This is all very new to both you and your girlfriend and in time, it won't bother either of you anymore.
I was an emotional wreck as well, initially, but after doing a lot of research, realised that it is nothing to worry about. It is basically only a coldsore in an awkward place! The only thing that concerns me is the lack of knowledge that people have about this trivial skin issue and how it will affect me being single. I will not hide this from anyone I wish to have sex with but I know that I am going to find a lot of people who wish to run a mile because of it. Those people will be the ones not worth bothering with, but it's still a horrible notion having to do "the talk" :(
I just wanted to say thank you though to all of you who have been posting on this thread! If I manage to find someone who is still interested, regardless of my HSV 1, but wants to have more reassurance, I can refer them to this! I hope that you, concernedbf123, are no longer concerned because I can empathise with your girlfriend and it is obvious that she needs you. I wouldn't worry about therapy, I would just focus on doing normal couple things and like has already been said, forgetting this whole herpes thing, coz lets face it, even if you did get it, there is a 90% chance you won't have any symptoms anyway and even if you did, it's not that bad really. Asthma and hayfever symptoms are worse! This is all very new to both you and your girlfriend and in time, it won't bother either of you anymore.
Yes, it is grace and its rubbing on to me! Shes going for blood work tomorrow, I told her it wasnt necessary but she said it will make her feel better if she does it.
Her ex started calling her apologizing. He was in denial and blamed her and now realizes it came from her.
Her ex started calling her apologizing. He was in denial and blamed her and now realizes it came from her.
her anxiety is making her think this way. I hope she finds a decent therapist soon :)
no real reason to think she has hiv either.
no real reason to think she has hiv either.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
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