My wife and I both have been diagnosed with genital HSV-2. My wife also has rheumatoid arthritis and is on Xeljanz to treat her R.A. that suppresses her immune system. I was operating under the understanding that since both of us already have HSV-2 that when we have sex after an outbreak was mostly a question of comfort and not transmission.
I just had an outbreak and had got to the point where the skin is still raised and a little rough but the scabs were no longer present. I figured we were in the clear. My wife started to perform oral sex on me and noticed the roughness of the skin and became concerned that she could contract HSV-2 orally, especially given her medical situation.
Here are my questions:
1. How worried should we be about her exposure?
2. How likely is the transmission of HSV-2 from me to her if she performs oral sex on me? How does the fact the we both have HSV-2 effect this likelihood?
3. How long after an outbreak should I wait before we have sex given our situation?
4. Was I wrong to think that we didn't need to worry about re-infection and just about comfort? I'm worried that I was.
Any help the community could offer would be appreciated. I would especially like to hear from gracefromHHP or another moderator if possible.