HSV2+ male condom failure

[redrobin1]

I am HSV2 positive the girl is negative...

I'm not on medication

The condom broke during sex, I had on all my clothes

I pulled out immediately, less than a slit second

What is the chances of me infecting her from this encounter

[auntiejessi]

How were you diagnosed with herpes?

How long do these itchy feelings last? If they are just random itchy feelings, it's not likely to be herpes.

Please note that you are not a walking infectious agent. You are only infectious from your genital area (penis, testicles, anal area, etc.) The rest of your body can touch her body and not transmit herpes to her. You really need to read the herpes handbook - https://westoverheights.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Updated-Herpes-Book.pdf It's free, and loaded with great info.

[redrobin1]

3 years ago the doctor took a swab and performed a culture test..... He told me I test positive.... I don't know which type I have but its in my genitals, legs and anus and outbreaks are too frequent to be HSV1, so I'm guessing its HSV2.......
Anyway this isn't about me the guilt is too much to bare I hope I didn't infect her I truly hope she's alright..... What's the odds of infection from this brief exposure

[auntiejessi]

It's very, very low - low enough that you shouldn't concern yourself with it.

If you are getting frequent outbreaks, have you considered suppressive medication? If you take valtrex or acyclovir daily, it can really reduce the frequency of your outbreaks. It can also reduce transmission rates. Check the handbook I linked above for more on that, like the doses, etc. Depending on where you are and what your healthcare is like, you may choose Valtrex for convenience (once a day) or acyclovir for price (way cheaper but twice a day).

Yes, it's about your partner, but it's also about you, too, and making sure you know you aren't a walking infection, and that you know there are things out there that can help.

[redrobin1]

17 days no Outbreak should I let this go I'm totally stressed

[auntiejessi]

Oh my gosh, yes. I told you over a week ago that this isn't something you need to worry about. I still mean that.

[redrobin1]

OK thanks Miss I'll go live my life lonely.... But I'm finally at peace thank you

[auntiejessi]

The chances from a one-time encounter are slim, and given that the condom was off so briefly, it's not likely at all, assuming you had no herpes symptoms at the time.

Having your clothes on makes no difference, really, except maybe underwear. I'm not sure if that's something you do for protection, or that's just how things played out, but if it's something you do for protection, please know that you aren't infectious from your entire body. You are only infectious from your genital area (including the anal area).

Does she know you have herpes? Have you discussed the different options for reducing transmission (meds, condoms, or both)? If you haven't, and this is a regular partner, you should.

[redrobin1]

To be honest I was feeling stressed during the encounter

I can't tell if I had outbreaks.

I don't get sores or rash on my penile head only weird feelings in my balls, anus, legs sometimes penis shaft (feeling to scratch)

I never inserted my whole penis (not pass condom line) nor did I allowed any part of my body to touch her only hands.