Herpes antibodies

[thenandnow]

How long do the herpes antibodies stay in the body?

[DarkDay]

I totally understand everything that you are going through as well.  I was with my bf for 5 years and about a year ago  I ended up going into the er my symptoms were so bad, i never thought that i had an std.  he was the only one i was ever with, and it was so hard for me to deal with. I assumed he cheated of course, but then i found out that you could have it for years but never develop symptoms.  I felt the same way tha tyou are feeling now, as does everyone esle who has gone through it.  But as time goes by it does get easier. I found this website to be one of the best things for me.  There are so many great people on here that are so knowledgable and also helpful. It helped me so much to get on here and talk to people who have gone thru the same thing that i was going through.  just know that you are not alone!

[timeout96]

Unfortunetly you will always have the antibodies in your system because the virus stays in your body as long as you live. I know how you feel. When I first learned that I had H I was devastated. I cried for a whole month and sometimes still get depressed over it. I suppose what you feel is completely natural, but understand sweetheart there are hundreds of people living with H who feel the same way you do or has felt the same way. Talk it out, don't keep anything bottled up inside.

It's going to take some time to heal this wound but just know that with each passing day you are not alone. There are outlets you can go to to speak with someone about your feelings, share your story, and vent as much as you need to.

I felt ugly too, I felt dirty and diseased and thought I would never find that special someone to share my life with because who would want to date a woman with herpes? If it will make you feel better listen to my story.

When I first learned that I had H back in July I was shocked because I've never experienced or noticed any serious symptoms. When I told my partner, who I had strong reason to believe he was the one who gave it to me, he immediately refused to listen. He told me I was crazy and that I must have gotten it from someone else. I have tried to explain the situation to him but to this day he won't talk to me. He won't even get tested.

It has been very hard to cope with this ordeal. I still get so angry at times because all I really wanted from him was an apology and a chance to make things better between us.  But every dark cloud has its silver lining. Just recently I met someone. We connected instantly, but I knew I would eventually have to tell him about my condition. So I didn't hesitate to tell him that same night we met. I figured I might as well get the rejection over with, but to my surprise he asked me out on a date. He took me out for my birthday and we are still currently seeing each other.

So you see. There are people, good people, out there who still care, who listen with open minds and hearts, and will help the time you need to heal pass with ease. You are not ugly sweetheart, you're just hurting.

[herpessucks]

I know what you're saying, I felt angry and ugly as well. If you would like to talk about herpes it may help you feel better. I can tell you something I have done to get back to "my old self" and maybe some of these thigs could help you to. You are not alone, many people have herpes.

[thenandnow]

I am grieving over having herpes. Just heartbroken and have been since August.  Does it get any better?  I feel ugly and angry. How can this happen to someone in a monogamous marriage of 31 yrs? Sorry about the venting. I'm trying to find some chat areas to go to talk to others like me.  I question my marriage everyday, and pray and pray for it to ease up. I'm going back to my gyn next Tuesday and hope he will come up with something to help.  Four months of pain and anguish.