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Herpes or warts from a handjob from a stripper?
9 days ago, during a lap dance at a normally very strict strip club, the dancer took my penis out, rubbed it with her crotch and buttocks (she was wearing underwear, skimpy underwear, but not totally naked), and jacked me off to ejaculation.
She touched her clit, as did I, I assume with the same hand she jacked me off with, I figure nothing would survive once it hit air, I'm more concerned about my penis touching her semi-clothed vaginal area.
Today I noticed my inner foreskin was red and irritated. However it's insanely hot, and I was sweating most yesterday at work before I came home to shower. I assume its heat related irritation. I've also been checking my glans multiple times a day, which may have exhausted my foreskin as it's been feeling a little tender.
Normally I wouldn't even consider this an issue, I guess I'm just a little worried since I contracted HSV1 last year, and want to make sure I don't unknowingly spread it to anyone else, since the person who gave it to me wasn't so kind.
Not that it matters, but I also don't normally participate in such behaviors. I was pretty stunned that it happened at all to be honest.
She touched her clit, as did I, I assume with the same hand she jacked me off with, I figure nothing would survive once it hit air, I'm more concerned about my penis touching her semi-clothed vaginal area.
Today I noticed my inner foreskin was red and irritated. However it's insanely hot, and I was sweating most yesterday at work before I came home to shower. I assume its heat related irritation. I've also been checking my glans multiple times a day, which may have exhausted my foreskin as it's been feeling a little tender.
Normally I wouldn't even consider this an issue, I guess I'm just a little worried since I contracted HSV1 last year, and want to make sure I don't unknowingly spread it to anyone else, since the person who gave it to me wasn't so kind.
Not that it matters, but I also don't normally participate in such behaviors. I was pretty stunned that it happened at all to be honest.
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You had no risk from this. Hands don't spread STDs. I'm including some links at the bottom.
STDs also don't go through clothing. Even if the underwear was tiny, it still protects you.
How did you contract HSV1? I ask because there is a really good chance that the person who had it didn't even know. About half of the adult population has it, and 90% of them never get symptoms, so they don't know they have it. I mean, maybe they knew and didn't care - obviously I don't know, but maybe they didn't. I'm only explaining it for your benefit, in case there is a chance you can let go of some anger.
STDs also don't go through clothing. Even if the underwear was tiny, it still protects you.
How did you contract HSV1? I ask because there is a really good chance that the person who had it didn't even know. About half of the adult population has it, and 90% of them never get symptoms, so they don't know they have it. I mean, maybe they knew and didn't care - obviously I don't know, but maybe they didn't. I'm only explaining it for your benefit, in case there is a chance you can let go of some anger.
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Oops I forgot the links -
Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
Good to know, thanks for the links.
In regards to the HSV1, it was from a girl I met on Tinder we spent most of a weekend together, it wasn't until the last day that she told me she had an active cold sore. I hadn't noticed visually, but she had been doing things like biting my lip when kissing etc.
She was ignorant to the fact that cold sores are herpes, and i began getting the first legion while she was still at my place, got fairly ill and had several sores the next 14 days after that.
While part of it is on me for not noticing, I found it very irresponsible for her to carry on with a contagious sore, I never having had contracted it before, now I have it forever.
I voluntarily took myself out of the dating pool for about a year since.
In regards to the HSV1, it was from a girl I met on Tinder we spent most of a weekend together, it wasn't until the last day that she told me she had an active cold sore. I hadn't noticed visually, but she had been doing things like biting my lip when kissing etc.
She was ignorant to the fact that cold sores are herpes, and i began getting the first legion while she was still at my place, got fairly ill and had several sores the next 14 days after that.
While part of it is on me for not noticing, I found it very irresponsible for her to carry on with a contagious sore, I never having had contracted it before, now I have it forever.
I voluntarily took myself out of the dating pool for about a year since.
I'm sorry that you got hsv1, but I think you're isolating yourself unnecessarily.
About half the adult population has hsv1, and once you have it, you can't get it again. If someone you date has it, you don't have to worry about it at all.
Did you get oral sores or genital sores? If you have it genitally, it's genital hsv1 and it rarely recurs - many people only get the one initial outbreak - and it rarely sheds. This means you'd be unlikely to transmit it to anyone.
If it's oral only, the only concerns you have are for kissing and performing oral sex, and again, half your dating pool already has it. You should just talk about it, like you do other STDs.
About half the adult population has hsv1, and once you have it, you can't get it again. If someone you date has it, you don't have to worry about it at all.
Did you get oral sores or genital sores? If you have it genitally, it's genital hsv1 and it rarely recurs - many people only get the one initial outbreak - and it rarely sheds. This means you'd be unlikely to transmit it to anyone.
If it's oral only, the only concerns you have are for kissing and performing oral sex, and again, half your dating pool already has it. You should just talk about it, like you do other STDs.
Oh and I should add that 90% of those with oral hsv1 will never get a cold sore and the only way they'll know is by testing with a type specific IgG herpes blood test.
I got it orally, my main bedroom trick is performing oral on woman so know i have to file a disclaimer every time I do it. I've had several bad outbreaks in the yer that I caught it, but I also had an extremely stressful year at work which may have had a lot to do with it. It's not the end of the world, and I don't judge people who have it, unless they have an active sore, don't tell you, sleep with you several times, then fess up to it while you're literally coming down with it. Then I have a small problem.
Pardon the many, many typos, I'm not wearing my glasses, I just got off the treadmill haha
Haha I feel you on the glasses.
Ask your doctor about suppressive therapy. Valtrex and acyclovir work really well to help keep you from having so many outbreaks. Valtrex is more expensive, but usually once a day. Acyclovir is cheaper, but twice a day. For many people, the choice comes down to cost over convenience. Neither is right or wrong - just what works for you.
If your doctor won't do it - and some don't, for some strange reasons, there is a site called https://www.getroman.com/ where you can get valtrex. You have to self-pay, but it's only $14 a month for generic valtrex.
It also helps reduce shedding, but that hasn't been studied in hsv1, so we don't know how much it reduces it.
Ask your doctor about suppressive therapy. Valtrex and acyclovir work really well to help keep you from having so many outbreaks. Valtrex is more expensive, but usually once a day. Acyclovir is cheaper, but twice a day. For many people, the choice comes down to cost over convenience. Neither is right or wrong - just what works for you.
If your doctor won't do it - and some don't, for some strange reasons, there is a site called https://www.getroman.com/ where you can get valtrex. You have to self-pay, but it's only $14 a month for generic valtrex.
It also helps reduce shedding, but that hasn't been studied in hsv1, so we don't know how much it reduces it.
I have a prescription for valtrex, but i only take it during an outbreak or if I feel the 'tingle' (more like a fat lip, but whatever). I can't imagine taking it everyday, usually makes me feel mildly sick after about a week, but then again, that could just be the outbreak!
Thanks for your time auntiejessi I appreciate it! My foreskin is still irritated, but the heatwave keeps trucking on so I'm trying not to worry about it, especially since you said STD's can't transfer through underwear.
Thanks for your time auntiejessi I appreciate it! My foreskin is still irritated, but the heatwave keeps trucking on so I'm trying not to worry about it, especially since you said STD's can't transfer through underwear.
Yeah, that could be the outbreak. If you take it daily, the dose is lower - usually 500 mg, or 1000 mg if you don't respond to 500 mg.
What dose are you taking for treatment? The recommended dosage of Valtrex for treatment of cold sores is 2 grams twice daily for 1 day taken 12 hours apart. You should take it at the earliest symptom of a cold sore (tingling, itching, or burning).
I don't know where you live, but the heatwaves everywhere are brutal. Make sure you are keeping things dry and clean, and shower after working out, etc.
STDs really can't go through clothing, I promise.
What dose are you taking for treatment? The recommended dosage of Valtrex for treatment of cold sores is 2 grams twice daily for 1 day taken 12 hours apart. You should take it at the earliest symptom of a cold sore (tingling, itching, or burning).
I don't know where you live, but the heatwaves everywhere are brutal. Make sure you are keeping things dry and clean, and shower after working out, etc.
STDs really can't go through clothing, I promise.
I just looked at my valtrex bottle, 500mg. My first outbreak I had several sores all across my lower lip and inside my mouth (I must have gotten an incredible dose of the virus) so my doc had me take 8 the first day, 1 everyday for the 30 days after, last April.
Now I take 4 on the first day of the outbreak (or first notice of the 'tingle'), 1 everyday after. I also took some this year when I had dental work as a prophylactic measure.
I live in Los Angeles, I think the mix of peeling back my foreskin to look for sores that aren't coming several times a day and the surprisingly humid heat led to irritation.
It happened last year too when it got super hot in July.
I have been trying my best to keep it dry and clean, even so it's actually worse today, the redness that was on the inner foreskin is now on my penis head, I fully expect this to be a form of ph imbalance/irritation, albeit an unsightly one.
Today I took a cold shower right after working out instead of waiting to cool down, unlike the past few days where I cooled down for about an hour in my own sweat. I also was at the movies last night, it was surprisingly hot, sweating the whole 3 hour run time.
Hard to tell anyone about this because very few people in the states have their foreskins still, I don't want to go to a doctor for them to freak out and culture me.
The reason I'm worried is I met someone. While it's too early to tell if it'll be romantic or even sexual, I feel all funky and in disrepair. Mix in the guilt about receiving a handjob from a stripper (I'm playing worst case scenario, I hold no actual assumption that she has anything just because she's a stripper) , and I feel out of sorts/unworthy of real affection.
Thank you for listening and putting me at ease.
Now I take 4 on the first day of the outbreak (or first notice of the 'tingle'), 1 everyday after. I also took some this year when I had dental work as a prophylactic measure.
I live in Los Angeles, I think the mix of peeling back my foreskin to look for sores that aren't coming several times a day and the surprisingly humid heat led to irritation.
It happened last year too when it got super hot in July.
I have been trying my best to keep it dry and clean, even so it's actually worse today, the redness that was on the inner foreskin is now on my penis head, I fully expect this to be a form of ph imbalance/irritation, albeit an unsightly one.
Today I took a cold shower right after working out instead of waiting to cool down, unlike the past few days where I cooled down for about an hour in my own sweat. I also was at the movies last night, it was surprisingly hot, sweating the whole 3 hour run time.
Hard to tell anyone about this because very few people in the states have their foreskins still, I don't want to go to a doctor for them to freak out and culture me.
The reason I'm worried is I met someone. While it's too early to tell if it'll be romantic or even sexual, I feel all funky and in disrepair. Mix in the guilt about receiving a handjob from a stripper (I'm playing worst case scenario, I hold no actual assumption that she has anything just because she's a stripper) , and I feel out of sorts/unworthy of real affection.
Thank you for listening and putting me at ease.
Your first outbreak - called the primary if you have neither hsv1 or hsv2 - is always the worst. You don't have antibodies yet to help control it. You may have had something called gingivostomatitis, which is when the sores are in other parts of the mouth.
No wonder you were sick - that's herculean doses of Valtrex.
Dude, don't ever be ashamed to go to the doctor. Especially in a larger city, with different cultures, you'd be surprised at how many men have foreskins. Also, your doctor has seen WAY freaky things. Your foreskin isn't freaky, trust me. I've been working in the STD field for a long time, in one form or another. Foreskins are not anywhere near the freaky list. Get yourself to a doctor, even an urgent care. You're in LA - there must be a walk-in clinic you can go to.
While you are worried about what you will be telling your new friend, keep in mind that they will have things to tell you, too. It could be massive debt, a criminal record, still living with parents, having kids, a bad driving record, or who knows what. They may have an STI they are worried about telling you.
I have hsv2. I've had it for 15+ years. In all my years having it, I've never had anyone turn me down, and trust me - I'm no super model. I've had 2 guys tell me they also had it. It doesn't work as a deterrent, either, like "Oh no, you don't want me, I have herpes" when I'm trying to get a guy away from me.
There is no risk from the handjob. None at all, no worst-case-scenario here. I mean, I don't know that I'd share that with your new friend, as going to strippers and getting handjobs from them is not her business and a lot to take in early in a relationship. You have nothing to be guilty about, but if you wouldn't share that you got a handjob from someone other than a stripper, don't share this.
And that's the end of dating advice you didn't ask for. :)
No wonder you were sick - that's herculean doses of Valtrex.
Dude, don't ever be ashamed to go to the doctor. Especially in a larger city, with different cultures, you'd be surprised at how many men have foreskins. Also, your doctor has seen WAY freaky things. Your foreskin isn't freaky, trust me. I've been working in the STD field for a long time, in one form or another. Foreskins are not anywhere near the freaky list. Get yourself to a doctor, even an urgent care. You're in LA - there must be a walk-in clinic you can go to.
While you are worried about what you will be telling your new friend, keep in mind that they will have things to tell you, too. It could be massive debt, a criminal record, still living with parents, having kids, a bad driving record, or who knows what. They may have an STI they are worried about telling you.
I have hsv2. I've had it for 15+ years. In all my years having it, I've never had anyone turn me down, and trust me - I'm no super model. I've had 2 guys tell me they also had it. It doesn't work as a deterrent, either, like "Oh no, you don't want me, I have herpes" when I'm trying to get a guy away from me.
There is no risk from the handjob. None at all, no worst-case-scenario here. I mean, I don't know that I'd share that with your new friend, as going to strippers and getting handjobs from them is not her business and a lot to take in early in a relationship. You have nothing to be guilty about, but if you wouldn't share that you got a handjob from someone other than a stripper, don't share this.
And that's the end of dating advice you didn't ask for. :)
Sorry fo the late reply! Irritation has gone away, I believe it was weather related.
Thank you for your advice! I will keep this to myself for sure. And in case I didn't make it clear because I caught hsv1 'sexually', I would not write off a partner over hsv2/1, I would just like to know before hand.
I have a lot of shame/guilt around sex which is why I feel bad about going to the strip club to begin with, and going through with the handjob, but that's on me and no one else.
Thank you for your advice! I will keep this to myself for sure. And in case I didn't make it clear because I caught hsv1 'sexually', I would not write off a partner over hsv2/1, I would just like to know before hand.
I have a lot of shame/guilt around sex which is why I feel bad about going to the strip club to begin with, and going through with the handjob, but that's on me and no one else.
No problem, glad to help.
I'm not sure what is causing your guilt and shame about sex, but you deserve to have a healthy, wonderful sex life. Don't hesitate to talk to someone about it if you think you need to. There are some wonderful counselors who specialize in sexual issues/sexuality.
Not a thing wrong with wanting to know beforehand. I think most of us would. Informed decisions are the best decisions. :)
Best to you.
I'm not sure what is causing your guilt and shame about sex, but you deserve to have a healthy, wonderful sex life. Don't hesitate to talk to someone about it if you think you need to. There are some wonderful counselors who specialize in sexual issues/sexuality.
Not a thing wrong with wanting to know beforehand. I think most of us would. Informed decisions are the best decisions. :)
Best to you.
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