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How far in between are the outbreals

My wife of 22 years said she got the hsv2 virus before we met we have 2 kids I found Valtrex in her drawer she said this was her first outbreak in 20 plus years is that possible
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So question about you post...she knew she had it 22 years ago and now this is just her first outbreak? Or she didn’t find out she had it until now because she finally had an outbreak?
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She said she knew 22 yrs ago but by the time she went to the doctors it was over nothing prescribed. Now fast forward 22 years later and I find Valtrex 500 mg 2 a day for 3 days and this was the first prescription
I read what you previously wrote about the “emotional affair” no wonder you have so many questions and seems like she wouldn’t have told you unless you found the bottle
that she hid. I would be very suspicious too. I hate that you’re going through this. I would get tested to make sure you don’t have it. I can’t believe I’m 22 years she hasn’t brought it up. The minute I found out I called my
Partner in tears and told him he needed to be tested. So sorry you’re dealing with this. I feel for you.
Your wife is obviously lying about something because if she just found out n wasn't sleeping around she would of told u or even try to kill u
Yeah I’m curious just seems too fishy to me. Are you doing ok? Did you get tested yet? I would be so upset because it makes me think this came from her cheating or if she is telling the truth about it not being a sexual afraid, I’d still be mad as hell that she never told you she had this before you all got married. That’s just messed up even if her claims of having it 22 years ago is true.
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Totally possible. Most people go their whole lives without knowing they have it. Most doctors don’t even recommend testing for it unless you have visible lesions. So many people walk around having no idea they even have it which was my case. I’ve never had a symptom and I’m obsessive over any changes in my body so I would’ve noticed. I only found out my a blood test and was totally shocked. My doctor said many people can go their entire lives and never have an outbreak. This doesn’t mean she cheated on you at all. I’ve seen 2 doctors and one ID specialist who all said it is very common.
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But i found out she was having a affair last aug she said it was only a emotional affair there was no sex then in January of this year there’s a outbreak and she never told me she had herpes 2 shouldn’t she have told me
She should have definitely told you. That’s a huge secret to keep and can shake the foundation of trust.
What you decide to do is up to you. If you haven’t had sex in the last 12 weeks, you can IgG test and see if you also have it.
If she had an affair...I would question this further. Again, it’s up to you but keeping a secret like that is pretty sneaky.
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Yes it is possible ........I've had herpes for 6 years unaware only found out yesterday but I have had at least one break out each year unnoticeable.. ..without use of any medication nor  have I given it to anyone in my knowledge
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How do u know u had it that long
Because I could remember my first outbreak after i lost my virginity but i was misdiagnosed visually so ....in line with the symptoms i know jts 6 years ago because  my out break recently was not severe and the doctor asked me to think back if ive ever had  breaks out before with high fever swollen glands n so on
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