The whites of the eye and the inside of the lids are covered by mucous membrane, which is susceptible to the virus. I would not worry too much about it, however, especially if her eyelid was closed. Ocular herpes are thought by experts to be usually caused by a recurrence of an old oral infection, not an outside infection.
However, it will be helpful to avoid kissing her on her mouth, eyes, nose, ears, anywhere that might have a mucous membrane. You can still kiss her cheeks, forehead, hands, torso, etc. if she doesn't have any cuts or wounds there.
Hi, not really an issue. For the virus to enter a nerve, it needs to be rubbed into the skin to force the virus into the nerve. Casual brushing is not how its contracted.