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I had oral sex (french kiss and blowjob)

Hi there;

Two days ago, i met a girl (25 years old ) online and we had oral sex .
And i am scared a lot , she told me she was pregnant and she did a lot of blood tests during pregnancy .

I am wondering if every pregnant woman should do stds test including herpes .

And what if she has herpes dose that mean it will be 100% transmitted yo me ?


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During pregnancy, they do some STD testing. What she's had done depends on how far along she is in her pregnancy, what kind of prenatal care she's had, and her doctor, and where she lives.

It is routine to do syphilis testing probably twice during pregnancy. She will likely be tested at least once for gonorrhea and chlamydia, maybe more depending on her risk levels. Some doctors will test for herpes, but that depends heavily on where you live. In Canada, the UK, and some other places, the blood test for herpes is rarely done.

Is she currently pregnant? Recently pregnant?

If she gave you oral sex, the only things you're at risk for is gonorrhea, syphilis and genital hsv1.

Syphilis is uncommon, depending on where you live. You can test for that at 6 weeks. If you develop any sores, see your doctor when that happens.

If she has gonorrhea in her throat, you can get gonorrhea genitally. They may not test her for oral gonorrhea during pregnancy. It's not that common to get it in your throat, but it is possible. You can test for this at about 5 days.

If you don't already have hav1 orally (think cold sores or fever blisters), then you can get it genitally from someone who has it orally when they perform oral sex on you. Even if you've never had a cold sore that you remember, you could still have it. About half the adult population has it, and 90% will never get an outbreak.

If you live in a place that does blood tests, you can ask for a type specific IgG herpes blood test. If it's positive now for hsv1, it's a pre-existing infection. If it's negative now, and positive later, it's a new infection. If she didn't have any sores, chances are low that you'd be infected from this. It's not impossible, though.

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Thank you so much

We live in Canada and she Gave her bith 16 months ago and she said she never had sex after that.
I just answered another one of your posts in the STD community. Let's keep the discussion here so I can keep track lol.

Is this the same person you got a hickey from?

You seem to not understand what's risky for STDs and what isn't. Is that true? I can help with that if you need it.

And if she hasn't had sex for at least 16 months, I'd say she's pretty low risk, and I wouldn't worry about it.
well i am 26 years old virgin guy and i never did sex before this event .
i met this girl online and i feel guilty and scared of having  any STDs .
i am not worried that much of HIV .
my main concern is herpes it gives me a lot of fears because it will almost end my sexual life since i have to be honest with girls and no one will accept it .
all what happened was blowjob , french kiss and  she gave a hickey .
after we finished , i went home and i started to go online and i saw everything have cure except hiv(not worried about it ) and herpes .
assuming she has herpes ,dose every exposure leads to infection ?
i appreciate your help
No, not every exposure leads to infection.

If she does have hsv1, and didn't have any sores on her mouth - not in her mouth, but on her lips - chances are good that you wouldn't be infected. There is something called asymptomatic viral shedding, which is where the virus is active but there aren't symptoms. With oral hsv1, this happens about 25% of days per year.

If she was shedding, that doesn't mean you'd be infected. We don't know how much virus has to be present to transmit, and it's probably different for everyone. There's a lot that has to happen for transmission to happen. This is assuming you don't already have it. Many people get it as kids from adults who kiss them.

If you did get herpes from her, it's genital herpes type 1. The number indicates the strain of the virus, not the location on your body. It's still the same virus that about half the adult population has.

Genital hsv1 sheds about 3-5% of days per year, and doesn't recur nearly as often as genital hsv2 does. The chances that you'd transmit it to anyone from your genitals are very, very low.

But don't get ahead of yourself - I'm just giving you information. The chance of you getting herpes is low.

If you ever do meet anyone with genital hsv2, and all you did was avoid sex when she had an outbreak, there is only a 4-5% chance over the course of a year that you'd get it. That's assuming sex 2-3x a week in a long term relationship. It comes out to about 1 chance per 1000 sex episodes.

So don't worry.

I can't help you with the guilt, except to say that guilt doesn't equal risk. I don't know your reasons for feeling guilty - religious or what - but don't fall into the trap of thinking that the guiltier you feel, the higher the risk.



Thank you a lot

I appreciate your help

Thay was really helpful
You're welcome! Have a great weekend. :)
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