Possibility of transmission?

[jshay17]

I met a guy at work and eventually we started seeing each other outside of work. One night things went a little farther than I had anticipated. I knowingly have herpes, although I'm not sure which type. I'm assuming it's HSV2 considering it's genital. I have not told him that I have the virus, and we have since then had sex two more times. We've used a condom every time. I've only had one outbreak since I was diagnosed six months ago. I feel extremely bad for not telling him beforehand, but I do plan on telling him, despite the possible outcome of rejection. I'm not quite sure how to bring up the conversation, especially since we have already had sex? What are the chances that I've already passed it to him? Any information and advice would help, thanks.

[CankerScare]

Personally, I am not even confirmed hsv positive. However, I told my current partner that it's possible and I have concerns for it and will take every precaution to have as close to 0% chance transmission to her. I think that you have to do what feels right and for me this feels right.

[jshay17]

I had no outbreaks at the time of intercourse. We had sex for the first time about two weeks ago, and twice within the past few days. I was swabbed at my OBGYN for herpes and was tested positive. They called me with the results to confirm I had herpes, but they didn't tell me which type. And if they did, I don't remember so I'm assuming its HSV2. He's asked me already to be his girlfriend but I feel like I'm lying to him, so I've been putting it off. I want to tell him because I know it's the right thing to do, I just don't know how to tell him since we've already had sex a few times.

[CankerScare]

Well you weren't having outbreaks at time of intercourse so it seems unlikely.
How long was last time you had sex? Seems like if it was a week or more he hasn't gotten it ornyou would be very sure.
Even a better question is what does he have? Perhaps the best suggestion is that you both get std tests together and you can discuss any findings with him and he can share his. You can't tell him what you have if you never got typed just that you believe you have it.