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Possible exposer Herpes
Hello once again,
About 3 1//2 weeks ago I had a brief encounter with an old friend I hadn't seen in years. We were drunk and went back to her place. We kissed a few times and some massaging digitally. When we tried to have sex it wasn't really working for me to enter because I wasn't getting erect. When I did, I stopped after about 15 seconds out of fear. I had recently statrted dating someone and finally came to my senses. 2 weeks after I got the full panel tests all negative. She also tested the week before all negative as well.
My real concern is I remember seeing her about 7 years ago with a set of fever blisters around her mouth. Like I said we kissed a few times and had brief intercorse maybe 15 seconds. When I saw my doctor last week he saw nothing to suggests herpes and he said he's seen alot. I had an irritation in the crevice between scrotum and thigh but he said it wouldn't appear there. He said baseline igg is negative. How worried should I be about herpes exposer? Thanks for any input.
About 3 1//2 weeks ago I had a brief encounter with an old friend I hadn't seen in years. We were drunk and went back to her place. We kissed a few times and some massaging digitally. When we tried to have sex it wasn't really working for me to enter because I wasn't getting erect. When I did, I stopped after about 15 seconds out of fear. I had recently statrted dating someone and finally came to my senses. 2 weeks after I got the full panel tests all negative. She also tested the week before all negative as well.
My real concern is I remember seeing her about 7 years ago with a set of fever blisters around her mouth. Like I said we kissed a few times and had brief intercorse maybe 15 seconds. When I saw my doctor last week he saw nothing to suggests herpes and he said he's seen alot. I had an irritation in the crevice between scrotum and thigh but he said it wouldn't appear there. He said baseline igg is negative. How worried should I be about herpes exposer? Thanks for any input.
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Did she give you oral sex? You don't mention that, but if she has oral herpes, she is only infectious from her mouth.
You wouldn't get genital herpes from kissing or sex if she only has oral herpes, which is what you think she has.
There's a chance you could get oral herpes from kissing her, if you don't already have it. The IgG hsv1 test misses 30% of infections, so there's no way to really know for sure if you do or not, and 67% of people under 50 have hsv1. Chances are excellent that you've already kissed others who have it.
Most people with oral hsv1 don't get symptoms, so they don't know they have it.
I wouldn't worry about this. I don't know what is causing your symptoms, but your encounter was really brief, and she tested negative for STDs the week before you were together.
Don't let guilt take over here. Guilt doesn't equal risk.
You wouldn't get genital herpes from kissing or sex if she only has oral herpes, which is what you think she has.
There's a chance you could get oral herpes from kissing her, if you don't already have it. The IgG hsv1 test misses 30% of infections, so there's no way to really know for sure if you do or not, and 67% of people under 50 have hsv1. Chances are excellent that you've already kissed others who have it.
Most people with oral hsv1 don't get symptoms, so they don't know they have it.
I wouldn't worry about this. I don't know what is causing your symptoms, but your encounter was really brief, and she tested negative for STDs the week before you were together.
Don't let guilt take over here. Guilt doesn't equal risk.
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Also, looking through your other posts, you also had symptoms in the same spot as you do now - even back in 2013.
Maybe it's a spot that collects sweat for you, and just gets irritated easily.
Maybe it's a spot that collects sweat for you, and just gets irritated easily.
Thank you for your reply. No oral sex. And to be clear, she tested a week before I did. But many thanks again!
Oh thanks for clarifying. That doesn't change much, except that if she had partners just before you, those exposures would be covered in her testing for most things.
Unfortunately my Dr. called and said my Igm came back + for Hsv1. Intellectually I know these tests are useless but ofcourse my mind is racing. Lips started tingling ect... Just for clarity, would a primary outbreak occur 5 weeks post exposure?
The IgM is a worthless test. We've known that for years. The CDC and experts in the field know not to do that test. It's wrong at least as often as it is right, and no one can tell when it's right or wrong.
My own was positive when it should have been positive, and vice versa.
Ignore that you had it done. Only pay attention to symptoms, if you get them, and an IgG test.
Tingling is almost always anxiety, unless it accompanies symptoms like blisters.
My own was positive when it should have been positive, and vice versa.
Ignore that you had it done. Only pay attention to symptoms, if you get them, and an IgG test.
Tingling is almost always anxiety, unless it accompanies symptoms like blisters.
Thank you again. The main reason I am concerned is that I've had and uncontollable burning on my scrotum the last week and there seem to be red irratations occurring at my waistline. My waistline started burning yesterday and red dots appeared today. That's why I was trying to make sure about timeline about primary outbreak. That would be 6 weeks post exposure. Is it possible that I was having an outbreak the entire time? Also, I read that 1/4 to 2/3 of people with Hsv1 have it both orally and genitally. Is this true? If so, would GHsv1 also be a concern? Do I have anxiety , yes. I talked to my doctor and he syas I have nothing to worry about and it is not STD related. I'm trying to move I promise but I'm kind of stuck.
The vast majority of people who have both oral and genital hsv1 were infected at the same time - from kissing the same person who gave them oral sex.
You didn't get ghsv1 from this encounter - you didn't receive oral sex.
It's possible to have a primary outbreak 6 weeks later. Technically, you can get an initial outbreak at any time, but that's not what is happening here. You have not been having an outbreak for 6 weeks, and red dots are not herpes.
Talk to your doctor about your anxiety. Get counseling. Treat that - focus on that and see if your symptoms go away.
I don't know why you are so stuck on this. Your doctor says it isn't ghsv1, you didn't get oral sex from this encounter.
I don't know if your anxiety comes in because you were dating someone else, but let it go. You barely even had sex with this person, so let it go. You aren't going to infect your new gf with anything.
Remember that guilt does not equal risk.
(I say all this with compassion, not criticism.)
You didn't get ghsv1 from this encounter - you didn't receive oral sex.
It's possible to have a primary outbreak 6 weeks later. Technically, you can get an initial outbreak at any time, but that's not what is happening here. You have not been having an outbreak for 6 weeks, and red dots are not herpes.
Talk to your doctor about your anxiety. Get counseling. Treat that - focus on that and see if your symptoms go away.
I don't know why you are so stuck on this. Your doctor says it isn't ghsv1, you didn't get oral sex from this encounter.
I don't know if your anxiety comes in because you were dating someone else, but let it go. You barely even had sex with this person, so let it go. You aren't going to infect your new gf with anything.
Remember that guilt does not equal risk.
(I say all this with compassion, not criticism.)
Thank you! I will make an appointment with my doctor to deal with my anxiety. Your comments are deeply appreciated.
You're welcome. :)
One last question. It's been 12 weeks since possible exposure and to be safe I wanted to test for Hsv2 and syphillis. In December I had some work done on my mouth and was required to take amoxycillin for a week. Would this affect testing for syhillis? I apologize if this is the wrong section for question
No, it won't affect anything. :)
Also, please note that the hsv2 IgG has a fair number of false positives. You barely had penetrative sex with her, and she tested negative, correct? I just want you to go into this carefully, because a false positive test is very hard to unravel.
She said she tested negative but I can't be sure she specifically checked for Hsv. All she said about that is that she never had a problem down there. I'd ask her but I haven't had any of my callls returned. That doesn't mean anything but it is concerning. Is it your recomendation that I do not test?
I don't think you need to read too much into her not returning your calls. Maybe you called too often with too many questions, or she just isn't interested, unfortunately.
In any case, I don't see a big need for you to test. If you were in a relationship with a woman with hsv2, monogamous, had sex 2-3 times a week, over the course of a year, you'd only have a 4% chance of getting it from her, assuming she had no symptoms when you had sex.
The odds from a one time encounter are much lower.
If it will help you feel better, than go ahead and test, but just go into it knowing that there is the possibility. To confirm a test, you'd have to get a Western Blot test, and it's expensive. Some insurances will pay, many won't.
In any case, I don't see a big need for you to test. If you were in a relationship with a woman with hsv2, monogamous, had sex 2-3 times a week, over the course of a year, you'd only have a 4% chance of getting it from her, assuming she had no symptoms when you had sex.
The odds from a one time encounter are much lower.
If it will help you feel better, than go ahead and test, but just go into it knowing that there is the possibility. To confirm a test, you'd have to get a Western Blot test, and it's expensive. Some insurances will pay, many won't.
Thank you once again for being a knowledgable and caring voice. I'll talk it over with my Dr. when I see him on Friday. Be careful and be safe. And thank you! :)
You're welcome. :)
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