Fleetwood20
Merry Christmas and thanks so much for the information. I got my IGG test results back and I am HSV-1 positive just like we suspected. So at this point is my wife orally immune and I am genitally immune?
Thanks Fleetwood!
1. It depends on country and region, but numbers are down these days and probably looks more like 70% in developed countries. So a reasonable chance she did not acquire HSV1 in her youth. However she would have had immunity from an infection and certainly would not have experienced symptoms such as you describe if she already had HSV1. The odds are stacked overwhelmingly on the side that she has just been infected by your oral infection.
2. There are many theories on this. These include the adult mouth not being as sensitive an area compared to genitals, different immune structures at play as well as skin based immunity built from exposure to HSV1 over a lifetime of kissing people with HSV1.
3. It is extremely unlikely once the infection is established that she will get it orally.
I apologize for this, but the more I think about it the more questions I come up with:
1. I've heard that 90% of the population has HSV-1. If I'm to assume that my wife had it orally already, wouldn't she have been immune to getting it genitally?
2. If I have it orally, assuming at this point that was what caused this, why wouldn't she have gotten it orally through kissing? Again, never had a cold sore ever.
3. Now that she has it genitally and we have unprotected sex, could she get it orally from me?
I'm also assuming that this is a numbers game and that nothing is definitive at this point. In fact, it appears that our original outbreak, assuming that I have it orally, seems to have been a low probability of it being contracted by my wife... so I'm not feeling like a lottery winner right now.
Thanks Fleetwood!
No for a male this does not seem to happen. There is certainly no documented evidence that this happens. Your established oral infection gives you immunity.
Fleetwood20,
Thanks so much for your positive comments. Something that I'm unsure of now is if my wife can spread HSV1 genitally to me during unprotected intercourse? I've been told that it can move to different locations based on contact. So even though I might have it orally, I can still get it genitally. Is this understanding correct?
Thanks again!
Although a herpes diagnosis is a shock, there is nothing 'sinister' about this.
The most likely explanation is that you have had an oral HSV1 infection since your youth and passed it to your wife genitally through oral sex. No cheating, no malice and no concerns for the longer term. A test for you will probably show HSV1+ but be careful as it can be missed by tests so do not jump to funny conclusions if you test negative!
Also note that in half of genital HSV1 infections, this is it. Your wife may never experience another issue in her lifetime.
To your questions:
1. Maybe, but a swab for HSV if tested using PCR is definitive. Sounds like a culture though, which is also extremely accurate in the positive. The culture can be typed properly if they retained the sample.
2. No. In a very small number of cases some dead DNA might be found in the test but you or your wfe would have to have HSV1 already. The symptoms do seem related to herpes, it is all adding up really.
3. Each episode has maybe a 1 in 5000 chance of transmission. It is a numbers game. On average it takes thousands of oral sex episodes to transfer it and many couples never transfer it.
4. Let everything resume as per normal. No need to change a thing. You will both have HSV1 now and that's a better place to be in many respects. Within a few months, your wife will be immune to an oral infection.
5. From your parents as young child, probably aged less then 3!
6. Only relevant test is a blood test for you looking for IgG antibodies type specific for HSV1 and HSV2.
Yes this will seem like a roller coaster. But I hope you and your wife see this for what it is. A chance event of silly virus that has caused you zero problems all your life and is likely to cause your wife zero problems in a few months time! Nothing about your sex life or other aspects in life need to chance a bit. In fact now that you can't infect each other anymore, that can make things even more liberating.