Should I get tested?

[Christiano321]

I will be getting married to my wife next week, and we will be planning to have children in the coming years. My wife comes from a religious background, and so, she is a virgin since sex happens after marriage for her. I on the other hand am not a virgin. I have had a total of 5 sexual partners between my age span of 21 years to 33 years old. All my partners have been tested, and I always used protection (condom). My only risky behavior you can say is that my last partner happened to be a Thai Massage parlor girl in the United States. That was a year ago and she gave me oral and penetrative sex while I had a condom on. I have never had any odd occurrences in my genitalia region, and I recently did a full panel STI checkup for HIV, Hepatitis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Syphilis. All came back negative. The only thing I have never tested for is Herpes. My doctor said it's a grey area since blood testing is not recommended unless I have had an outbreak and they need to determine the type of Herpes virus, or if my partner has been diagnosed with Genital Herpes before and they are trying to see if I am indeed infected too or not. So my question is, do I need to get tested to ensure safety of my wife and kids? Part of the issue here is I don't know how I would deal knowing what my status is and may make me guilty in the relationship. I appreciate your thoughts.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, yes it would be a good idea to get tested. Many many people have hsv1 oral from childhood and it can be passed to the genital area from oral sex. Just have  the herpes selec type specific blood test.