Hi! Ii've been told on this forum that my long term parntner and I should find out what our herpes status is. However every medical professional I have spoken to says it isn't necessary seeing as neither of us have had any cold sores on our lips or genitals, we've never kissed anyone with a visible cold sore, and because we were both virgins in every sense of the word before being sexually active with each other, doctors will just brush off my request once I ask saying that it is an unnecessary test for us.
I'm not too worried about being tested so it's not a necessity but sometimes I do get paranoid about one of us giving the other genital herpes through oral sex despite no cold sore being present. I have posted a question before about some labial itching and soreness that I have before and during menstruation every month, and I have some lumps and bumps down there but nothing out of the ordinary (I think!) it just makes me turn into a hypochondriac whenever I itch - thinking I have herpes!! I know also that the first outbreak is painful, and I've only had one UTI 2 years ago, and to my knowledge there were no lesions visible, but I didn't think to check either.
So my question is, is asymptomatic shedding really something we should worry about? Also I'm on the pill so we never use protection (we're monogamous and certain of this!)