Last night i received a handjob from a prostitute while i fingered her. After we were done i touched my genitals with the hand i used to finger the prostitute. Am i at risk of herpes? There are no fluids because i fingered her while she was on her undies.
No, this is not possible. Transmitting herpes requires skin to skin contact - like genital to genital skin, or oral to genital skin. Herpes isn't transmitted by touching, especially if the person had underwear on.
Hi! I am still not clear on the skin contact thing. Is it possible to spread HSV2 from penis skin to any other skin part(eg. thighs) of my partner? even if there are no visible sores?
Hi! I think I just linked the herpes handbook to you in your own thread, but if I didn't - https://westoverheights.com/herpes/the-updated-herpes-handbook/
In theory, it's possible. If your penis is touching her thigh, though, that's intact, thick skin. Unless she has a cut or some skin irritation, than it's not going to happen. Since you are so concerned with transmission, have you considered suppressive therapy with daily valtrex or acyclovir? That might really help ease your mind. :)
Thanks a lot. You have really helped me in my understanding of herpes. It's not surprising that I find myself in many threads and in each of them, you clarify things for me. This herpes thing has been confusing for me since day one. A whole lot of ambiguous information online, only aggravating the worries of people.
I think the updated herpes handbook can still be improved to factor in many of these latest concerns.
Though it says a lot about managing herpes during pregnancy, it doesn't discuss how an uninfected woman can conceive a healthy baby and not get infected even when the man has genital herpes. As I know, the virus is present in genital fluids. This is one area I would be happy if you can share some insights.
We appreciate the good work you do here. You've saved some of us from all the anxiety from herpes.
Herpes is not in your semen. It sheds from the skin.
One thing to consider is that if you are in a relationship with someone with whom you are considering having a child, it is probably a long term relationship. (I know - not all of them are, but just go with me here.) In that case, you have discussed all the risks, discussed what precautions to take, etc. She's probably okay with it, or she wouldn't be there, right?
So at the time of conceiving a child, you might go on suppressive medication (if you aren't already - this will be an individual decision, of course), and not use condoms (if you were before this). If she is going to conceive a child with you, or attempt it, she has already decided you're a good man (presumably). She will likely also decide that the 5% chance or so of herpes being transmitted while you are on suppressives is worth the risk of making a family with you.
Of course, there's also artificial means, if it's that upsetting to you that there's a 5% chance of transmission. Flip that around, though, and that's a 95% chance you won't. You'd play the lottery with those odds, right?
Just sayin'. (I know not winning the lottery doesn't end up in viral transmission, but really, while no one wants to transmit herpes, don't make herpes a bigger deal than it is.)