I have some questions about HSV-1 that I'm hoping you all can answer. Back in November, I was diagnosed with genital HSV-1. My doctor said I probably was infected via receptive oral sex. Lucky me. My culture was positive for HSV-1, but my blood test was negative...pointing to a recent infection. I'm still trying to gather facts to provide to anyone I should date in the future...if anyone will want me after I disclose my status to them. I’ve only had one outbreak thus far, and I’m on Valtrex. Anyway, here are some questions I have:
- If my partner has ORAL HSV-1, is it possible for me to spread the virus to him genitally even though the virus is already present in his body? And...can he spread it to me orally? Or...does it just show up in only one area of the body once you're infected? ***After I told my ex-boyfriend about my diagnosis, he barely admitted to infecting me and acted like it wasn't a big deal. He didn't seem worried about having unprotected sex with me after telling him. I have a bad feeling he already knew he had this issue and has perhaps infected other women.
- Is it possible for either one of us to cause "reinfection" to each other? At one point he blamed me for giving him a cold sore on his mouth.
- Even though I have HSV-1 genitally, do I need to worry about spreading it to someone orally? I feel self-conscious about even kissing someone. Should I worry?
- Are there any statistics out there on the spread of genital HSV-1 via genital to genital contact? I haven't really seen a lot out there regarding the spread of HSV-1 in that manner...just HSV-2.
My apologies if these seem like stupid questions. However, I need to have all of the facts so I can explain this to potential partners. Since HSV-1 is so common orally, I'm wondering if anyone testing positive for the HSV-1 antibodies and may have had a cold sore on their mouth at one point in their lives can be infected genitally. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 5 months ago and I'm so ready to move on from him, but I'm afraid to because I'm so ashamed to tell people about this which saddens me. I wish I never dated him.
Any advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much!