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Vaginal Fissure

Hello,

I seriously hate to be back down this dark, fearful path.


Last possible exposure was Dec 28, receiving unprotected oral from the same person Ive been with for 2 and a half years. About a week later I have a vaginal fissure at the bottom of my vaginal opening. I can't recall ever having anything like this.  It's been there for a week and a half.  Im thinking this is my initial outbreak. It doesn't hurt when I pee but my vaginal area feels a little irritated and there's a little stabbing pain from this fissure.

At this point, Im certain I have herpes as I can't see anything else causing this (doesnt seem like a yeast injection because I dont have cheese like discharge) and I have had a risky encounter.

Im not sure how to proceed at this point. I just saw my obgyn who diagnosed it as a fissure. I should have had it swabbed but I didnt. I go back to him at the beginning of Feb for a pap smear.

Im feeling bummed, but I know I need to be diagnosed and get medicine. I kind of dont want this on records but how will I get medicine otherwise.

Im thinking of purchasing a blood test and after I get my results take them to my appointment in Feb so I can get medicine.  It's not insufferable right now.  It doesnt seem like the fissure wants to heal, though.

Symptoms
Felt hot in my private area like icee hot was down there.

Vaginal fissure for a week and a half, doesn't want to heal

Little irritation, just feels a little off in my private region
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Good - don't trust visual exams if they end up in an STD diagnosis, with maybe the exception of genital warts. A vaginal fissure is also pretty clear.

When you get the blood test done, ask for a type specific, IgG herpes blood test. Make sure it's that. Anything else is pointless in regards to herpes testing. Also ask for a syphilis test, though I don't think this is syphilis by any means, and I'd be surprised if you have it - just good to get that done. (If you are self-paying, and money is a factor, you can likely skip the syphilis test. It's not common, and you don't have a lot of risk.)

Has your partner been tested for anything? Is this your only partner? Are you his only partner? If so, then the only thing you have to worry about is perhaps genital herpes type 1 if he has it orally. (I'm sorry - I'm not totally clear on your risks here.)

Hang in there.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Vaginal fissures can be caused by many things, including sex. I'm not sure why you think it's herpes. Did your gyno mention herpes? If he thought it was suspicious, he would have mentioned it.

I've read over some of your previous posts. I totally get regretting things you've done (I mean - who doesn't?), but please keep in mind that guilt does not equal risk, and exposure doesn't equal transmission, and perhaps most important, STDs don't equal punishment.

I haven't read all your posts, but it sounds like you have some sexual activity with someone you are dating, and then you proceed to beat yourself up about it.(I may have missed some things in there, and I'm sorry.) I'm not sure why. Some people feel they should wait until marriage, and that's fine, but doing otherwise doesn't make you stupid. It certainly doesn't mean you deserve some kind of punishment.

STDs are biological processes. They aren't moral judgements. If you think of STDs as infections like strep throat, and take the sex part out, they aren't dirty or gross or punishments. The only difference is the mode of transmission. I got herpes in a long-term serious relationship. Some get it from casual partners. Some get it when their partners cheat. None of it is punishment. It just IS.

I noticed in another thread in a different forum that specialmom recommended counseling. I totally back that up. If you have concerns that these fissures you are experiencing are part of a bigger problem, follow up with your doctor. Use lube during sexual activity, or abstain until you are ready for it (and it's OKAY if you aren't ready, even if you are 50 years old - there is no time table here, you are ready when you are ready).

Just be easier on yourself. How would you talk to your best friend if she were experiencing these things? Talk to yourself the same way. You aren't stupid. You are human and just need to work through some things. Be kinder to yourself. <3

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Oh and I'm sorry - herpes doesn't feel like icy hot. Did you tell your doctor that?

Even if you take a home test, it will end up on your records, but who cares? Herpes doesn't count against you for anything, like life insurance, so just worry about testing if it will put your mind at ease. Has your partner ever tested? Do you know if he has anything, or are you assuming? Perhaps you should both test to put your mind at ease.
I appreciate your comments.  I do have anxiety but I feel guilty for participating in risky behavior when I knew better.

I got tested today and will get the results Monday.  It's just the symptoms and risky behavior that make me think it's herpes.  I had a terrible unexplainable itching on my leg and buttocks area while bathing about 2 weeks ago (lasted for like 5 mins).  Then, came the icy hot feeling that lasted a week and now the little fissure.

Fair enough, I am paranoid but it's more like...ok this is happening so eliminate the possible reasons with testing. Is it STD, bacterial, fungal, another disease or a small irritation? My first fear STD, so Im testing for it even though I am terrified.

Im just trying to prepare myself.  I do spazz but it's who I am. In the mran time, I hope the anxiety and fear don't last long no matter the results.
Also, I dont really trust visual examinations.
Well, all STDs came back negative for the urine test.  If I find out what's causing the symptoms, I'll post the results just in case anyone else is having similar issues.

I get a pap smear next month and I'll be taking a STD blood test in April as a regular check up.

I dont know what's going om but I hope it's nothing too serious.  For now, I will enjoy these negative results.
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