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Worried Virgin

Hello, I engaged in oral sex I gave and received with a new partner who has never had a sore on his mouth since i've known him, we have also kissed romantically and deeply many times, it's been a couple of weeks since, maybe even close to 3-4 weeks now, and I have not developed any sores orally or genitally. I did go get tested for every STD Chlamydia in the throat, waiting on ghonorrhea throat test and hiv as well, as I gave oral while with a canker sore and worried. To cut to the chase, I have not had a blood test for herpes, which is the final one to do. If I have not developed sores orally or genitally after a certain amount of time should I feel clear about this? Even though they say sometimes there can be no symptoms? I am still a virgin as well. Thanks, hope to hear from you.
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This has been repeated over and over on the expert forum, oral sex is safe sex. Not completely risk free, but much much safer than unprotected anal and vaginal sex. The odds you caught anything from this encounter for the most likely infections, is still only like one in several thousands. You don't need an HIV test. The odds you caught HIV from this encounter is zero. There is no known credible case of HIV being transmitted by oral sex. Also, if your Hsv1 test shows that you are positive, I would be a bit skeptical you caught it from this encounter. It would be more likely you were always infected and didn't know it because you do not get outbreaks.
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Oh okay thank you. I've only had oral sex by two people. And i'm also still a virgin. and with everyone i've kissed they have never had cold sores they would say. So do you recommend i still get a herpes test? Lol just to ease my mind. Im a germaphobe honestly. I try to choose partners carefully. one guy i dated had genital herpes i made him get tested . Ive been paranoid since.
P.S. its been 3-4 weeks since we engaged in our last episode of oral sex and i have not developed any sores on my mouth or genitals.  Would that signify being in the clear?
Also sorry, just thought of this last question. Why do you say its likely i would have gotten it before this encounter rather then from? is it because its been too long and i haven't gotten obvious symptoms after a certain amount of time?  As i kissed him and performed oral sex on him vice versa.
No, I do not think you need a herpes test. The odds you caught herpes from an oral encounter are too low. In addition, you haven't had any symptoms. Most people will have symptoms in the first 3-6 days. Some may take up to 10-14 days, but very rarely up to 3 weeks.

Most people that take an std panel test that includes the hsv1 and hsv2 IgG antibody tests, are quite surprised when the results come back showing they are positive for hsv1. If they were more informed, this should not be such a surprise. You can be confident that at least 50% of adults ( and this percentage rises with age) are infected with hsv1 and most do not know it because they never or very rarely get outbreaks. There is a very high likelihood that you are already infected with hsv1 and you do not know it.

In addition, the best commercially available antibody test for hsv1 misses up to 30% of infections when compared to the Western Blot herpes test, which is not commercially available and requires a bit more effort and money to get it performed. But, the Western Blot is the best test we have; it is the "gold standard" for herpes tests. There is no other available herpes test out there that is more accurate than the Western Blot herpes test.
Oh okay, how should I go about getting the western blot test? And I do have weird sting sensations but thats throughout my body and radiates to my hand and leg and not just my vagina, i'm wondering if that's actually just nerves. As far as sores, I asked the doctor if i could get a herpes test but that was a walk-in clinic and they can only swab when there's a sore present which indicated to me that they saw none. And thank you so much for informing me, I definitely was worried I may have gotten from this encounter if i already don't have it from childhood etc.
Also, last question and you have answered them all for me, will the amount of times we have done the oral sex matter? Still after 3+weeks no symptoms. Right now i have a bump under the surface of my pubic area but that is it. I do check down there i'm not sure about how everything is supposed to look but i see some lumps there but if the doctor looked and said there was no sores then i'd assume whatever is down there is supposed to be, plus, i havent had any symptoms orally and i have kissed the guy so.
Of course, the more exposure you have to an infected partner, the more likely you are to contract the virus, meaning that you may eventually have a sexual encounter where all the conditions are met for transmission to take place, i.e. enough virus present, enough heat and friction to massage the virus into the uninfected skin, etc. It's somewhat random. So someone could get infected on the first encounter (not likely) while another person may get infected on encounter number 3,000 with his/her infected partner or maybe not at all.  There are plenty of people who go years and even their whole life having sex with an infected partner and never get infected.

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You should have a blood test for herpes.  If they tested you for HIV, that'd be a blood test and depending on the clinic and when the blood was drawn they can add a herpes test.  

No one knows what causes canker sores (aka apthous ulcers https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aphthous_stomatitis).  They are not thought to be transmitted sexually but the truth is no one knows for sure.  Herpes can look like cancer sores so do get tested.
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