Anytime I look for help with this disease on the internet I am met with a slew of a abuse from people I have never met. I am still in a relationship with the person that gave me herpes and so I have never (or never intend to) sleep with someone and not tell them I have herpes. However I recently watched a video about telling someone you intend to have sex with and later who you have already have sex with that you have herpes.
I understand the idea of someone not disclosing to you they have herpes is a frustrating thing as it is your decision to risk that, however I can't help but feel like comments such as:
'I would kill a ***** if she gave me herpes'
'I would break my knuckles on a girls face, no lie I'd physically and emotionally break her'
Are far fetched and ultimately sexist. Does it not occur to these men that we have usually caught this from MALES that have failed to disclose it to us. Do our feelings not occur to them? I would not take it as sexist if I ever saw similar comments targeted at men but they never are. Me and my partner have known about out herpes for six months and whilst he is dealing with it fine it is breaking me because of things like this, I cannot deal with having to read things like this every time I look for help. I feel personally targeted by these vile people, as if my worth is defined by an ultimately harmless disease, as if it says something about the person I am.