skin contact and herpes virus 1

[MrDonut]

We have done hours of research on line about herpes virus 1. Neither my wife nor I have ever had a cold sore but because of our age we could very likely be asymptomatic carriers. I just put two bandaids on my wife's thigh to cover "pimples" because she is concerned that if they become "cold sores" the virus will spread when she rubs her clothes over the area. She even uses kleenexes beteween her fingers and the clothes to protect the clothes from her hands. Can anyone offer some clear reassurances to her that the virus is not being spread by the clothes coming in contact with her skin?  I must add, she is concerned that if she did get the virus from an incident some 42 days ago when our 15 year old grandson who could have been shedding passed her a french fry and she ate it.
Help, please.

[MrDonut]

Is Oral Herpes ONLY transmitted by kissing (direct skin to skin contact and possibly by saliva generated during "shedding" in the mucous membranes in the mouth)?

[gracefromHHP]

once again your wife needs professional therapy for her issues. don't kid yourself that this is something you can handle on your own.

grace

[Mistakeguy789]

Larry while I don't typically post when grace has said something like in the first response I will say this.  Your wife is grasping at air to identify that this is what is going on. You have to think if you have done the right research that you would have seen a lot of people saying the virus spreads because people wear clothes...  One of the things she needs to understand if she does in fact have the virus it is going to prevent it from moving to a new location. I agree with grace you need to get into a professional counseling for the sake of her fears.  The reason you aren't getting some answers is that each person with HSV heals different times.  Viruses don't wear a watch and say its been 12 hours time to itch or time to pop open.  Right now ASHASTD has the information you need for the virus and if not you can easily search their forums.  The basics to this is if she hasn't been tested to know her own status then she doesn't know if she has it or not.  She can spend the money and get a western blot if shes that worried.  

[MrDonut]

I did find that my latest log on and comments posted had been removed and that I am no longer able to access ASHASTD message board. I know HSV1 isn't a real problem until it is transmitted via oral sex and that topic seems to have been the main purpose of the board.  However, it might be worthwhile to go back and review my questions that I posed in the form of my answers based on my research. A simple affirmation if I did state the information correctly might have helped to clear up some of my wife's confusion. I do recall one of my statements being answered but many of the others were not even acknowledged as being correct or wrong. Each time I submitted my inquiries she longed for your responses.  

May you have a blessed Thanksgiving Day.  

[MrDonut]

Hello, again.  By Wednesday morning she has decided that enough time has passed since the french fry incident (I was glad for your response when I asked about the food) so her worry will be over.  The real bug bear in all this has been the inconsistancies on the websites or lack of preciseness about the duration of various steps with the virus.  By the way I am Larry.  

[gracefromHHP]

I'm sorry but I've tried to help you repeatedly on the ashastd message board and we no longer allow you to post there. there is absolutely NOTHING I could possibly add to help you and your wife at this time. she needs to get professional counseling.   Also both of you getting tested for once and for all is probably a decent idea too.

grace aka betsyb1967