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A Little Hope Here?

I am a 20 something, gay male who was recently diagnosed with genital warts.  The outbreak was around my anus, although a single spot on my scrotum was frozen despite my dermatologist not being able to definitively say whether it was HPV or not.

Since my diagnoses, I've pretty much lost it.  I am afraid, deathly afraid, of the rejection associated with telling anyone in the future that I have this- and terrified I will never be able to have a normal sex life.  

Is there any hope of leading a normal sex life?  Is this something I will have to inform every partner of for the rest of my life- or is it safe to assume that when symptoms disappear, a partner would not be at risk?  I'm not a promiscuous person- but I'm not naive enough to think that the only person I'll ever be with is the person I'll spend the rest of my life with.  Anal intercourse always comes with a requisite of condoms with me, but what about oral sex?  My doctor could not say for certain whether or not the one spot on my scrotum was HPV, and given that most gay men will not suck rubber- does that mean this is out of the question forever?  

Basically- is sex going to be a chore for the rest of my life- complete with a whole lot of rejection and long, long laborious explanations on my part?

I don't want to put anyone at risk without telling them- as clearly I was not told (while, by the way, practicing safer sex).  That said- I am terrified, and I mean literally despondent, about what this means for me going forward.  My experience with people in general is that they are risk averse and less than forgiving for things like this.  So what do I do?

Help, please.  I'm losing my mind.
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657020 tn?1238037518
The vaccines are not for men, they are only for women, and they don't actually protect against all sexually transmitted strains of hpv, only 4 of them. Just about everyone (with the exception of two virgins who are together for life) acquires a genital hpv infection. The difference is most people do not have symptoms of their infection. The immune system is responsible for fighting off the virus and pushing it into dormancy. This is why so many people people are unaware they have an hpv infection- because it is dormant. You need to do some work on your immune system. There are also some antivirals available that you can take to help your immune system push the virus into dormancy. Once the virus is dormant, you are no longer considered contagious.
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764211 tn?1234502978
im sorry to tell you this but i had hpv before. im a female and i strongly suggest after you cotorize/heal your hpv, you should avoid SKIN TO SKIN contact if you wanna have sex. you dont need to tell your partner you have hpv if you practice safe sex. but its okay if you know your partner is clean after you get yourself healed. just to let you know, to heal hpv you need to cotorize it. there are other options for healing it but i cotorized my ***** and it feels like someone giving a tattoo on your *****. it is painful so you have to make sure next time around you better not get it again. there are vaccines for HPV so i suggest you take it.
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