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Forever alone?

So, I'm 19 years old and I was dating this guy for about five months before I found out that I had genital warts aka HPV. I already had "the clap" when I was 18 from my previous ex (mind you i have only had two boyfriends) so finding out this information, I was disgusted I had this pit in my stomach that I was just so grossed out with myself, my boyfriend, and just the whole thing. He always had this little mark on his penis but I never thought anything of it until now. I told him that he gave it to me and he claims oh no its not me it was you. blahblahblah. Were not together anymore. Anyways, my point to this post is how do you live knowing that your caring a virus and that it is never going to go away? I already had the acid treatment on my warts and got the Gardasil vaccine but I'm just so scared that I am never going to find a guy who's okay with this and what do I do about having children? Are they going to get Hpv too? I try to not let this bother me because there's nothing I can do to change what has already been done but it seriously just sucks! I mean two stds in the period of a year and half from the only two guys I've ever opened up to? How does someone deal with it? I mostly act like it never happened but come on! What would you do?
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Also, use this time to make your immune system healthy.  Exercise, quit smoking if you do, reduce the booze, take multi-vitamins, get more rest and reduce stress somehow.  Some of us think this helps with the recovery process and reduces the re-occurrences but this is not what any GYN would recommend. Still, it cannot hurt!  
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Its normal to feel like this at start but it shouldn't worry you too much. HPV is present in almost all sexually active people and the wart causing types aren't associated with cancer risks. They are mostly bengin and can be treated and once your immune system gets a hold of the virus they would usually go away for good. The risk of passing HPV to a newborn child is very low and you can have normal delivery however you should advise your doctor of your diagnosis when you are about to have a child so that they may be alert of any warts coming up during the pregnancy and these can also be treated by freezing. If you had the Gardasil vaccine prior to being sexually active the odds are very good you wouldn't have developed warts however from time to time high risk strains can cause warts but not commonly and this can be the reason if you had the shot and still developed warts, either way treatment is the ultimate goal and not stressing about it when statistics say about 85% of all sexually active people would have acquired this but have no clue they have it since majority don't develop symptoms unless its the wart causing strain. Look at it as being normal and don't let the social stigma get to you because its considered an std when the HPV virus should be destigmatized due to the fact that 4 out of 5 people if tested would show signs of it.
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