My questions are:
1) If they are warts, and they reappeared after a year and four months, is it likely that I will have genital warts forever? Seeing as I don't seem likely to fall into the cleared-within-two-years bracket.
A: No you may not have them forever. Are you taking vitamins, eating healthy, exercising frequently, not smoking cigs, getting plenty of rest, reducing stress and rarely drinking booze? A strong immune system results in less reappearances and an unhealthy lifestyle will lower your immune system. I am in that bracket and I am continuing this healthy lifestyle crap to avoid a re-occurrence. Do I miss alcohol? Yes!
2) My partner and I did not have sex, however, he tried to penetrate a few times and we rubbed genitals (without a condom). How likely is it that I infected him, considering my warts are inside me?
A: Rubbing of genitals is high risk behavior, irregardless of wart location. People with anal warts can spread it without having anal sex.
3) Do I need to inform him of the warts? We have not spoken since we ended things, and I'm freaking out about telling him.
A: This is the tricky part. Legally, you may be at risk if you admit to this. How do you know that he hasn't been sleeping with other women since you last saw him? Or he could have slept with someone before you and gotten infected then. Morally, it is the right thing to do but since he and you are both sexually active adults and 85% of all sexually active adults have been exposed, informing him is silly. I wouldn't do it.....
since it was over a year since you had last had a recurrence, odds are you contracted a different hpv infection from your new partner actually. no easy way to tell since it's not likely you had your initial hpv infection typed to compare them. usually if warts haven't returned within a few months of treatment, they won't.
should you tell him? My opinion is wouldn't you want to know if the shoe was on the other foot? since he can't easily test for hpv to know his status, he might want to be taking additional precautions with partners. are you legally obligated to tell him? no you are not since you are no longer together.
Thanks so much for your responses. I think the worst thing about this is how "alone" and different I feel. Silly, I know, but I'm trying to work through it.
I had a lengthy conversation with my doctor, who is now completely convinced my bumps are not warts but are a collection of blocked glands and says that I don't need to worry and don't need to inform my partner. He has had a lot of experience with genital warts, and I am hoping that he is correct here.
Just a final question thought, which I forgot to ask my doctor: How likely is it that warts would reappear in two different areas? My first two outbreaks were external and in roughly the same place: this third collection of bumps is internal.
warts on the genital area aren't any different from warts on your hands and feet. don't let the IDEA of this being a std mess you up. it's just not worth it!!! would you feel alone or different if this was a wart on your hand that you had to deal with?
you can have warts anywhere. best thing to do at this point is have your gyn remove one and send it to the pathology lab for exam.