HPV spread orally through hand-to-mouth contact?

[FeelingHopeful849]

Hi,

I have had HPV for about 16 or 17 years now.  I had a (very) few small warts present at first and got them removed/treated.  They didn't come back until 5 or so years ago and, despite a few cryogenic treatments and the use of Aldara, they're still present.  It's frustrating, but I guess I need to keep getting treated or find new ways to treat them.  Does anyone have any ideas or guidance?  Not sure if it matters, but I'm a 37-year-old straight male in good health.

My main question has to do with spreading HPV to my partner.  I was recently intimate with a woman that I just started dating.  We didn't have intercourse, nor did either of us give or receive oral sex.  There was very little (if any) skin-to-skin contact in the groin area.  What we did do was use our hands on each other.  While she was using her hands on my penis, she stopped a couple of times to lick her palms (for lubrication, obviously), then returned to touching me.  I didn't tell her that I have HPV b/c we weren't having sex.  I always tell my partners/girlfriends that I have HPV before anything serious happens, i.e. vaginal or oral sex.  In this situation, I didn't say anything b/c we weren't having sex and it didn't seem like it was going to happen.  And, if we had started to go in that direction, I would have stopped us and told her about it.  So my question (finally) is: what are the chances of this woman developing oral HPV from touching my penis, then licking her hands?  I'm a little freaked out about it and I feel like a jerk for not stopping her immediately at that point and telling her, or telling her when the kissing turned to touching, clothes coming off, etc.  It was the "heat of the moment" and I didn't know what to do, and I didn't want to go overboard or freak her out.  Can anyone put my mind at ease?

One follow-up question: for the people out there with HPV, when do you find it best to tell someone you just started dating?  Right away, when you're getting intimate, etc?  It's always awkward, no matter when you bring it up.  

Thanks for your help, everyone.  My apologies for the lengthy story.

[iGrief]

I'm curious. If they are gone and only present itself 5 years ago, you could have gotten a new strain of HPV rather than the same one.

Supposedly, from what I've heard. If it is 2 years and you don't see any warts. Then all of a sudden you just did. It could be a new strain. During those years, did you have any sexual encounter or were you fully celibate (practice of abstinence)?

If you did have a couple or a sexual encounter prior to their arrival, it could mean that it is a new strain of HPV virus.

[Wolfcub86]

Hello,
"what are the chances of this woman developing oral HPV from touching my penis, then licking her hands?"
- There are not known researches investigating this specifically, but what already known that the known tranmission is by direct skin to skin contact.
Therfore the chances are virtually zero.

You didn't mention if yopu were still experiencing clinical symptoms, as having symptoms from the same infection after so many years is very unusual.

In addition, please bear in mind that HPV exposure is extremely common through lifetime so fair chances your partner has already been exposed during her life.

Regarding your other questions, there is no "right" answer for them. My general advice is if you tell do it when you feel comfortable and maybe when you get to know each other more deeply.