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Wetting The Bed

Im 14 yrs old about to be 15 in June and I still wet the bed.....constantly!! I wet the bed about 5 times a week. My mom doesnt know about it and i dont want to tell here either. She yells at me constantly cause she says my pajamas stink and so does my room. I hate it when she yells at me and im very sentimental.
Do you think I have a  a kidney problem r something?
Or, Is me wetting the bed going to cause any future problems?
Do I need surgery?
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Dear Estrada,
I am a senior nursing student looking for info about something else when I came upon your post. The term you are looking for is nocturnal enuresis...bedwetting. There are multiple reasons why this happens. It can be stress, heavy sleeper, infection, glucose in your urine or a something isn't correct with the urinary tract. Typically it happens more to boys than girls and when it happens until later in life (as yours is) can be the result of a family history of it. Yes...your parents may have had the very same problem.
Now, what to do. First, sit down and talk to Mom. If she understands how upset you are and that there is a problem, she'll quit yelling. (Sometimes we Moms think our kids are hiding gross things in their rooms due to the smell) She will listen to you and then have her arrange a doctor visit. The doctor will ask you questions that you may find embarrassing to answer at your age, but answer him truthfully because he's not judging you, he needs these answers to lead him to what you need done. He may need to do a urinalysis. Don't panic...it means you have to pee in a cup. No big deal, huh?
He will try to fix this for you. If they can't find a reason for it...there are medications you can use, exercises for the pelvis to help with control and alarms to help you wake up in time.
As for the smell, your mattress may need to be removed and a new one put in. It's OK to have a waterproof sheet under your linens to protect the mattress and help prevent other odors that your friends will smell as well. If friends ask, say your mom puts them on all the beds. They don't need to know a thing.
There is nothing worse than not knowing, being afraid of the answer or thinking you're not normal....you are and you will have the support of your parents. But the first step is the hardest...talking seriously to Mom.
Take care and good luck Sweetie!
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if you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents about this, do you have an aunt or a grandmother? you need to talk to someone who can help you. parents don't always respond the way they should to their own children, but perhaps if you had someone else talk to them first? it must be terrible for you feeling like you constantly have to hide this. please talk to someone. you should be checked out by a doctor. let us know how it goes.
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Hello:

I had that same issue until I was twelve years old. It was embarrassing, and I hated the fact that sometimes I did not have time to shower before school: more embarrassing. I was a heavy sleeper. This might not be a problem for you, but I would sleep so soundly that I would dream about going to the bathroom in my dreams. I found that I did a couple of things that helped me down the line. First, I would restrict the amount of liquids that I drank prior to going to bed. I was going to bed around 10pm, so I would try to not drink any liquids after 9pm: that helped some. Next, I would set an alarm, personal wrist watch, around the time that I might need to go to the bathroom, so I felt that I was being proactive verses reacting to me wetting the bed again.

I do not know if this will help you, but I would talk to your parents about your feelings regarding your situation. I had to tell my mom that I was not trying to hurt her or make her mad by my wetting the bed. She said that she knew that I was not trying to wet the bed, but she told me that her frustrations were getting the better of her when she would get upset with me since she did the majority of the laundry in the house. I told her that I understood her frustration, and I told her that I would try to do a couple of things that might help: the wrist watch alarm and fluid restriction.

In addition, it might be worth it to talk to your parents about making sure that this issue is not due to an underlying medical condition. Get a regular check-up/physical that tests for normal functioning of your body through blood tests and such. This might seem like nothing, but it is better for a medical professional to make the determination that there isn't a dorment medical reason for your current situation verses trying a bunch of behavioral adjustments while a looming medical condition is the root of the situation. Always include your parents in this discussion to make sure they understand your ideas and your feelings. Good luck.
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Hello my friend, well, This is a problem that affects quite a lot of people (you'd be surprised), including yours truly. I had that problem till i was 17. It was embarrasing as i could not crash at a friend's place or go for vacations with my friends.

Firstly, is this a problem that has started to happen suddenly or has it been going on for quite some time. Do you feel any pain or burning or foul smell of your urine? I doubt if its a kidney problem, cos if it was, you'd feel a lot of pain and other issues.

It could be one of few things, but primarily, you should learn to relax a little bit and not get too tense. Don't drink any water atleast an hour before your sleep and make sure you empty your bladder in full before bed time.

Don't worry about what people will say, just talk to your parents and know that there are plenty of people with the same problem. As you get older it will disappear on its own.

Sometimes, it could be that the prostate tends to be a bit weak in some people and they tend to have poor bladder control. But your way too young for all this.

I could ask you more personal questions as these tend to be related to a lot of other root causes, but the best person to help you will be your doctor, have a word with him/ her and i can assure you, you will feel at rest.

so stop worrying and smile!
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I definately feel for you.  Have you had this problem all your life? I don't think you have to worry about surgery.  You probably have a urinary tract infection of some sort.  
I'm not a doctor, but I am a mother.  Your mother needs to know.  I have a website that gives some insight on what might be happening.  Maybe you could share it with her.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003144.htm
Good luck.
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