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967168 tn?1477584489

Welcome

This is about the ups and downs, ins & outs of this precarious thing we call "life" and the things we do to achieve happiness.

How we deal with life is the defining character of who we are, we can let people, circumstances or problems bog us down and drag us under, or we can find that inner strength pull ourselves up by the bootstraps and forge on.

How do you deal with life?  Have any inspiring thoughts or advice?

"The amount of satisfaction you get from life depends largely on your own ingenuity, self-sufficiency, and
resourcefulness. People who wait around for life to supply their satisfaction usually find boredom instead."
- Dr. William Menninger

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Forgiveness: Giving up on the hope that the past will change.

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." - Emerson
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535822 tn?1443976780
Hi Lisa seems a good group, I like the words of Emerson,I guess I deal with ratty days like I had yesterday by blowing off steam for like a minute, then laughing at myself.I dont find it hard to do that or say sorry when I know I am wrong.I feel I am a strong person,and fight for the rights we have like the right to Freedom of Speech I have a fire in my belly for justice and this country...
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535822 tn?1443976780
Hummmm and I am a child advocate, I fight for their rights ......
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I am looking for ways to contribute to society and balance life's demands.

:-)))
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967168 tn?1477584489
thanks for joining and posting

I would love to find a website that has inspiring things to post anyone know of some?

I know life isn't fair, just or even right, but dwelling on the negative things and not looking at the positive things can be detrimental to our lives.  The mind is such a powerful tool, we have to use it wisely and find ways to change what needs to be changed in our lives.

After surgery and me realizing how close I came to losing my family & friends, I started really looking over some of my behaviors.  Even though I thought one way about something, I may have acted differently on the outside.

For example, my youngest son is Autistic - mid range dx when he was 2.  From the time of his dx I spent every waking moment making him try to be "normal" and like my other 3 children.  Well he's not and he's never going to be, even with 30 hours of treatment weekly or me on the hours following up with therapy.

I've started embracing what is RIGHT with him and his disability. He's loving, funny, extremely bright, has a huge memory and can repeat most anything he's read and can read at a middle school level at age 9; he loves anything electronic and has been able to do anything on computers, games or electronics he wants since he was 2 and he has the most infectious giggle you've ever heard.

So what he doesn't understand sarcasm, anaolgies [sp], facial expressions, and he may never truely understand how to carry on a full conversation, but with lots of hard work hopefully he will as the years pass.

Being sick & having surgery really has been a godsend. I cherish every moment I can now with my family & friends, my relationship with them is closer and I let my friends know how special they are to me.

Since I can't drive, I'm homeschooling both younger kids and trying to work on things in life they will need if I'm not here. Sometimes I have to sit at the table with them and hang my head over the side waiting for them to get done with some work or need help. My daughter asks what's wrong and I'm honest with them and tell them my heart doesn't work like it's supposed to and use it as a science lesson and lesson of emotions about caring & empathy.  Who knows, maybe with the lessons on the heart one of them may pick it up and decide to become a doctor.

I forgot to order my meds in time and had to sit most of the day Sunday, so my husband cooked dinner. My oldest daughter called, and while I was talking to her, he got the younger kids dinner and told me it was done. Our youngest son sat at the table and said MMMM cobbed corn...no corn on the cob.

He ate a few min and then said "This dinner is GREAT!" we all laughed and I said to my husband yes yummy, this dinner is good...he pointed at me [his cue I was wrong ] and said no This dinner is GREAT!; of course I ended up bawling like a baby, because spontaneous things like that are so rare and precious from him.

This is what life's about [at least for me] - LIVING, laughing, loving - not sitting around wondering what may happen....that 1 little smile or laugh or breakthrough that makes it all worthwhile.
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535822 tn?1443976780
I like and admire your attitude ,you are a winner, I bet your Family think you are wonderful.I adore kids, whats that they say, 'Out of the mouths of Babes and sucklings'  It sounds like a full life homeschooling isnt as easy as it sounds I know my daughter has home schooled hers, but you know they have turned out to be okay, they are very bright , my only misgivings wre about the sociability factor, but thats not been a problem as they made friends and go out a lot.The older daughter did go to school later and she had so many problems with boys hanging around her , Mom took her out again....
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hi lisa,
margy just told me about your group. It looks like a good one.  I have alot of things to do right now, but I will definitely come back hopefully by tonight or tomorrow.

seeya then,
MO
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967168 tn?1477584489
My 2 oldest children are 23 & 24, they went to public schools and I would have never thought about homeschooling them for a min, until this year our oldest daughter lived with us and our house was always full of "kids" to young adults.

My youngest daughter is 7, if I could, she would be back in school in an instant :P lol  She loved kindergarten when she was in last year until her teacher had to have surgery and ended up not going back.  She went through 6 subs and I noticed her writing fell to the age of 2 or 3, they let her scribble like it was nothing, so I asked her about it and she the teacher said it was great!

Well it wasn't "great", but I wasn't going to crush her. The subs had 22-25 kids and weren't even certified sometimes because of our teacher shortage here, it was just whoever could be there at the time to take over the class.  

When I started passing out driving, and got extremely sick, I made the decision without my husband to homeschool  WOW what a mistake he was livid lol  He didn't know I was passing out driving and I didn't want to tell him.  I felt terrible because drs said nothing was wrong with me for so long when there really was and I knew something was going on, I was sick so much that's all he heard about and I wasn't going to add to it.

After a month of homeschool, her writing and reading; plus basic coloring was so much improved I was glad I did it.  My husband still has his doubts because of "socialization", but I've made sure that we go places and do things at least 4 days out of the week or weekends.  We do most things as a family and find all kinds of ways to be social with others, but not as much as DH would like.  His sister has 2 daughter's that are a few years older so we see them quite a bit too because they live near us.

We own a small swimming pool service & maintenance business, so we set our schedule mostly and can do different things with the kids.   We go to parks, malls, zoos, museums (MOSI in Tampa has great HS programs), there's 2 aquariums here, we have walt disney world passes and go at least once a month.

That's funny I just thought of this when I wrote disney; the first pvc's I remember feeling were going up a hill at Epcot during June 5 years ago lol
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967168 tn?1477584489
welcome; thanks for joining :)

I'm on & off here at times, it just depends on the kind of day I'm having and what's going on physically.

Please join in and let me know if you have any questions
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967168 tn?1477584489
oh I know what I forgot about homeschooling - my husband has a BA in History :)  if I don't know it, he better pick up what I left out since his diploma is sitting in a frame collecting dust lol

Teachers here in FL make very little and we couldn't live with on a teacher's salary.  Thankfully when he graduted USF 14 or 15 years ago, his business was pretty well established and he just sub'd on the days he wanted.
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967168 tn?1477584489
welcome; thanks for joining :)

sorry I missed that you posted this earlier  "I am looking for ways to contribute to society and balance life's demands:"

You know the other day someone said to me, you're an amazing human and I told them I didn't think so, because if I were, I would be volunteering or helping the needy or trying to find ways to raise money for cures to diseases.

There are so many different ways we can contribute to society and one of those ways can be helping others through sharing things and supporting them in their daily lives.

I'm still searching how to balance life's demands because I know I can do more, I just have to get out of the rut of feeling "sick".
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I think this is going to remain a challenge for me too.  So often I want to do far more than realistically I am able to.  Perhaps it is the same for many of us :-)))  

The great oracle...the web has soooo many inspiring things on it.  The sky seems to be the limit as the heart is willing to find and bring back.

:-)))
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967168 tn?1477584489
I agree with biting off more than I can handle, right now I'm just trying to get through min by min and then hours; and I'm through a day, but sometimes still don't feel like I've accomplished anything.
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hi lisa,
you asked for places on the web to find inspiring quotes,,,,I don't know whether you are looking for strictly secular quotes or spiritual stuff too.  I find most of mine from the bible - proverbs has a lot and of course other parts of the bible too.. Of course I also like alot of quotes by different writers/poets too.

And also, you had mentioned if I had any questions, to ask. Here's one,,,as far as quotes, do you want people to just post them and leave it at that,,,,or did you want discussion on the quotes too. For instance, what we receive or don't receive from the quote.  Example, I like some of the things Emerson has written and other things I would disagree with and would state why I see things differently - just for sake of discussion, not  for argument.

Maybe just things I personally experienced and/or maybe to point out what Emerson said does not line up with a spiritual or biblical viewpoint.....Its your forum, so whatever you want, I'm agreeable.  If you don't want discussion on the quotes or scripture and instead to just post them, thats fine with me:o)

I like to see what makes people tick and how they are hard wired so that's my reason for asking.

Take care,
MO


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Avatar universal
But anyhow here's a quote that someone shared with me that I liked alot..

"The fox condems the trap, not himself." William Blake
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967168 tn?1477584489
I wanted this forum to freely share or discuss whatever we are thinking or feeling.

I would say discuss away as long as it's not demeaning or downgrading to another member, that's called respect.

What makes us each so unique are our views and experiences, what one of us experience can be vastly different than the person sitting right next to us.

I know sometimes, my husband will say something and even after 13 years I look at him and say oh I never thought of it that way.
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