I'm a 27 year old male and have basically had full blown erectile dysfunction for over a year now. I'm slim and healthy. I eat well and exercise regularly. Before suddenly beginning to experience erectile dysfunction in the summer of last year, I was quite sexually active and generally had a girl on the go.
Now it's been over a year since I've last had sex and I don't know what to do. I've been to the doctor several times and have been tested for testosterone/ progesterone/ vitamin deficiency et cetera and have been told that all is normal. I went to the urologist and he examined my testicles and said they looked normal. Everyone seems to think it's in my head.
None of this helps me. It's not just me getting performance anxiety when I'm with a girl. If I haven't masturbated in a week or so and I feel energetic and it's the middle of the day, I might masturbate with an 80% erection at most. Other times it's much less than that. In general, I find I've become apathetic and indifferent to sex and this feeling does seem to branch out to life in general as well. If I can't have sex, I can't have a girlfriend, and I can't have a family. So what's there to get excited about?
I've been prescribed Viagra which helps me get a strong erection, but doesn't really cure the lost libido part. I've tried dating a couple times since losing my libido, but don't really feel the pull towards women anymore. I may like a girl perfectly fine, but if she starts trying to be coy or flirt with me or whatever, it really just doesn't do anything for me. And I don't like hurting people's feelings so I've basically given up on dating.
Though I have relatively muscular arms and broad shoulders, I think it's worth pointing out that I've always had a little bit of gynecomastia (especially for someone as slim as I am) and do not have very much facial or body hair. I feel that this is relevant information, however, the doctors seem to not believe so and as I mentioned before, my testosterone results were apparently average.
So I don't know what to do. There's no weight to be lost and no exercise to be increased. There's not one particular thing that's stressing me out, although the thought of a life alone is daunting. I live in Toronto, which has a shock wave therapy clinic for erectile dysfunction so maybe there's hope there. Has anyone used shockwave therapy and had it work (and how much did it cost)? Or has anyone experienced something similar to me and then regained their libido? If so, how?