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My boyfriend of three years, has developed this porn/masturbation obsession. With in the last year. He will lock his self in the office, watching porn and masterbate  for 4+ hours, sometimes even longer!!!!!  (when I  am at work, he leaves his 2 kids 11&12 yrs  wondering what he is doing, why he wont answer the door or talk to them.. when  I get home at 10pm.. he is still in there and has not fed the  kids dinner, made sure they are showered and in bed for school. The boys let me know he has been in there since they got home. The bus drops them off at 330pm.!)  I will be lying in our bed.. waiting & willing and he can not gain the self control to back away. The one time he  does, he will watch it on his phone.. and not be able to perform, keep an erection or is even concerned about me.. Does his 1 week out of the month amphetamine binge play apart in this? What is the normal time a man watches porn? Are you supposed to rub yourself raw? Can someone please give me any information about this. He wants me to be accepting to the obsessed porn watching, because the amphetamines cause it, he says. Do men not have self control like women do? Can someone please tell me how long is to long to watch porn and masterbate.
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Hello, his problem is using drugs as soon as he quits them, as soon he is going to quit on his other addictions, drugs abuse doesn't mean everyday consumption, doing  it once a month on a regular basis is enojaba to know he has a problem with drugs, if be can't stop doing them he needs rehab now.
Talk to him about his behavior so he can realize he has a problem with drugs.
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As mentioned, he really needs professional counseling, IF he understands that he has a problem and is willing to change.  He has several things going on, including drugs, porno, lack of responsibility, to name three.  As you have found, it is a losing game for you to try to change him from his addictions, at least without outside help.      
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This is a strong addiction. Drug-porno-masturbation addiction. He needs counselling.The future of children is involved. Do your best to wean him away from this addiction..
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