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Lost erection for the first time in my life.

Ok guys, I've found myself in a bit of a conundrum. The other night I had finally sealed the deal with an absolutely beautiful girl. This was after some time and multiple attempts. The whole time during foreplay (like 2 hrs ish) I had a raging stiffy. Finally it came time to knock her socks off, and my little head failed my. This is the first time it has ever happened to me. I'm 24, pretty healthy (minus my hernia and asthma), and have slept with 50+ girls. I have had no problems performing in awkward situations (i.e. In front of others, threesomes, etc.). And I pride myself on my sexual prowess. This has really messed with my head. I'm not ashamed of what she thought of it, we actually joked about it a bit. But I'm pretty frustrated, and more than a bit concerned it will happen again.

I'm wondering if this could be from my hernia, although I doubt it because of my previous erection. Or because I had finally opened her up and she became pretty aggressive when the time came (though I have found that strikingly erotic previously). Then I move to the thought that maybe my 2 hour erection whilst opening her up did me in, as I'm sure eventually all erections peter out. I have been told I am particularly well endowed, and am wondering if maintaining that during foreplay is what caused me to fail. Then I move on to my asthma, I did smoke a couple cigarettes that night, as I can usually do that without any flare up of my asthma. Though that night I did find myself particularly short of breath?

I have done some research online, and came across the theory of porn induced ed. I would say I watch porn above what I guess would be average, but I have never experienced any lose of any erection. Literally 3 nights before this happened, I had sex with what I would call a last call settlement and performed up to my usual standards. Even further, one week prior I had my penis sucked in public, with people actually watching (though I didn't notice until halfway through) and had no problems maintaining my erection even after I realized people were watching.

So if you have read through that tirade, any thoughts on what could be causing me to shirk from the spotlight suddenly? This girl wants to come over and stay the night in a few days time, so I would say time is of the essence.

Thanks in advance.
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You've briefly described your experience with women and having no problems in the past with ED in a variety of situations.  Is it possible that this gal could be Miss Right or at least someone with which you have more than a passing interest in, therefore leading to your performance anxiety?  With getting to know her, hopefully you will become more at ease.  
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That was was what I thought most probable, though I do have to say a second opinion eases some of the anxious thoughts. I would be remiss in not agreeing with your suggestion to quit smoking, and it is something I am working on. Especially considering the information I have discovered on cigarettes influence on erections.

Any advice on avoiding performance anxiety stemming from this episode? I have to admit, I have found myself thinking the situation over more than I should, and am trying to avoid the "oh god I hope it works this time" thoughts that may arise when the time comes.
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From what you have described, I tend to agree with you that perhaps a two-hour foreplay with an erection going on may have led to "erection fatigue".  Also, your mention of asthma is another reason for you to quit smoking, along with several other reasons, including its negative influence on erections.  
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