PLEASE HELP! Erectile problems my whole life and im 21

[snuty12]

21 years old, I have always had trouble maintaining an erection in bed. I have missed out on intercourse with MULTIPLE beautiful girls because of this. Sometimes i cannot achieve an erection at all, sometimes I get erect, then I try to penetrate and it immediately dies. EVERY TIME.

Now i am wondering if this is a physical issue or a psychological issue....i dont ever feel like my erections are firm enough and when masturbating it is still sometimes difficult to maintain that FULL erection if i take my mind off it. i do not wake up with morning erections every day, only sometimes. and when i do, they are sometimes not firm very firm.

i've only been able to have successful sex with one girl and that is so devastating to me, since ive missed out on so much due to this problem. as far as oral sex goes, ive never had a problem-- until now. my new girlfriend and i have had no problem with oral sex until 2 weeks ago where i lost it while she was giving me head. ever since, my erections with her have been weak, and i lose them as soon as she begins to touch me down there. naturally, i cannot stop thinking about it. im worried, im stressed, im angry. i dont know what to do, because I CANNOT stop thinking about, and i know this problem is going to recur for this reason. she is beautiful and 3 years younger than me so i worry that these erection problems are going to ruin our relationship.

i do have crohn's disease, and my symptoms have been kind of bad lately. I am also experiencing urniary incontinence  and the feeling of not completely emptying my bladder when i urinate. maybe this is linked to my erectile problem. i dont know.

please help! any advice or input is greatly appreciated!!! has anyone ever been able to recover from this? thanks

[bobbylee1865]

Have you had your testosterone level checked?  This could be cause by low testosterone.

[GuitarRox]

Have you ever had your hormone levels checked?  You are young for erectile dysfunction but it does happen to a certain percentage of men.  A low level of testosterone is one reason it happens.  If you have thyroid problems or blood glucose issues (diabetes?)--  those can also cause issues.  Are you over weight?  

I'd also say that psychological things could be at play if you are insecure with these beautiful women.  But since you have trouble during masturbation too, I'd look for a physical reason first.  

We all have penises and talking to our doctor's about it shouldn't be embarrassing.  They are used to it.  Time to see the doctor and get to the bottom of this so you can enjoy a sex life.