I have a friend who is very kind and wise beyond her age, but she is also very reserved and quiet. We recently have a small, intimate group talk. She promptly told us that if she let someone in her life (I guess closely or in an intimate way), she had this urge to keep them close, and if they left, she would want to kill them, or else, she would want to kill herself. We also asked her about the real reason and problem why she was so willing to listen and give advice to everyone's problem without ever needing to have something back. However, she just kept saying that she honestly didn't know why. She said she just couldn't tell us anything because she also didn't know what was the problem.
I don't know if her answer to our question is okay or not, but, to me, her comment on the urge that she has is truly not okay. Can anyone in the forum tell me why she can have that kind of thought? I'm really worried for her after that, and I also want to know some reasons why someone thinks like that.
Thank you very much!