It's understandable how your fear started. Top floors and bridges aren't the only things that can collapse. We have only to hear of sink holes and tornadoes and earthquakes to realize life is fragile and it makes us contemplate our mortality. Have you gotten counsel about this fear?
Trusting God is good and that He won't allow anything to happen outside of His will is very helpful if you are a Christian. If anything happens to the believer, He will be with us through trial and if we die, we will be with Him, which is far better than down here. Do you know Him?
I suffer with a mild version of the same.
I used to work in an office that protruded over the sidewalk and I was very phobic about it falling down. I had a phobia of lifts, and panicked every time I had to go into one and the other terrible phobia that I had was dealing with all the cables that were in the office. I had to come over my fear because it was my job. I still have a phobia about germs and will not touch door handles in shops and hospitals without covering my hand first or washing the door handle when I am in a hospital toilet room before coming out.
It is a type of phobia. I am very sorry that you are being moved to yet another top flat.
My fear probably stemmed from falling off a table when I was a baby.
I am fine as long as I do not think about the fact that I am not on a ground floor.
Don't worry about your furniture being heavy, the structure of buildings are made so as to withstand the weight.
It may help you to see your doctor so that he can refer you for appropriate counselling to help you overcome your fear. It is no fun living with a phobia.
I have this!!!!
I seriously thought i was the only one... its so bad and it comes on without warning and when it comes its comes hard. I feel heavy in my chest and panic sets in ... sometimes i will have to leave a room if there are too many ppl in it.
I saw something once that stated the average floor can hold up to 40lbs per square foot .. so sometimes i will start estimating .. this room is 10*10 that 100 square feet * 40 thats 4000lbs and ill start averaging what everyone and everything in the room weighs to make sure Im ok...
Honestly nothing helped at all ... until we got our second dog... he seems to be so in tune with me and has truly helped my anxiety about this fear... once the panic starts to come on the dog gets worked up and my concentration goes from my fear to calming him down... in the process changing whats on my mind and making the panic pass!
I didnt want this dog my boyfriend was the one that brought him home .. but honestly he has saved me... this is not to say i never have my moments ... like i cant be in the city due to the fact that there is a metro under and i feel everything will collapse. But when the dog is around i feel like my panic is less and less often :)
This might sound weird but i am so glad to know that I am not the only one suffering from this as well. Been on meds for so long and now i've been on seroquel xr 50mg for 3 days going on 4 now. I have similar anxieties when in tall buildings, most recently a hospital building as a visitor. I also get anxiety crossing big city streets, walking alone at night, and one specifically is driving. I have been driving since 97 to 03 with no problem. With meds i wqs able to get back 70% of my driving ability back. Then i got off the meds and one incident where i had a full blown anxiety attack, sitting in the left turn lane was my last one and haven't really driven since. I hope when this medication really kicks in i hope it will allow me to drive normally again.
So far, about an hr and a half of taking it...it makes me really sleepy, and if i dont sleep it'll make me feel really drugged out. On the bright side, i am waking up feeling pretty good considering i heard from aomewhere that you take it at 12hrs from when you want to get up.
Right now my car isnt with me so its pretty difficult to put this medication to the test, but i did manage to drive a few blocks with my wifes car, but made very minimal left turns or the lights were really kind and was never stuck for a long period of time in the left turn lane.
I have suffered from the same phobia almost my whole life. I fear that floors are not strong enough to hold the weight of furniture and people. I fear that cupboards cannot hold the weight of dishes. I fear that furniture can't hold the weight of people. I will not take a bath (only showers) because in my mind I calculate the weight of the water plus a body. I, too, have suggested a house on a slab instead of over a basement. I rarely have over more than a couple because I cannot enjoy an evening if we have multiple people in our living room. The only thing that helps me is using certain essential oils that are calming. I have considered hypnotherapy to try to find the root of my phobia. I guess I'll let you know if that works.
Wow, this happens to me too. Sometimes in cars too, it freaks me out when a car (especially older) is packed ... I feel like it will just fall apart. Sometimes I can deal but other times I can't get it off my mind. Reminding myself it is silly - a "phobia" - helps but I wonder if there are other ways to think about these things to help ease the worry...
I have had this same type of panic attack since I was 15. I am now 54. I just had one tonight after being at Thanksgiving dinner with too many people in the house. I have spent the last hour panicking about Christmas being at our place. My husband and I live in a upper floor apartment and am freaking out because my son and daughter in law are on the large side. I've been on citalopram for years and for the most part in works. It's just the rare times like these that are debilitating. It is absolutely terrifying to the point I have had to leave my home because I was positive that something was going to happen or have to get out of the car and sit on the side of the road until it passes. I need help!
I have this same fear i wish i knew the name!!!
Wow finally I'm not alone! I get so terrified calculating the weight of everything in the room people and furniture included. My hands start to sweat and my mouth goes dry and I start to feel really sick and need to get out. At work we have staff meetings in this converted cottage and the floor is really bouncy and when the door slams downstairs it bounces so bad and then it starts! The room isn't huge. There's a MASSIVE 6 piece table in the middle with 12 chairs full of people. I always sit near the door but it still doesn't help. I feel sick thinking about it and I'm sat in bed now. I look for bungalows to rent as I don't think I can live forever like this it's horrible. It only started when I was 18 and I'm 25 now. I miss not being scared all the time. I even have nightmares about it. I need help but I'm scared if I get help I will be oblivious to the fact I'm going to fall through the floor so I feel I need to know about it. If that makes sense?
I have this same thing!!! Looking back I had a mild version of this phobia as a child, I would get a sick feeling when the swings would bump. Then as I got into early teens I got anxiety when my parents put an elliptical on the second floor of our home above out foyer... I didn't really notice it until recently I found myself being very nervous at the cottage - asking if trees have ever fallen down on the roof. The cottage was raised, as was the deck and when people walk on the deck I could feel it, when I mentioned that to the owner he said the wood was rotting and would need to be replaced in the coming years. It's only a foot off the ground, and I sat there trying to logically call myself down saying I wouldn't be hurt if it fell but it didn't make me feel any better. The fear is getting irrational... I get sick when I can feel the vibration of the washer and dryer. I even worry about my bed being held up by only four corner posts. I wish I knew the name for this!
I just cried tears to read that others share the exact phobia! It's a relief to know I'm not the only one. Calculating furniture and weight of groceries. The fridge and weight of water in the tub freaks me out. I had this as a child then was finally put on Zoloft. It helped but then I developed (unrelated) fibromyalgia and was switched to cymbalta. I recent went off my meds as I was trying to conceive . I just found out that I'm pregnant. It's going to be a long nine months as the anxiety just started to come back. It's not more frequent and sticking around longer. Someone mentioned aromatherapy. What sents might help? What are some other non medical things you all do to make the anxiety attack go away? I try to take my mind off it but you all know it turns into a snowball once it starts.
I seriously also cried a little reading these replies. The relief I feel is overwhelming just knowing others out there are like me. Everyone around me makes me feel like, its just me. And most of the time I am unsure of how to explain what I feel. Its not normal to them, so they dont understand. This affects me everyday. Even my work sometimes when I have to go to the second floor. We are looking to buy a house and I CONSTANTLY worry about having a tub on the second floor. Or having a basement. I just dont know what to do. I pretend to be like everyone else most of the day but sometimes the panic gets the best of me and I crash. This is the first time I decided to research it and I am so glad I did. I plan to keep looking into it and hopefully find something that can help. Good luck everyone.