Many of us seek time alone to emotionally recharge, to reflect or to explore our creativity or hobby. Loneliness may be felt as a result of a lack of love in our life and can be as devastating as the feeling of grief after losing a loved one. Even in a close relationship, loneliness can be experienced when there is lack of communication and anger and resentment build up. Learning to adapt to a new reality and find ways of reconnecting ourselves is important.
Regards,
Hi crrrash,
You asked if there are any ladies that have felt the same way as you.
Well, I did more than eleven years ago. I was dating this one guy for
more than a year. Unlike you though, we didn't have a child together.
As it turns out, that 's a really good thing. I actually broke up with him
because one day I realized what a control freak he was. I'm so glad
I did, but I took the break up really hard. The break up actually was
one of the factors that contributed to my depression. So , yes, I know
what you mean when you say you're feeling alone. At the time I knew
him, I was divorced. I really thought he and I were really compatable.
All he was interested basically was what I could do for him. I realized
he was immature, selfish and majorily controlling. It was actually a
blessing in disguise because I'm now happily married to a really
terrific man. Anyway, I know how it feels to be alone. My suggestion
is to perhaps arrange a visit to your family doctor. Tell your doctor
how you're feeling. Here's some things I experienced while I was
going through my depression which lasted almost a year. I had
to take time off work to recover. Anyway, I couldn't sleep, virtually
no appetite, severe lack of energy, basically no interest in things
I used to be interested in. I also felt paranoid, I was suspicious
of people I knew ( that's often a common symptom of depression)
all you want to do is sleep but can't., difficulty focusing. Those
are the big ones. Have you told your boyfriend/hubby how it makes
you feel when he's always in the garage with his brother.
My advice though is to see your doctor first. See what he or she
thinks as far as whether you are in a depression. It sounds like it
to me, but get a professional opinion. If you are in a depression,
perhaps your doctor could choose an antidepressant to help you.
I would also recommend personal counselling, i.e. talk therapy.
I wish you the best. This feeling will eventually pass. I did for me.
But I needed help to get better. Depression is also hereditary sometimes.
It was that way with me. The tendency towards depression is in my
family history. I wish you the best. Stay strong. Depression is not a
weakness. You will become stronger as a result of this. Eve