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2198453 tn?1343244740

Ectopic pregnancy/miscarriage support and help needed.

I found out I was pregnant with my fourth child as of June 13 me and my husband were ecstatic! Everything went fine at first and I was just waiting for my first visit with the nurse to have a blood test done to see how high my levels were. I had my levels tested that Tuesday the 18th. I was suppose to call in Wednesday the next day to get the results. Anyways that night I suffered from horrific pain on my right side that started in my lower abdomen and shot down into my groin and thigh and knee. I could not go to the Er and I was not bleeding so I thought it was gas/constipation pains. So I took some tylenol and slept on and off all night long. The next day I started spotting pink and brown blood along with the pain. I called my nurse got my results which were only like 1,078. I told them about the pain and spotting and they wanted me to have another quantitative and ultra sound done right away. So I went to the hospital around 2:30 to have my blood drawn again and then by 3:30 I had an ultra sound done. This is Wednesday by the way. My quanitive blood result came back and they were 1400. When they did the ultra sound the tech and I did not see anything in my uterus. ( I have had three children and I would have been around six weeks pregnant so there should have been something). Needless to say I was shocked. I waited at my doctors office for an hour to talk to someone finally a nurse came out and tried to tell me that it was possible I ovulated late and I may have only been around 4 weeks. Thing is I kept track of intercourse for ttc. So my fertility window and when we did the deed all pointed to six weeks along. Anyways the nurse just blatantly told me my uterus was empty. So I sat there dumbfounded like okay now what? Well due to the fact I was still in pain I asked the nurse if I should just go into the Er since the office was closing in ten minutes. She said yes so off I went. I sat in the Er from 5pm till around midnight. They could not confirm nor deny the idea of an ectopic. They had me convinced it was just to soon for me to see anything on ultrasound so they wanted me to wait till Friday morning and come back and have my levels checked. They pumped me full of morphine and sent me home with vicodin. Thursday comes and after my husband gets off work I have had enough with the pain so around 1:30 I am back at the Er. They take my blood, put in an IV and order another ultra sound. I sat in the Er though from 1:30 till around 8pm till they did an ultra sound. My blood work came back and my hcg levels went up to 1900. So they once again filled my head full of bs. They were like your levels are rising so lets do an ultra sound and I bet you will see a baby in your uterus! So I called my husband with hope. They did the ultra sound and this time the screen was tilted so I could not see anything. I asked the tech beings as I had been at the hospital since 1:30 and it was now 9pm if I could get some pics of my baby and go home I was exhausted. The tech looks at me and says in my non doctor opinion I don't think your going home tonight. She then told me the baby was in my right tube and there was fluid in my uterus. The hospital was busy that night so we waited for another couple hours in the Er room until the finally decided to admit me. At midnight Friday the 21st I had to have Emergency ectopic removal surgery. The surgeon was confident he could save my tube. I went to sleep hopeful he would. I woke up and I did not even get to talk to the surgeon the nurse told me they had to remove my tube. I was also told that I had a lot of blood in my uterus my tube was on the verge of rupturing and if it had and I did not have surgery when I did It would have ruptured and I would have bled out and could have died. I left that hospital confused and scared. I never got to talk to the surgeon and they even gave us pictures of our lil bean doc said he had a beating heart and everything. I could have been just fine not knowing that. It might sound heartless but I did not keep the pics of the baby in my tube. Its to painful to even look at. Any other women go through this and go on to have a successful pregnancy? I just need support from other women I blame myself and feel like its my fault. Like I did something wrong.
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5633047 tn?1371909510
Well I nva had a tubal pregnancy but I understand your pain and I'm so srry about hw it happened and hw the hospital gave you the run around but that's hw I was last Tuesday I had my miscarriage and at 1st they claim they heard my baby heart beat then wen I had and ultrasound they claim they didn't see nunthin but they only went by my hcg levels and they was low just keep yourself healthy and try again wen you are ready also try to have a tlk with your doctor and see if he or she have any and have any answers about the surgery best wishes to you and your family
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Helllo just to give u some hope I had my left tube and ectopic pregnancy August 9th 2012 horrible experiance sounds very similar to yours ! But now I am 9w5d and this baby made it to my uterus ! Never give up hope hun message me if u like xx
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Its not an easy thing to go through and especially doesn't help by getting the run around from the emergency staff.
From what I have read you certainly can go on and have successful pregnancies in the future with one tube, as we ovulate from a different side each month there is no reason to think you should have any problems.
I wish you all the best with your recovery
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I'm so sorry for your loss and for the terrible experience you've had.
I've not had an ectopic but I have had 2 missed miscarriages so I can sympathize with the loss.
This is not your fault, it couldn't have been avoided, unfortunately the baby just tried to implant in the wrong spot.
Its disappointing you weren't able to speak with the surgeon, it may have helped to give you some closure. Do you have any follow up appointments? Maybe that doctor will have the answers you need regarding your surgery.
The nurses certainly didn't need to give you pictures or detail like they did, unfortunately some people just don't understand and don't realise that what they're saying is hurtful.
You may grieve for awhile and that's perfectly fine,
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