How long until I feel normal after m/c

[Sazy26]

Hi everyone.I've recently been on a rollercoaster ride. I'lll try to keep it short - we tried for a long time to fall pregnant, nothing happened so we decided to put it on hold for awhile. So 3 weeks ago out of the blue I find out I was pregnant and had mixed emotions but  after talking with partner was really happy about it. Everything was going really well until Wednesday. I started spotting, went to dr, had blood taken and ultrasound. Showed I had twins and one was dead and sac collapsed and shedding. Also showed I'm not as far along as they originally thought. Remaining twin had faint heartbeat and I was told to come back in a week and to keep my finges crossed. I called my dr and told him what the sonographer said. I asked him if I should have another blood test and he said no, because it would be too confusing to calculate. Then he calls me this morning after he has viewed the scans and tells me that he wants me to have blood tests rightaway. He said if the results weren't good he would schedule me for a D&C tomorrow. So now I sit waiting. I'm still bleeding and starting to cramp. I've cried so much there are no tears left, I feel numb.

Does anyone know how long it takes to feel normal again? I feel like I've lost my mind.

Sorry for the long post.

[Sierr19dol]

Hi,
I can only feel half the pain that your feeling. I had a miscarrage on 9/21/20028. I was in my apt . alone and in the bathroom, when the heavy beeding started. I was scared and alone, I didn't know what to do. I cope with it everyday of the week. One of my co-wokers were about the same amount of months. I see here alot and it is a constant reminder of the miscarrage; but as time goes on it gets easier. The worst thing about is that I am still bleeding and the doc's say that my hg levels are were they should be. I have gotten my blood drawn once a week for a month. I have a doc apt wed and I hope things are were they shoul be.

[BP0629]

i'm right there with you and its not easy. In august i found out i was expecting and it was a shock. it was an emotional rollercoaster ride from day one because my hcg levels were all out of whack. after a few weeks of this ride i was told the level dropped big time and to prepare for the worst. 48 hrs later went in for more blood work and was told the had went up! come to find out i too was pregnant with twins and had just lost one. i was told to stay calm & take it easy and see if the other thrived. I had a natural mc on august 30th at 7wks and 1 day. It took a few wks for me to not feel super empty. the tears came and went, and still do. I have 2 very close friends who are pregnant (1 being my BF & she is 12 days behind me). I'm coming up on my 30th b-day on thanksgiving and would've been finding out if it was a boy or girl...not so much luck so i'm feeling bummed about that. THen for the icing on the cake....I didn't get AF back until October 11th-20th. Then i had unusual spotting since then. I took a home test and surprise BFP! The dr got me in that day and did ultrasound & blood work and my levels were doubling, almost tripling...Unfortunately the 2nd ultrasound @ 6wks showed nothing was there, and the sac that had formed was gone. I was ok with this since it was so unexpected and I had anticipated the worst due to it being so soon & all the bleeding. However...to add to this hellish rollercoaster ride i got a surprising phone call from my dr last thursday telling me to get in for blood work and ultrasound immediately because my levels were still rising rapidly!!!! Come to find out it was a tubal pregnancy so it never had a fighting chance. I had a methotrexate injection last friday, 2 ultrasounds and labs tuesday, and again today...we're waiting to make sure the numbers go down. I've been deathly ill with the shot and the pain is rough...I didn't cry over this loss until yesterday, and again today. As the old saying goes, time heals all wounds....I think we just go at our own pace. It hurts bad enough knowing you lost one, but when the dr rips away the hopes of the 2nd one making it he takes a piece of you and your heart with it. I know...I was just there. We were planning on TTC in January, but now it is put off until February due to the injection I had...but right now my heart doesn't even want to think about risking going through this again. The women in here are amazing and will answer any questions you have. No question is to silly and no info is to personal. I know in my heart of hearts that I could NOT have gotten through all of this had I not stumbled upon this forum. It is the one place I can go and not feel alone. Take it one day at a time, cry on the days you need to, be angry when you feel like it. You've been through an experience that only you can describe and you need to grieve in a manner that is best for you!!! xoxoxo

[Pips]

How are you doing?  I know these first few days are the hardest.  I am now 6 days past m/c and this is the first day I didn't cry.  I still feel depressed much of the time, but had moments at work that I laughed and joked with the others.  It will get better.

Just wanted to check on you.  It all ***** so very much!  Feel free to vent here as much as you need to!

[EricaB28]

I like the pillow idea. A friend of mine gave me a stepping stone kit (it's how she got through her m/c) and I will put it in my garden, when we get our house. Hope you're doing well, keep us updated on how you're doing. :)

[steph9803]

That is so sweet...

[Sazy26]

Thanks everyone for the thoughts and prayers. I had the D&C yesterday, even though I debated whether to do that or the misoprostal.After speaking with the dr, he advised that the risks low and are pretty much even in all options (including natural). I ended up choosing the misoprostal and the D&C. Unfortunately I ended up having an allergic reaction to the general anaesthetic, which wasn't pleasant, so they kept me over night. I'm still glad I chose D&C because now I feel I can try to move on. On my departure they gave me 2x little sewn heart pillows, I've embroided the dates on them and will put them in what will be my nursery one day.

Thanks again ladies ox

[steph9803]

Oh honey, I am so sorry...You and your Angel's will be in my prayers. Don't forget that we are all here for you anytime you need.

[TheMuzo]

Hi,

My hubby and i have been trying for the past 6 years, we decided to go for IVF in August.  I conceived and i lost the baby last week had my D & C last wednesday.  I tell you it has been agonising especially when i think of all what i went through with the IVF process.  

But then again, we can never give up, iam willing to try again, God will eventually give me in his own time though. So Hang in there.  

Before i have another go at IVF maybe someone can help on how to conceive naturally.  My biggest problem has been knowing my fertile days.

May God give you the strength

[bam1014]

I'm so sorry you didn't get the answers you were looking for.  I agree with what Erica said.  Recovery, emotional and physical, are different for everyone one of us.  But we have all been through it and feel your pain.  Please feel free to post anytime you need to vent or just feel like nobody understands you.  That is the one great thing about this forum is that we are all here to listen and to support one another.  Best of luck in your healing.

[EricaB28]

I am so sorry for your losses. The healing process is so different for everyone, both physically and mentally. Let me just say this, we are here for you, anytime you need to vent or need some encouragement you will always be heard. I wish you a speedy recovery, you will be in my prayers.

[LinaG]

I'm sorry for your losses. I wish you both love, support and quick recovery. I'll pray for you.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish I could tell you when you will feel better but it's so individual. I wish you well and a quick recovery. My heart goes out to you!

[Sazy26]

Well my dr said the results of the blood test indicate the worst, I've lost both.

[bam1014]

I'm very sorry for what you are going through.  It can't be easy.  But it's probably more common than one would think to lose one twin.  I know of at least 3 people this has happened too.  Most recently my SIL who kept the other and is due by the end of the month.  Please let us know when you find something out.  You will be in my prayers for the health of your little one.

[steph9803]

I am so sorry for your loss...I couldn't imagine the position you are in right now. Has the dr. called you back yet? It has been 3 months yesterday since my m/c and I still have very sad days...You have to find a way to grieve that helps you. The women on here are wonderful and anytime you need feel free to post or write any of us for support...I will keep you in my prayers...

[nunu1977]

I am sorry for the loss of one adn maybe both of your twins. I lost both my twins at 8 1/2 weeks. i had no idea until I went for my second US at the specialist and he said there were no hear beats. It is actually crazy how often a lady will loose one twin and not even know it. I know it is not nice loosing one but I hope that you can at least end up with one health baby and you don't lose the other one.
when i went for my first UC at 8 weeks mine only measured at 6 1/2 weeks. often dates can be wrong and you arent as far a long as you think.
keep us informed.