Pros and Cons

[megansmommy]

hey all..
heartbroken n confused!!
i was told today (7wks) that the baby no long has a heartbeat. (which there was one there last week). Howeva; I have to go back to the dr. on Monday ( which i will demand another transvag. u/s)  and decide whether I will go natural or D&C.  I had a D&C last sept. with no complications, just hate the thought of it being invasive and the scarring later on.  I have read and read for 2 days and only become more confused with which route I should take. I know its a personal decision, but curious to know what or how others felt between the two?

thanks in advance,

Kim..

[megansmommy]

Same coming back at you baby_dreams ....
he brings you to it, he'll bring u thru it .....

[baby_dreams]

I'm sorry to hear your news. I wish you well and its hard especially having to wait when the wait goes by slow. God bless you and I'll pray you find peace soon because I know its hard, I'm praying for it myself.

[megansmommy]

went this evening after being bumped from noon till 4.  only to find my end results were what i was afraid of a missed miscarriage.  Hoping i was able to get in 2morrow morning for the d&c and dr. informed me i may have to WAIT till FRIDAY!!!! *(&$%*(#&%#*$(%$# is it me or some dr's insensitive... i have waited already 2 weeks!!! :(

[megansmommy]

thomas_943 Good luck 2morrow....
and Lori your story/reply was exactly what ppl ( like myself) look for. and all the other replies also. ty

[megansmommy]

Thank you all.... anticipating and dreading 2morrow's appoinment, but ready for whateva the ansa is at this point. :)  
Wish you all great health and happiness... prayers with you all goin thru and been thru it all..


xoxo
kim..!

[baby_dreams]

well i am currently going through my m/c which is natural i wanted it that way. M/c its emotional, very emotional but natural is what I needed. I think whatever will make you feel more at peace or comfortable you should do. Look them up if you need to and see what seems more ideal for your state of mind.

[LosingBabyHopes]

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I know how frustrating it is because I have been where you are before.  I have had 3 mc's - 2 with D&C's and 1 natural.  It was with my 2nd that I decided to have the mc naturally because I just could not fathom that it was happening a 2nd time.  I was so upset and frustrated and I just wanted my body to go it's own course.  I can tell you that is was very painful and emotional, but somehow it was what I needed to do to know for sure.  

I could not even attempt to give you advice because it is such a personal choice and I do not believe that there is a "right" answer.  Just wanted to share my story and let you, and thomas_943, know my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lori

[thomas_943]

i know how ya feel. i'm waiting till monday to see if my baby is still alive as well. this waiting and multiple doc visits is def quite the coaster. i don't have much advice to offer, but i wish you the best and hold in there.
i have aches too, and also think its just in my head, (but i'm a lil const too, lol) so it just may be the poo. lol. just get some rest and take it easy

[megansmommy]

Started this afternoon with a lil ''aching" in the lower abdoman. As i sit and wonder if its all in my ''head'' because i am more aware of my body right now?.  My heart tells me to just wait it out and then i second guess myself.  Killing me inside now, feeling as tho i think they are wrong,  and cannot wait till monday if nothing happens by then to ask for another ultrasound. :(  with my own doctor. Lots to discuss with him.
   The emotional rollascoaster is taking its toll.  I feel as tho I should know what to expect, i've m/c last sept. and yet feel as tho i have no idea what to expect...  
Thanks again for the opinons.

kim...

[anxiouslywaiting910]

I had mine naturally..but I started bleeding(thats how I found out I was mc'n) so..it was already happening. I was only 4-5weeks never got to find out extactly how far I just had my blood test and mc'd before 1st appt. But I think emotionally I would have been a wreck either way!!  I only bled for a week and it was only really bad for about 4 days..the cramps were bad..but I was already in bed crying so..the physical pain was alot easier to deal with compared to the emotional.  I would definately chose natural over a procedure but as you said its a very personal choice to make.

[megansmommy]

I think emotionally i wouldn't be able to handle the natural route, but tryin to prepare myself in the case that it does happen between now and monday. guess i'll have to wait and see what this weekend brings and see the OB on monday afternoon. The waiting game is horrid.  Sorry for both of you. . Also; congrats to you both.
Wish you lots of luck and good health..

Thanks for the replies,
kim..

[miznmybaby]

i had a natural mc and everything went very well but of course evryone is diffrent and our bodies react diffrently! I passed everythig ormally and think I may have already concieved again before my first af!

[tobbeyj]

Without a doubt I did the D&C - and I had to have 2. I was very worried about scarring and long term effects - and my doc ensured me that this is not the procedure anymore. They don't "scrape" like they used to do. I was completely fine soon after and we got preg immediately after fist cycle. I would not do the natural route personally.