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Thank you all for the support

I am fairly new to the site, but I am so thankfull to have found it.. Everyone seems like such a nice warm hearted group of people. My story is a lil long but I could use some different opinions.. I know its my decision but it really helps! I am 36, I have two great children 18 &15. I got divorced 8 years ago, So now a single mom I started dating.. before I knew it became pregnant!! At first I was mad, then scared, but then the clouds lifted and well I was on 9!!! I had no symptoms of any issues all looked great.. shortly after 6 months the u/s should my lil girl was gone- I went into a huge depression- but after enough self pitty, I dumped the boyfriend and did major changes(all for the good!!) in my life... 6 years later. I met a wonderful man who is 33 no children.. I have my education now, own my own home and could not ask God for anything more!! Well we decided yes we wanted our first child together..(the fighting has been around WHEN???) he wants next year..Im already feeling too old.. Well God blessed us last month- I was so delighted, he well not so much!! I was shocked at how badly he took the news. But the second I had stomach cramps and low hcgs he and every bit of him changed, he began to hope in both the saftey of me and the baby! We heard the hb.. it was amazing the same day we heard him- I passed tissue and started to bleed well after a week of a uphill battle- and the heart beat stopping I had the dnc this morning, he is in another state and wont be back home for a couple of weeks. I cannot stop crying- he asked if I wanted to try again.(NEXT YEAR) I don't think I do!! I really wanted this so bad, and now I can't see going through this again for a possible 3rd time!  Is it normal to be so confused?? any advise?? I don't think not having a child together will end our relationship- and well if it would, would I want it anyway! But I cannot stop thinking about the life changing experience a baby brings!
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Thanks Dawn!!

I know each new day will help, It is so comforting knowing I'm not alone. Good luck to you as well!!
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I'm sorry for your loss Dawn37178. It's really hard to lose a child like that, I lost mine at 14 weeks about 4 months ago and I was so shocked and devastated.  But as time goes by I feel better and better, I have hope and faith that when God wills it, it will happened and all will be fine. I think that in time you will change your mind, you are still young, so why not try again? I think you should first try to find out what caused it and what you can do to prevent it from happening again. Get second and third opinions if you can. And go from there, of course with your feelings. But fist take time to heal and to get on the best physical shape you can and just live your life and try again next year if you want to. Don’t give up. Best of luck and blessings to you
Hopeful K
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oh sweetheart I feel your pain! I too was mad when I found out I was pregnant. Then of course I was on cloud nine as well! I am 34 and have two kids 13 and 7.

It is normal to feel all those things I have learned from being on here..lol

I have the same problem my boyfriend wants to try again as well and I don't know if I want to. I have had a few miscarriages too and I don't want to put myself through it!

It's our choice and our body. No one can feel the pain that you feel in the exact same way. Do what is peaceful to your heart and don't let anyone or anything change your mind. Where there is peace there is God also. He knows what is best for you.
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