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WELCOME TO THE MISCARRIAGE COMMUNITY!

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This is a community full of support and understanding for those who are experiencing past or present miscarriage of for those who have loved ones or friends who may be experiecing one. Miscarriage is a very painful and emotional time. There are so many unanswered questions that we search to try to find the answers. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are not the only ones. Most of us in this community have experienced a miscarriage. That has helped this community to provide understanding and compassion to anyone who comes along. This is a safe forum where opinions may be heard and not judged. We always welcome new posts and new friends. I hope your experience in this community will be a great one. Please feel free to join everyone is welcome!

Sincerely,
Your Community Leader
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3242625 tn?1346792850
I believe I miscarried back in March 2005. I failed to show on a urine or blood test. By the time my doctor ordered an ultra sound it was too late. I was about 18 weeks along. I felt movement and all. My question to all of you is have any of you heard of a test they can do in an exam? My mom was in the room. He did a physical exam and he took a Qtip looking thing and said, "If it turns blue, she's pregnant." It turned blue. He then said well I had been on birth control a couple months prior so that could interfere. I have yet to find out what test he did???? I have tried to come to terms with it, but I am doing the same thing now and not showing. I want to try and figure out what test he did so maybe they can do it again. I would be about 6 weeks my mom says. I have missed 2 periods. My last period was July 3rd through July 9. I did have a light brown discharge on July 31 and again on August 4th. Nothing since. I just am afraid the doctors won't listen again :(
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It's almost impossible to say if bleeding was a miscarriage if you didn't have a positve pregancy test beforehand.  From experience of having had 3 miscarriages tho, I only bled once for about a week.  Your cycles may be messed up for some reason.  do you have a doctor you see?  It would be good to get a check up to find out what is going on.  Good luck
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Hello I'm only 19yr and I had my period four times for two month straight,was that miscarried?or was that really my period? I'm confuse someone please help me thnks you
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I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago, it was my first pregnancy. I flushed it down the toilet in a panic and deeply regret it, I wish I'd held it. My baby did not deserve that. I feel so numb, I think I've been in denial about the pregnancy and the miscarriage and I feel like I don't deserve to grieve my baby. I've been trying to keep myself as busy as possible so that I don't have time to think. I can't cry or anything, I've barely eaten, I've lost almost 2 stone. I'm just emotionally numb, I want to cry and feel something but I can't, its like there is a humanity button which has just been switched off. All I have is this dull ache in my chest, like a physical weight. I don't know how to get rid of it. I have absolutely nothing from the pregnancy, no scan, nothing. I need something that means my baby was real, even if its pain.
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Im so sad I miscarried last friday at 12+2 days :( went hospital wednesday night with slight blood and they said everything was fine and just have my 1st scan on the monday.  Went back up there the thursday cos more blood and got told can't have a scan as no one is available to give me one :( woke up friday with period pains and more blood I rush to the toliet so scared and out come my baby :( was so shocked I could not look closely at him/her I panic as there was so much blood so I flashed the toliet I cannot forgive myself for doing that.  I held my baby in my hand for like 20 secs and could not see any facial features oh I wish I took time to look I so regret that I did not.  Why did I flash the loo why :( ended up have a dnc so sad cant stop crying.
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Hi, all,
Just want to join this community for support and supporting others as we just had our 3rd M/C. It hasn't been an easy journey for us, as each pregnancy took about 2 years of trying. And I will be 37 in 2 weeks.
But I still count myself blessed to have a happy marriage, family and friends, and I know Lord Jesus holds my future.
Don't give up!
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Hi everyone, I am new to the community...I just had my 3rd US this morning and my OB said that the embryo is not growing. I am supposed to be in my 10th week from my LMP. Last week's US revealed that the embryo was 5 wks  and gestational sac was 7 wks. This morning I just heard my OB talked about either to choose on waiting for a natural miscarriage or having a DCE. I guess everything have not sink in yet. I felt like he was wrong and still hoping for the best. I maybe in my first stage of grief at this time. I am glad I found this community as I was trying to find answers online. I felt relieved to know that I am not alone to have this experience just reading the posts. This is my first pregnancy ,we've been trying for almost 2 years now and I'm already 34 years old.
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1773346 tn?1314176605
Hi im new here and have suffered 4 miscarriages in 1 year, its so nice to be in a community with people who understand how i feel, alot of my friends just brush it off, tell me to cheer up and get on with it, but its not that easy. I have 3 children already and fell pregnant with them so easily, so dont understand why this time is hard. Its been over a year since my last miscarriage, we had a 6 month break and have been trying now for 7 months. But the thought of getting pregnant and losing it again scares me to death :( x
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1726707 tn?1362530938
where do I begin. I guess I can start off by saying some days are better than others. I recently suffered a miscarriage on June 30 2011 the same day that I suffered my miscarriage my DH close friend gave birth to their son and I was doing great until this weekend after he went to go and visit his friends baby I felt and still feel very angry with him . There are so many questions goin on in my head I miss talking to my cousin @ Earthangel who has been my rock throughout all this and just you know having one of those days am okay with teh lost of my baby because I believe any baby I have will be my angel baby in another body its just the lack of communication about my lost with my DH. I  wish I could just get a hug from him... Recently its become even harder as I have been experiencing alot including feeling very naucious, tired, dizzy, tender breast, insomina just not sure if this is my stress from my lost or a new pregnancy as I  have had unprotected sex since the m/c. Could I be pregnant 4 weeks after a m/c oh yea forgot to mention i had spotting for two days only in the morning last week what could this mean? I don't believe its pregnancy as I  have waayyy more symtoms than the last time help
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Hello, been lurking here alot since my first miscarriage on june 24, 2011 and this place has just helped so much, Thank you all. I'm 26 and already have 2 beautiful and healthy children who are 9 and 4. My husband and I were trying for almost a year before we became pregnant with the latest one. I surprized him on fathers day with the news and he immediatly told everyone (this would have been his 1st child, so he was excited) and it never crossed my mind that anything could happen because I already had 2 successful pregnancies.

But just a week later I started bleeding reall bad at work and was sent to ER, was there for 11 hours and the doctors were just unbelievably rude the whole time. In the end I was told to go home and be on pelvic rest for 4 days because I was having a miscarriage and there was nothing they could do. Doctor apt. 4 days later confirmed that everything was passed naturally and doctor gave us the go ahead to start trying again.

Just wanted to introduce myself and share my story. Im praying that it doesnt take another year to get pregnant again.
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You are so young and strong and you will have another. I have a story, not quite the same and maybe it will help. My mother had her first born, a son, in 1977. When he was a year old he was diagnosed with neuroblastoma, a cancer in the brain. He died November of 1979. My mom was scared to death to have another child, go through all the pain again, but her doctor told her this: The worst thing would be to deny yourself the happiness of having another child. You have so much love to give and don't let a tragedy stop yourself from experiencing the greatest joy in life, having children.
My Mom in 1981 gave birth to my older sister, my brother a short 13 months after she was born, and then me 2 years later...We are all healthy and happy and I am 27.
so....don't let yourself think for a second that you won't be able to have another child. the loss of a baby is the worst thing you can experience, but in time it will become bearable, and you will get stronger each day...rely on close friends and family for support, turn to this site and find your strength. But don't deny yourself of having another one. You will, I can feel it!!!! good luck my dear
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My husband and I have has several miscarriages. 3 to be exact, maybe more. After my 3rd they tested me for a blood clotting disorder. It came back positive three different ways. When my husband and I become pregnant again, I will have to take a shot one time each day. I am already taking the special vit. called metanx it opens your blood vessels and i also take a baby asrain a day. They found a cyst on my only overy, my left one. He was able to remove the cyst without the overy. He didn't find endometosis. He said my tubes were clean as a whissel. I started my cycle the very next day after my surgery. I counted 12 days. Then the next 7 I would be ovulating. So we are trying. I won't find anything out yet, its still too soon. Maybe saturday? The whole surgry I think is a blessing, because after a surgry it is easy to get pregnant. I know how it feels to lose a baby. Especially when pregnancy is everywhere you go.. Some encouargment from me is to read: 1samual Chapters 1 and 2 in the HOLY BIBLE and exodus 23 verse 25-26. Also TBN prayer line the number is 1-800-365-3732. I really hope and pray this helps someone. May God Bless you! We are to praise God in the good times and praise God in the bad times. Gods ways are always good and for the best. God knows more than we do. Even though sometimes we don't understand we arae to trust him and thank him for what we do have.. Satan comes to kill, steal, and distroy, but Jesus came to give us a real and abundant life. All you have to do is ask him to come live in you..( ABC)... Accept.. Believe.. Confess..
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Hi I'm new to this site, and must say found it very helpfull. I'm 24 years old, and Just went through a missed miscarriage, had a D & C last wk. Can't get over the pain. I' ve been married for 8 months and this was our first child. The only thing going through my mind is if I will ever be able to have any children :(
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1690872 tn?1305942480
Hi everyone. This is my first pregnancy/miscarriage. I went to the ER on Mother's Day, 10 days after getting BFP. I started cramping and spotting 1 day prior and figured I would go. I had an U/S and the Tech said she didn't see anything except a cyst on my right ovary (which I found out later helps the pregnancy and is on the ovary that released the egg) She said I could possibly be earlier than I thought. (Which confused me more because although the pregnancy was a total surprise, I only BD 1 time that month and I am regular 28 days, so when I used calculator I actually BD on my ovulation date! I knew the time conception occurred could throw everything off) Well the DR came in and said my hcg was 39 and he doesn't  consider it positive til 50! And he didn't think I was pregnant but since I was "trying" he wouldn't give me pain pills!! He said it was probably the cyst that made my hcg go up. So I worried, became depressed, researched and everything thinking the cyst I had was cancerous. Well needless to say after all the poking and prodding from the ER I bled heavy, bright red blood for 3 days and then the last day I had contractions (which I never had them before but I knew) I timed them apart and they were way stronger than my normal cramps. I never felt that pain before so I ran to the restroom because it felt like a bowel movement too. Well I passed a reddish-blackish and gray slug like clot. Afterward I felt a little better and continued to bleed for a few days. Nothing heavy. So I went to see an OBGYN and he explained some things to me and told me never to go back to that ER because anything above hcg 5 is pregnant. But that my urine test was negative this time and that they didn't need to do a blood test. And that the gray slug clot I saw was the gestation sac. He told me I could expect my cycle to return 4-8 weeks. Then I saw my regular GYN and she explained further saying she's surprised I didn't get ultrasounds and if my period doesn't return that they'll investigate further. She said the cyst didn't hurt the pregnancy and none of my other medical conditions. She gave me a blood test and I'll find out if it's gone back to 0. I want to buy a urine test so badly just to ease my mind or have a glimpse of hope. I just needed to vent, thank you ladies. I researched that NSAIDS can cause miscarriages. I remember taking many of them for a bad tooth and after I got it pulled. I feel so bad because I didn't know about the pain medicine or else I would have taken Tylenol. I didn't know I was pregnant at the time either but ppl say don't feel guilty even though it's apart of grieving. I will ask my DR about NSAIDS when I find out my results. I searched this whole internet for answers each time after the DR visit when I forgot to ask them or needed assurance. Hopefully this answers someone's question out there. =)

*An Angel in the book of life wrote down our baby's birth, and whispered as she closed the book; "Too beautiful for earth."
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Went for our dating scan and found out we had miscarried at 11 weeks 4 days...that was 2 weeks today, had d&c 1 week 1 day ago. The memory of seeing a large gestational scan and a baby with no heartbeat will always haunt me, It's so hard to let go knowing how close we came to the end of the first trimester. We've started trying again but im not sure whether it's too soon for my body? Bled after the d&c for a few days, it started to go brown (old blood i guess), have been trying and now have started bleeding again with clots, What does everyone think? Too soon after the d&c op? :/. Our little family would be perfect if we could just have what we want and have wanted for a long time :(
Replies would be amazing!
xx
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I'm so glad I found this forum. I am going through my 2nd m/c right now, and have never felt so alone and awful. I feel like no one cares, but really they just can't understand what this feels like. I feel like a failure as a woman and a daughter, even though I know that is crazy. I just want to give a baby to my husband and to my parents, and I can' t seem to do that. I could barely handle the first loss in December (at 10 weeks), and so I feel like I don't know what to do now with the 2nd one (found at at 10 weeks, but the baby was only 6). I can't go through this again and have to act like I am fine on the outside, when on the inside I am a complete train wreck. I want my 2 babies back. That's all I want. My first due date is coming up in June, and I know it's going to kill me.... Thank you for offering a place of support where people DO understand what this feels like!
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I found out I was pregnant the day after my birthday. I noticed a little spotting and thought it was normal but then I started having cramping. The bleeding was getting worse. A week in a half later, I was at work and I passed out. I went to the ER and was told that I had a miscarriage. I was almost 5 weeks along. I'm still noticing that I'm getting bad headache and dizziness now. I'm going to the doctor today to see if everything is ok. I lost a daughter when I was 39 weeks pregnany that was a stillborn. My husband and I are hoping to have another baby.
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1566213 tn?1331000962
As of today I would be 9 weeks pregnant, but unfortunately on Monday I learned that my baby no longer has a heartbeat. I am devastated. I just heard and saw the heartbeat two weeks ago and now there isn't one.  My poor baby is still in me, but no longer living. I think that is one of the hardest realizations ever. How can I have this being in me, yet not be able to provide it with life. I feel as though I must have done something wrong, but no matter how much I rack my brain I can't think of a single thing. I feel cheated and have been asking why. I know there aren't answers, but I still would like to know. This has been very hard for me and my husband. We both have wanted another baby for so long. Last night was really bad for us. My boys went to sleep and my hubby and I just held each other and cried. When will the pain stop.

I may have to schedule a d & c and the thought of that scares me and makes me uneasy. How can I just willing get rid of my precious baby? How do you get past it? I really need to know that what I'm feeling is ok and that I can make it through.
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1590731 tn?1297077367
Hi, i'm new here and would really love to get some answers and support, i just keep crying n dont no wat to do with myself,  
when i first did the pregnancy test that confirmed i where pregnant, i added the dates up and it said 9-10weeks gone, after visiting the midwife, ect.. i started having quite strong pains (not like period pains) .. so i took my self to the hospital, (better to be safe than sorry) .. i had a scan with the vaginal wand.. she was confused about the dates i'd told her because the scan showed i'm only 6weeks, she looked around my womb for 5-10mins and couldn't discover a heartbeat.. she asked me to come back a week later. i returned on friday 4th feb, another scan with the vaginal wand.. after only a few seconds of her inserting it, she said '' it doesn't look good '' , she said the sack has grown but the fetal hasn't and still there was no heartbeat, the nurse handed me a '' missed miscarriage '' booklet , at this point i'm thinking ( she obviously thinks it's dead ), she offered me 2 options, i can come back in a week and try again, or have an operation as my body has not physically removed the (miscarridge) itself. Not wanting to believe it's dead, i took the option of coming back on friday 11th feb. I have no pains, Normal coloured Discharge, and no bleeding what so ever. Me and my partner hope its a miricle baby, but i dont want to get my hopes up, to be even more distraught on friday. I'm scared about accepting the operation, because i keep thinking i haven't given the baby time to grow, but i know i can't keep waiting week after week for something that isn't coming. I have thought of something which i think may have happened, i think my dates i calculated where correct, i think i may actually be 9-10weeks, but maybe the baby died at 6 weeks and hasn't grown since? , please can somebody give me advice
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1582126 tn?1313543024
   Hello am new here, miscarried @16wks (Nov16 2010) just a little scared  went 2 doctors (on Jan 21 2011) and tested positive for pregnancy. Very unexpected !!!!  I haven't had my menstrual in two months but no other symptoms. Tomorrow 02/02/11 going to get my blood results, crossing my fingers
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134578 tn?1693250592
Please see my comment on your other post.  Don't feel guilty, you did not do this, you had every right to feel the way you did and every right to feel the way you do.  It is your miscarriage and nobody else's, nobody can tell you how you "should" feel.  Get your rest and get back your normal tone (pregnancy hormones really spill over and make you almost feel crazy after a miscarriage).  Take care.
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i am new here and having a hard time. i just lost my baby at 10 weeks. found out on Dec g 2010 that my baby was no longer alive. i have so much guilt over not being happy because that would have been baby 7 and it was a very unexpected pregnancy. it took until the 26th to pass everything. i do not know how to deal with this. i feel it is my fault and i don't deserve to grieve because i did not want to be pregnant. i have never been through this and feel like so many people think because i never held this child i should be over it. r they right and me wrong. could really use some support from people who have been there. i feel so alone and confused.
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1534459 tn?1292367958
i am 6 weeks pregnant i started having brownish discharge 2 days ago then today when for a scan to check and the baby and the heartbeat we fine but there was a concern as they noticed the fluid around the baby i was starting to lose some and then i get home and go to sleep for an hour or two waking up in a bit of pain and then started to bleed pretty heavy like a period but now its gone again what could this be? does it mean miscarriage? can someone help me please i am 23 this my 2nd pregnancy i am really worried and doctors not seeming give me the advice i need
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1452285 tn?1285758471
I share each and everyone's grief on this board. If you have gone through or are going through a MC, you are all in my thoughts.

Have been married for 10 years and have been TTC for 5 years. We have been seeing a fertility specialist for the past 9 months and the problem was with my husband.  With a few antibiotics and vitamins the doctor managed to increase his sperm quality.  I fell pregnant 2 months ago on our 10 year anniversary.  We were over the moon by the news.  Our first scan was at 6w2d and there were a little heartbeat.  It was such an amazing experience and one that I will probably never forget in my whole life.  The second scan last week Wednesday at 9w2d was probably the worst experience of my life.  I had a transvaginal scan and the first thing that popped on the monitor was a beautiful little baby. It looked perfect. My husband and I were super excited seeing the little one. The Doctor soon trashed our excitement with his worried face and when I looked back at the monitor I realised that the little mini us had no heartbeat.  When the doctor measured the fetus it was two days ahead of schedule.  I had my hopes up for a split second when the Doctor said he is sorry but the baby must have died a few hours before.  Words cannot describe how I felt.

He scheduled another appointment for Friday to see if there were any changes but I already knew by Thursday that my baby is no longer alive seeing that ALL my pregnancy symptoms have vanished.  All of a sudden I miss having morning sickness and tender breasts.  

I have to go back today for them to insert the pills to soften up the cervix and tomorrow they will do the D&C.  I am so scared and emotional and have no idea what to expect. In my home country my doctor always educates his patients on what the body is going through no matter what the illness.  Here where we live now its different.  It is also very hard to go through this MC without the support of our family.  

Good luck to you all with the healing process.  I trust that soon we can share our beautiful pregnancy stories and have little baby talks for hours on end.
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