mossed miscarriage passing i think any info id appreaciate...

[iris956]

well this is sort of long story. jan 3rd i took a pregnancy test since i noticed i hadnt gotten my pd. all dec. and sure enough it was positive. this wouldve been my second child with my bf. bout 2 wks we went to a clinic to get ultrasound and they said by the size of fetus they said i was bout 4 wks 2 days pregnant. well everything seemed to be going fine i was growin at a fast pace i guess it being my second pregnancy it showed lil sooner. well i have to admit i hadnt gotten assistance yet so 4 weeks went by, but 3 wks ago i kept telling my bf i wasnt feeling pregnant. my stomach was looking a lil bit like it did before i got pregnant, my breast were looking a lot less fuller, and my cravings and morning sickness were gone, and the fatigue id been experiencing was gone. well 2 wks ago when i used rr i saw some blood. we went to clinic again and the ultrasound revealed my baby had no heart beat. he was just there and the sac was still pretty big. they said it was a missed miscarriage.from the measurements hed stopped growing at 5 1/2 wks so they said hed probly stoppd growing wk or 2 after id been der. dey said i could get aspiation proc. or d&c. but me being me i came home looked up alot of cases were women are told their body mite do it on its own and some even waited 3,4,5 wks to discharge of it..well sat. will be 2 weeks since i started spotting, and having small clots. im hoping my body does it on its own. reason im writing is because yest. i had a very stressful day. and in p.m. as my bf n i walkd in store i felt some blood come out.(sorry for the tmi.) id forgotten to put pad so a went to rr. and when i lookd at panties there was a huge clot. bigger then id ever released normally so im wondering if maybe that was sac. i cleaned off and lookd at it it didnt look like it had fetus in it, and today and yesterday have been cramping more than the past days. id read someones story and when she was passing the baby she said she experienced cramping and clottin.today ive had cramps n backache ive been bleeding and just somewhat small clots come out,but very spaced between each. the cramps are super bad as im typing i get em, and they make me pause. ;/ idk if anyones gone thru this n theyd b able to tell me if this is almost over.i tell my bf mayb in couple days we can go get checkd see if baby is still there, and if he is then i mite get procedure done, but im hoping with all hope my body can do this. (sorry bout long story, tmi as well) any info will b greatly appreciated.

[sharry1221]

So far Ive had three miscarriages..( I do also have two beautiful healthy children )...all three were different so as to what to expect I would say expect the worst it could be...mine was last time...August last year..I started bleeding at 7pm and finally it was finished at 6.30 am a night of sheer hell, pain I think worse than labor and the urge to sit on the toilet the whole time and just let the clots pass..the biggest ( in my experience  ) clot is normally the sac and after that it eases...there is no guarantee that you still wont have to have a d&c ( I did even after that ordeal )..and your heart is never quite the same...however. Im still trying :) xx

[Ally_C]

Hi there, I'm so sorry for you. I had a missed miscarriage on Feb 15, a week after I started spotting and having weird pinching cramps. I had my first u/s and the dr said the baby was ~6 weeks, but I estimated I was 9 weeks by that point. There was no heartbeat. Judging from the fact that I'd started spotting on an off, they estimate I had a missed miscarriage.I went in for my scheduled 2nd u/s a week later to make sure it had stopped developing. They asked me if I wanted a d&c, and although at first I thought I'd agree, my hubbie and I decided that we'd let nature take its course. A few days later it really started coming, more blood, but the tissue/clots didn't start til the night before the miscarriage. The m/c day, I'm lucky it was a Saturday and I was at home, I was on the couch nursing my cramps. They're similar to period cramps but the bleeding isn't...it kind of wells up inside you, then you move, and it leaks out (and you feel it no matter how thick your pad is!). Anyway, unpleasantly, I was on the toilet (it was the only way to fully relax to let the blood come out), I felt something slip out and sploosh into the bowl (sorry for the TMI!). It didn't feel like a normal clot. So I looked- it was pretty obvious it was the sac- for me it was like a small chicken egg and clear with some red tissue attached. I did have a good look at it but I couldn't see anything inside (I was shaking!). Then a few hours later the placenta, the tiny tiny gnarly placenta, came out to my horror, also while I was on the pot. My poor husband cried, "Oh no, was there a second baby?" Sigh. Anyway my bleeding was heavy that day and the next, and I think it tapered off a few days later. My dr had me come in for a final ultrasound to make sure all the tissue was out- if you go the natural route, make sure your dr does an "all-clear" with an ultrasound. If the tissue isn't out you can keep bleeding, or your body can think it's still pregnant, or you might get an infection. Anyway in addition to all this, I've had a weird pinching pain on my lower left abdomen even after I stopped bleeding. I started my first period a few days ago and FINALLY the pain stopped. It is truly weird. The dr's were baffled.

I hope this helps. From the sound of it, if you're bleeding and clots are coming out, it's already started. It's an emotionally painful process, but take it easy and don't be afraid to take time for yourself. Your bf might not be as sympathetic, or he might. People grieve differently but be there for each other. You'll get through this. Good luck xoxo

[abz2011]

i jus wana say sorry for your loss, i had to have a d&c after my 2nd miscarriage as i couldnt stop bleeding, docs wer worried and said it would be the safest option, i wish you all the best