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pregnancy symptoms w/ mc coming

This isn't so much a question, but I have no one to talk to so I'm putting it out here just to get it out.  I don't know if anyone can relate, but here goes:  I know I'm going to mc.  My first bloodwork  hcg was only 25 and I should have been 6 weeks. What I'm finding so difficult is having the pregnancy symptoms when I know nothing is going to come of this. I find myself touching my breasts to make sure they are still really sore. And I feel excited when the flood of nausea comes over me. Then I start thinking, maybe they messed up the tests. Of course, then I have to pull myself back into reality.  It seems like my body  dragging all this out is just cruel.  I just wish that when a mc is inevitable the body would just go ahead and let it go.  Maybe this sounds harsh, but this is just so hard.  I want it over with already...not so much so I can move on and forget, because there is no chance of that, but the constant reminder that I'm pregnant and I'm not going to actually have a baby is too much. When will these symptoms go away??  And when will I finally mc??  

With my last mc I had a d&c the day after the u/s showed no heatbeat and so I didn't have to sit in all of this, so to speak.  It all happened very fast.  This time I'm not having a d&c. I haven't even had an u/s.  I'm just waiting.  It's awful.  I think I've posted a few times as well and I'm sorry about that.  I have nobody to talk to.  
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1208625 tn?1284765466
A D&C after a miss is very important especially if you doctor recommends it, it gets rid of everything left inside, i had a d&c done and it heals up in about 3 weeks. The next pregnancy will be much better.
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I'm sorry you two have gone/are going thru this too.  I'm sorry for everyone here.  It's so painful.  I started bleeding two days ago and I was relieved.  It's been really light (only used 4 tampons so far and they haven't been full)  and I'm thinking maybe that's bc I lost it so early.  So if this is how it continues until I stop then I've been lucky...no pain at all, not so much as a cramp.  

Badger, don't feel guilty for 'wanting to get it over with'.  I felt that way too.  Once the baby has been lost and there is nothing else to do we just need some closure.
My doctor's nurse  said I'd not have to come back in anymore since my levels were so low to begin with. I've never even met the doctor since this was a different one from my previous preg/mc.  

Thank you all for being so supportive.  I really hate that so many women have to go thru this over and over; it's just not fair, is it?  Take care
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I also found out very early on that I was going to miscarry as my hcg dropped from 2200s to 1900s in 2 days, then a week later 1400s.  After now waiting another week I am going to get a prescription to force contractions and open/soften my cervix.  I really had hoped to miscarry naturally.  Emotionally I can't take it anymore.  I have had issues even shedding my menstrual lining in the past so this is the next best option for me as I truly feel that my body won't do this without help.  I also do not want a d/c.  I can relate to everything you said, for a fleeting moment during my hysterical crying and internet research, I tried to convince myself that maybe....just maybe...I had a vanishing twin.  Obviously not, but I was grasping at anything.  I have come to terms with reality, but these two weeks, two sleepless, hungerless, nausea filled weeks, have felt like two years.   I have guilt for wanting to "get it over with", when this is a child I tried for a year to conceive.  But whether I want it to or not, it is going to happen, there is no hope that a mistake has been made.  So I choose to do what I have to do for my physical, and more importantly, my emotional health.  I hope this helps you to know that you are not alone in your pain.   As for your question of when, it can and unfortunately often does take weeks to miscarry when detected by early hcg testing.  However, I am an advocate of keeping in contact with your health care provider with your questions or concerns.  I would assume they are continuing to monitor your hcg, as mine said they will test weekly until I get to zero.   Given that this was very early in the pregnancy you can ask them at what point they would do an ultrasound to see what is going on and  at what point they would be concerned for you medically if nothing had happened on its own.  Never be afraid to tell them if you want a certain test done and why.  Good luck.
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1449758 tn?1292505600
Don't you dare apologize! Talking and venting is good way to cope & I'd have to think that everyone in this group understands!!!

So sorry you are going through this is slow motion! I was already 15 weeks into my pregnancy but lost the baby 3 weeks prior w/o any miscarriage signs/symptoms, so I opted for a D&C so I could hurry up and have closure. I can't even imagine having to wait.

Talk, write, cry. yell... whatever helps! Nothing is a better healer than time though = (
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Thank you all for you understanding.  I just got a call from my ob nurse and she said my second levels have gone down a bit.  She said I don't need to come in or have anything else done.  I just have to wait.  She said she didn't know when I'd start mc.  So that's that.  Just waiting. And crying.  
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I say post all you want, it may help you to feel better.  I know what you are saying when I was first pregnant, I did all the same things, trying to make it seem real, and then with a loss you just cannot stop.  But you havent miscarried yet, so maybe there is hope.  you need more bloodwork or an ultrasound, call you dr tell him what you feel and maybe he will order an U/S.  hang in there.
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1105753 tn?1374287348
I'm so sorry you are going thru this. I know how awful it is. Are you going to have another blood test or US to make sure? Maybe your dates are off and you're not as far along as you though.
I don't want to make you feel worse but I had a d&c at 11w. The baby apparently passed at around 7 w. I never had a natural miscarriage and still had symptoms up until the d&c date. I wouldn't think that would be the case though if your test showed only 25hcg.  Anyway, if you need to talk feel free to message me. I can't make things better but I can listen. Take care.
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1430121 tn?1316180923
So sorry you are going thru this. I just had my first m/c in August, right about a month ago. I had an US that showed no heartbeat and it was 9 nine days later that I had a D&C, so I understand when you talk about feeling all of the pregnancy symptoms and then wondering who's right, am I still pregnant, is everything really OK or what.... It is very difficult. And it makes it even harder when you feel like you are going thru this all alone. It does help to be able to talk about, for me anyway. I will say a prayer for you!!
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