try one more time????

[amy8702]

Okay so, I kinda have a long story but in 11 months I've had 3 or 4 miscarriages.

Here is the link to my story
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Miscarriages/I-just-need-to-vent---devistated/show/1574173

So, at this point, I am eligible to be tested to find out why. However, something is telling me to try one more time. Like the feeling I had when I woke up on morning and something told me to take a HPT (which resulted in my now 2 year old son)

My question is, should I take the chance and try again or, should I just get the testing done??

Thank you in advance.

Amy xoxoxo

[amy8702]

I really hope its something simple, I can't handle this anymore!

[jleelynn]

ahh really babes ... thats good news at least you will get some answers ... i need answers so im pleased to be getting tested .. look on the bright side we will be ok and it will probs be somthing fixable... its  amazing what can be done these days .. keep in touch and let me no how it all goes :) much luv hunny xxxxx

[amy8702]

So, I finally got an appointment with an OBGYN. Its next week Sept 14 and I'm sooo scared :(

[amy8702]

Well, I finally went to a clinic to get a referrel to an OBGYN to start testing to find out why and I'm terrified! We can't afford any kind of fertility drugs so I hope it doesn't come to that.

[jleelynn]

hi sweety just noticed you wrote back to me ... i normally get an email when ppl reply but its stopped now.. strange but any ways hunny your soooo right abt feeling a failyer but hunny you so aint its just whats gona happen till the right one comes along ... i feel the same but wonder what the hells wrong with this one  and why does it keep happening but if i go of the many things ppl have told me is that it will happen for ppl like us and deep down it really does happen for a reason .. one more thing hunny the urge thats getting stronger is unbarable aint it :( i want it sooooo bad to but my partner wants to wait a few month and its killing me but i have to respect his wishes to... ive managed to get him to agree to november to start again :) so see what happens ... stay in touch my love and sending u soooo much baby dust :) xxx

[amy8702]

And the urge to try again is getting stronger!

[amy8702]

Its just so hard, more waiting! The whiole situation stinks! I do want to the know the cause; just so I can have closure. (If that makes any sense) but I'm so scared that they're going to tell me I can't have anymore kids unless its IVF or something. There's no way we could afford that. I've never wanted something so bad in my life and I, myself, feel like a failure as a woman. We're meant to have children! Every day the goes by, I find this getting harder not any easier.

[jleelynn]

i to have had a similar experience hunny and ive also been offered testing which i intend to go for, how ever i no were your coming from but at the end of the day if your wanting answers testing is the only way forward :) just think sweety once you do the testing and hopfully get some answers then you can concentrate on all things going in the right direction. i start my testing on the 5th of october so to be honest i hope they find somthing that can be easily treated so i no my losses happened for a reason and i can move on and start my own little family.. i wish you all the luck and baby dust in the world :) xx

[StephRox13]

My story is very similar to yours, I won't bore you with mine just the parts that are different & the testing I did have done & results.

I'm 33, I have PCOS & we have a 10yr old son. We've been ttc for approx. 6yrs, doing clomid, a couple of different times with no luck. Then starting July 2010 started my getting pregnant & miscarrying routine x3. After the 3rd time I had bloodwork & HSG done which all showed nothing wrong with me & no reason why I'm miscarrying. Just really bad luck my OB says.

I am currently 7 weeks pregnant, took my HPT a couple of weeks ago. This next week i'll go to the Dr to confirm (hopefully) and set up my 1st appoint.

Go with your gut your heart. Take the time you need for you. After the 3rd miscarriage I took me time, got my mind & body healthy. I feel great this pregnancy so far and I'm hoping that's a good sign since I felt like crap the ones I miscarried. Plus in the pregnancies I miscarried there seemed to be something wrong right from get go, so fingers crossed.

Something I learned through one of my husbands friends about my husband & his distance especially after the 3rd mc........he felt guilty that I kept losing my babies. He thought it was his bad karma coming back to get even. So really take that me time, find yourself again, find your love again with your man. Quit trying so hard (easier said than done). God knows what he's doing even when it just breaks our heart. Our babies are Angels with Him and we'll get to meet them one day.

Good luck.

[trying43]

My insurance doesn't cover any fertility treatments or meds. You can order them via internet fairly cheap esp. the ones I mentioned. Good luck.

[amy8702]

I'm in Canada and progesterone supplements are expensive here and our drug plan doesn't cover fertility drugs.

[trying43]

It may be something simple.  You may need progesterone supplementation which costs approx. 35 bucks without insurance.  Not all fertility drugs are expensive.  You can even go to the manufacturers website and they offer coupons.  I got my femara for 10 bucks!! Sometimes u need clomid or femara to help u ovulate better and produce higher quality eggs that may be the case with u. After my 2 m/cs something told me to try again and we did and had a healthy boy. Sorry for ur losses.  Good luck.

[amy8702]

I think I'm scared to find out what it is. Because if its not something simple, we can't afford fertility drugs.

[30094mom]

I'm so sorry for your loss, unfortunately, I've been there. I can't put into words how reading these posts have help me through. Your have to follow your heart. But at the same time, that many ms in such a short time seems like a medical issue that needs to be looked at by a specialist. Who knows, it may be something simple ......