Ive very recently miscarried (scan at 12 weeks showed only 9wks5 days and no heartbeat) and was told bleeding can last anywhere up to 5 weeks afterwards any of the 3 options. Im waiting it out for a week before deciding whats next. Options are pretty limited and im scared.
Was told you should wait at least 2-3 cycles so you can become regular again and can calculate ovulation etc.
hi there, sorry for your loss too. was this your first pregnancy? thanks for your reply. i was the same as you, i knew i was 12weeks but scan was only showing 9.5weeks and no heartbeat. although it was my second pregnancy it was very hard for me, i just never imagined something like this would happen to me (as we all do) but once you except the fact that, it wasnt meant to be and that it happened not because of something you did but, because something wasnt right. I have since been back to my obgyn and she told me that you can start ovulating anywhere from 4-8 weeks after a miscarriage and that you dont have to wait 2-3 cycles like some people say. As long as you mentally and physically ready to try again then go for it. I believe i am ovulating now ( 3.5 weeks after curettage) and we are trying again. Best of luck to you
Thank you for your encouraging words. Yes, it was my first pregnancy that happened a month after my ob/gyn diagnosed me with adenomyosis(thick uterine lining).
I ended up miscarrying naturally on the 8th, went to a&e the 9th, was released at 1630 all clear. Had a followup on the 12th and all clear. Im recovering slowly, bleeding seems to have lessened (although ive heard this happens and then starts again in full force...wonder what thats about..its only been 12 days) but the emotional scarring is slow to disappear.
Im so sorry for your loss. It hits hard. My cousin -in-law also had one a few weeks ago, her second pregnancy and first miscarriage. It seems to be more common than i first thought. Good to know we could potentially be ready in 8 weeks. Im staying positive but not in a hurry to try so soon, i still cry every night and still feel so lost. I mean, ive nade plans for this tiny being and suddenly he/she was no longer around for the ride. Its so heartbreaking. Ive done all i could and have accepted that we had no control over this.
I hope you are recovering well and best of luck for the next few months. Hope to see you on one of the 2015 forums of mums-to-be's, lol. We will make it, Im sure of it!
well i found out i had miscarried on my birthday! i was expecting to come home from my appointment and put a picture of my little scan up for my friends and family to see and i would be an early birthday gift to myself but no....i cried all the way home. my partner was super excited about this pregnancy and his face when i told him the news was devastating. you where probably the same but, i couldnt believe that would happen to me! why? you know. It was a missed- miscarriage so, i was unaware. i still had morning sickness right up until the day i had to have the curettage. this pregnancy was a bit of an accomplishment for me as i have polycystic ovarian syndrome and my first pregnancy was assisted with clomid and with this one i just fell naturally. so i kind of felt like it was meant to be and then to have it taken away was shattering. i feel your pain x keep your chin up and dont let it bring you down too far! i take comfort in knowing that he or she is looking over us all. you should think the same, you need to heal and pick up where you left off <3
Wow, same. My scan was the 5th, our celebratory trip for a few days the 6th and my bday the 7th and miscarried 8th. It was the saddest day/time of my life.
We are on holiday again since thurs 21st due to middle brother in laws wedding and sis in law (youngest bro in laws wife) is pregnant with baby number two...ironically they made their 12 wks announcement on the day that i miscarried. Terrible blow..so its been hard being around her. My body still looks pregnant but im not and she is..so i cant get myself to be around her. Im not sure if mum in law told anyone else but they only spoke to us about our miscarriage when we saw them alone. Hubby and i havent spent a lot of time with the bros and wives together and perhaps our absence seems obvious but it hurts walking past mum and baby shops, seeing pregnant and new mums with tiny babies and now sis in law. Im so afraid to cry infront of people so best avoid them til im ready.
I know what you mean, why me and what did i do wrong. I felt at my healthiest and happiest whilst pregnant, no period from hell, just sore boobs, cramps and nausea then at 10 wks it subsided and i thought trimester here i come but just 3 days before our scan i started leaking something which i thought was discharge and when asked about it i was told its normal. Even on day of scan i felt those tiny cramps thinking my babys alive but the scan revealed an underdeveloped little body, no fully formed legs and no heartbeat... then we knew.
So its nearly 3 wks later and my bleeding has stopped. Feeling good, still look pregnant but in a way ready to try again. Not sure if its too soon coz of no period yet but we will see.
How are you feeling these days?
wow, thats crazy. Do yourself a favour and dont bottle up your emotions, if you feel the need to cry, cry. grief takes a toll on your body too so, you have to go with it to be able to come out the other side.you might find that having all these emotions, sadness and stress might play around with your cycle getting back on track? if that makes sense? i am feeling good to be honest, my body is back to normal (on the outside) and we are actively trying for a baby again. Although i havent yet had a period since the miscarriage. My obgyn said that you can ovulate 4-8 weeks after miscarriage so, some women just fall pregnant straight away and dont even get a period. im feeling positive! it may just work but, i have found that after the miscarriage ovulation is a bit harder to track? its a bit on and off...one day the signs / symptoms are ther next there not then they are back...so we will see, im just listening to my bodies signs and seeing what happens. I know what you mean by seeing things that remind you of what you no longer have, i had this app on my phone that sends me updates on how many weeks i am and what the babies progress would be, and i got on the other day saying "your baby would be this big" and had a picture :( [just a reminder....damn it! lol
just did a pregnancy test thismorning and i think i can see a very faint line, will try again in a couple of days....
Wow, so exciting. Im on holiday with family for bro in laws wedding that was yesterday and was supposed to test friday 29th..my test is supposed to show negative to ensure all is well. Let me know how you get on, im so craving good news right now :)
Have been doing well but yesterday discovered my mum-in-law told some aunts about my mc and yesterday one of the cousins loudly said it infront of others and ruined my day. So now it feels like everyone suddenly feels pity for me. Slept badly and can now see that grief is hard and that im still not back to normal. Hope youre still doing well.
that ***** when that happens i know how you feel, people seem to think that you should be over it by now..they dont understand if they havent been through it themselves! some better news...i did another test and a second line is definately there it is faint but visable, so it would only be early days and im afraid to tell you but even when you find out the good news that your pregnant again you cant help but start worrying straight away! im trying not to let it take over me but there is a small voice in my head saying " is it going to happen again" STAY POSITIVE RACHEL! i keep telling myself lol. hows things going so far with you? do you think your ready to try again soon? im shocked at how fast ive fallen pregnant again its only been a month and a bit
Im crossing my fingers!!! Wait til end of this week and test again. I hope it turns out the way you want. Im still not sure if its still too soon for us, 8th aug. We are trying again...trying but not trying if you know what i mean? Im also not going to get my hopes up this time. Maybe just act as if its not happening once we get another positive. The disappointment was just too much to handle.
i think i may be ovulating soon..although the symptoms arent as clearcut as before. Usually i get this one annoying hair on my chin and that hasnt appeared while i was pregnant, so guessing its soon. I feel ok most days, maybe i was just so shocked that ppl can say 'because you had a miscarriage' out loud infront of relatives...well intended but its still a sensitive matter.
My test was negative, so i assume im in the all clear...?
hey! sounds like your all clear to me,im still in lingo as to if im pregnant or not...i mean surely i must be if i am getting a faint second line? the only thing that is throwing me off is that a friend said maybe its still picking up on your hormones from the miscarriage....and i had a blood test done yesterday and was waiting for my obgyn to say yes or no and all she said was that she wants me to repeat it in a week, so maybe its just too early or it could be mistake all together? and even though you say "i dont want to get my hopes up" you do....you know, i just have to say that i enjoy talking to you x
hi, well unfortunately the second line showing up on my pregnancy test was in fact a positive reading only because my hormones where still showing up from the misscarriage. so, no luck for me there...i knew i shouldnt have gotten my hopes up! i have just started on a round of clomid (as i did to concieve my first baby) so hopefully i will have some good news soon if all goes well! how are you feeling? whats your progress.
Oh dear, im sorry to hear but sadly, somehow not uncommon at this stage. Is clomid for regulating ovulation? Have you been to see your gp yet?
We are back from holiday and being home brought back memories. It was where i fell pregnant and later where i recovered after miscarriage.
Healthwise, im fine. No pains anywhere, just feeling good and on emotional side im sad about the loss and feeling eager to fall pregnant by 6 months and thus still keeping healthy. Ive made a gp appt for next monday, so we will know my overall health status and whether im ready.
Some say cycle day1 starts on mc day unless d&c was done. I didnt have one so im curious about the next few days. Im having these funny sensations in my belly and feeling hot even tho it isnt really that hot but maybe i need to take it easy still/mindtricks. Its been 4 weeks since that sad day but the memories arent as vivid as before and i feel hopeful everyday. Ive accepted your invite, pls check if you can inbox.
I am so sorry for your losses i myself have had a few losses and you can try and conceive again straight away ( some doctors even believe it can increase your chance of twins because some women over ovulate after a miscarriage ) but most recommend waiting 3 full cycles so you can become regular and know how far along you are. It can be very hard dealing with people who know about your loss because often unless they have experienced a loss themselves they believe you in fact have not lost anything often saying " it wasn't even a baby yet" or " you didn't even know it " And they believe we should just carry on like nothing happened. But that is not realistic. To us they will always be our angel babys and forever in our heart. I wish you ladies the best of luck in your Future and that you hold your rainbow babys soon
I lost my son last month at 17wks :(
had a d & c September 15th because of retained placenta after delivery and bleeding stopped about 2wks after that. period came oct. 13th and ended 19th. we started trying again the 21st.
best of luck to you all!