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hi ladies thank u for reading my post .... im not exactly sure on how far i am but i found out i was pregnant on the 27 of feb confirmed with home test and blood test it was very exciting then on the 9th of march i started spotting and this stopped and started for 2 weeks it was never heavy enough for a pad it was light coloured then a darker brownish red then a brown discharge. never had cramping ive been getting blood work since i found out i was pregnant its gone from 134 to 1217 ,3930 to 5900, 8000 , 14000 , 23900 to 33700 and my last hccg level  were 34935 so my doctor said it didnt look good so i got an ultrasound and they could see a zac a yolk sac of around 6 weeks old and somthing that looked like a fetus but it didnt have a heart beat there were very unsure if it was the fetus but they said i most likely to miscarry sent to the emergancy and they said to come back tuesday for a d&c  well i havent bleed for a week no cramping i just feel like there wrong but i have had a miscarry at 9 weeks the fetus stopped at 7 last year in september so mbye im just not wanted to hear that im goimg to have another miscarrige im just so devestated i cant let go i stil want some hope .... i decided i wont get the d&c till my body starts to clean out its self then il get the docs to do a D&C  cause if i dont feel the pain and see the loss i will feel like ive just had an abortion and i dont think i could live knowing i just gave in like that ... im hoping someone here might have sone adivse for  please no nasty emails i was on yahoo and the people there were cruel they said i should get stitched up im not meant to have kids so i ask please be kind :) thank you ...Angel
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just asking ur opinion do i have to wait for a peroid first before we start trying? the docs say wait 4 weeks before intercourse but then doffrent woman say they didnt wait and have had healthy babys ? im confused again
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I'm so sorry angel :(  you've been on such a rollercoaster of emotions.  :(
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hi guys i have bad news i have had a d&c the baby stopped at 6 weeks im supposd to be 10 weeks now so hopefull i can get back on with things and start again thank u again for your support
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hi sorry to hear that but i honestly think we hang on to anything just any bit of hope im stil non the wiser i go 2mro for another scan hopefully they can give me answers but really they shouldnt push u into having  a d&c cause emotional u werent ready at all in saying that i too was 9 weeks and had a misscarrige i saw the heart beat at 6 weeks i started spotting at 9 weeks and confirmed i was having a misscarrige i didnt get a d&c i couldnt but wen the fetus past through it was horrible and pain full i had to be rushed to emergancy they gave me pain killers and then i went to the loo and it fell out of me it was just under a size of a tennis ball ..i know u must be hurting and feel u made a mistake but stressing about it now is only going to hurt u just trust yourself and your doctor cause really if u saw sumthing at 6 weeks then nothing few weeks later sumthing must of been wrong i really dont have the answers im good at giving advise sumtimes but really id probably thinking the same way u are now if i went through that its such a frustrating experience the worse thing is u have no control u feel so lost and hopeless well i know i do i really feel like a failure its horrible ... il let u guys know 2mro after ive been to the doctors whats going on ... but stay strong if anyone ever needs to chat il try my best to help u the way u guys are helping me thank u
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Hi I just wanted to say that that is exciting news.  I had a D&C last week at 9weeks.  I went in for my ultrasound and they couldn't see ANYTHING!  The doctor said I had a miscarriage but no cramping or bleeding.  I went the the hospital the next day and they did another ultrasound and didn't see ANYTHING again!  No evidence of any baby at all.  (I had gone at 6weeks and seen the heart beat so I know I was for sure pregnant.)  They did a D&C that day.  I just kept thinking that maybe it was a mistake because I felt pregnant and didnt have any bleeding or cramping.  But I did it because the doctor said if I left it I might get an infection.  But now reading the last few posts I am wondering if I was still pregnant and they removed my baby!!!  I am really kind of stressed out about it!  Could that be the case???
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thank u .. you have been wonderfull to me :)
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Oh hun that is some hopeful news that the baby has doubled in size!!!  Praying that all goes well for you :)
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hi guys .. wel my bloods dropped again to 2100 which isnt normal my doctor said but in saying that she said she stil cant tell me whats happening cause the  baby has grown but stil no heart beat so its a very odd situation i asked her if she had come across this before and she said yes sometimes itworks out sometimes it doesnt so i have some hope yet i still havent got bleeding or cramping im feeling really good but stil none the wiser she did mention that they cant detect a heaart beat till the fetus is 6mm and my baby is only 4.9 which it was  only 2.4mm last week so its almost doubled in size im just hoping for the best right now:)  i go back for more test next week thursday, and im finally aloud to go back to work im a childcare care worker so immising my little kids there they will help me through and forget about things for awhile:) thanks again for listening guys .... angel
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Hi angel, just to let you know I'm thinking of you today and I hope everything turns out ok for you.
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thank you guys its so nice to read your comments i dont feel so alone i will update u tommrow afternoon hopefullyi know either way whats going on and then maby i can tart living normaly again :)

thanks guys
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ajbrath - it's difficult not to 2nd guess ourselves but if no heartbeat was found at 8 weeks gestation then I would say you made the right decision as there should have been a good strong heartbeat visible at that stage.

angelnr - how awful for you to have to be kept waiting again :(  on the positive side at least the Drs aren't rushing into anything which is a good thing.  It means that come Thurs you will have some definite answers with no areas of doubt.  I realise this is probably cold comfort to you right now.  I shall continue to keep my fingers crossed for you.  Please let us know how you get on and know that if the worst happens we are here for you.
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I had a similar situation and now im totally freaking out - i miscarried in december 2009 at 9 weeks and then got pregnant again in February. Hcg levels were increasing at a good rate. At around 8 gest. weeks (last week), I was spotting w/o cramping. That same day I spotted, I went to the doctor and had an ultrasound done which showed a yoke sac but no heartbeat. We then scheduled for my second d&c 2 days later. Between that time, I had this gut feeling that it could possibly be incorrect and that my baby was alive, but because the doctor assured me that I had miscarried, coupled with being so discouraged, I went through with it. Now after reading the post, im not sure how to feel. I was content with my decision until now...
I know its too late but just thought I was the only one with these feelings.
Praying for you angelnr21.
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just a little update i was at the hospital on thursday and thats when they said im going to have a miscarrige and to come back today which i did they took my bloods and i sat and waited for 2 hours i had to go through the whole wait of the emergnacy ward again and the doctor said well i cant say your having a misscarrige or not because our baby was to small to find a heartbeat anyway and your bloods did go down to 28000 but our labs are diffrent again to the ather test so me and my partner were left confused again she said come back on thursday for more blood test and ultrasound im so all over the place im stil feeling pregnant no cramps or blood either ..... id like to say thank u for ur commments it really means alot .... angel
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I'm so sorry you are going through this and as for the "people" on yahoo, they are a bunch of idiots and need to be ignored!

I can understand you wanting to hold on.  I think you need to stick with your gut instinct on this one.  Your numbers sound as if they are still rising which is surely good -

I would ask for your bloods to be monitored for the next week to see what is happening to your levels and if they continue to rise then another u/s in a couple of weeks time.  

I really hope this turns out well for you and agree with you not to rush into anything.
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Hi my name is melissa and when i was pregnant i 2008 my doctor told me when i was 7 weeks pregnant that they didnt see they baby only a sac and she wanted to do a DNC i felt in my heart that every thing was ok. She said no you will have a miscarriage and at 12 weeks went back and they said they still didnt see a fetus. i was so hurt and didnt know what to think. But the sad thing is when i was 14 weeks pregnant i had a m/c and the fetus and placenta came out. my doctors couldnt tell why the ultrasound didnt see the baby. And i think that i had a m/c because of all the ultrasounds. I dont know. But i hope everything will work out for you. Doctors rush to do DNC's and they need to slow down. My sister in-law was told the same thing but they didnt see her baby until she was 15 weeks pregnant and she had a healthy baby boy... so i think it may because of a tilted uterus or the placenta was in front of my cervix. i dont know why they didnt see it. i never found out
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I Kno Hw U Feel...I think You Should Indeed Let Ur Body Clean Its Self Out...Cuz Its A possibility They Could Be Wrong...But Just Know Im Praying 4 U At This Sad Time & Just Know God Doesnt Make Mistakes If Ur Body Indeed Does Miscarry
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