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Hi,
I think I'm suffering from OCD...
I normally triple check closing up houses a few times and sometimes I can't stop thinking about stuff that is irrelevant to me.
For example, I'm 25 and 100% straight and I have a tendency to compare my body to other girls as I'm not very happy woth my body but I think about it a lot and its driving me crazy and I thought am I gay to think like this? However I've never liked a girl ever!!! :(
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Hi there...sorry you are going through this.  OCD comes in many forms and checking is one of them and HOCD is another form.  When you leave OCD undiagnosed or unchecked, you leave yourself without the tools to help yourself get through the thoughts.  A psychologist is the first person you should be seeing both to be formally diagnosed and also to learn cognitive behavioral therapy.  

Here is a tip for the checking.  You check the door, you say out loud "The door is locked" and then you walk away.  If you have the urge to go back and check again, you cannot!  You then do this breathing technique to calm yourself down.  Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for 5 seconds and count this out in your head, then let it all out through your mouth.  Once you have practiced this breathing lying down, you will then be able to to do it anywhere at any time and nobody will even know you are doing it.  You have to start trusting in yourself.  You know you checked the door so you need to take the fear out of the situation by bringing your heart rate back down to normal.  

As for the HOCD, you can do the same breathing technique while throwing in some self-coaching as well.  "I've never liked a girl ever!" is a good one.  I also like "Whatever."  Basically you are saying who cares, I am who I am and there is nothing I can do about it.  What this does is takes the fear out of the thought.  You know you are not gay and you are not going to wake up one day and be gay so "whatever" because the thought cannot harm you.  

Unfortunately OCD is a life-long disorder.  We have to learn to manage it and we do that by seeing a psychologist and sometimes also taking medication.  However, I always advocate for the psychologist and CBT first.  OCD, for me at least, is tied into my stress level.  The more stress, the more stupid things I start to think.  So basically what I am saying is that life is full of stressors and we need to be ready to battle the ups and down of OCD.  
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all this is happening due to chemical imbalance in ur brain which has caused ocd, ocd is mostly genetic and biological, the imbalance can be corrected by medicine and therapy, 5 months back my mind was also getting very anxious , it was working like i was in a extremely emergency  condition but u know its a disorder, u have to accept it and work on it thats what u can do , after 5 months of struggle my symptoms are in control now, so dont get frustrated better motivate urself and look for the solution.
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Hi again,
I really really need help again please with the whole HOCD factor.

Not once ever in my life I have ever liked a girl, I've been in love with 2 boys and been in 2 relationships sexually with boys.
But ever since 3 weeks ago when I had the random "am I attracted to her" thought at 25 years old, I have been in anxiety mode ever sense, but I feel like I have an ongoing sexual sensation turned on down there now constantly, and I keep checking to see if I'm attracted to girls? Is this ongoing turned on feeling fuelled by my anxiety?
But if I see a cute guy I feel calm and normal again.

Why is this happening to me?
You can't just turn gay can you?
I'm very religious and have always been uncomfortable with gay people being lovey dovey in front of me as it repulses me but now I feel like I can turn gay?!!!!!!

I'm having thoughts of stabbing a screw driver in my head as well as I can't handle this anymore.
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Thank-you, I just wish the obsessive thinking would go away because I have this terrible fear of becoming go when I'm nearly 26, I just don't know why this is happening to me...
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1699033 tn?1514113133
It was not a thought that stayed with me very long because at the time I was bouncing from thought to thought.
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Oh really :ago how did it go away?  So you know exactly what I mean, Can I just ask, to know if you went through this, but because of this obsessive thought, it's making me check out other girls :( yet before last week never in my life :(vi don't even want to see my friends whim I've known all my life because I'm afraid
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1699033 tn?1514113133
Yes...all typical signs of OCD.  If I sat here and typed all the stupid irrational thoughts I have come up with, I would be here all day.  I won't mention them though because then you will probably add it to your list of irrational thoughts and I don't want that for you.  And just so you know...I had the HOCD thought as well and I was married.  It didn't last long though because I was going from thought to thought at the time.  My sister also had it.  
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Thank-you, I appreciate your help.

I'll go to my GP and get a referral to see a psychologist but what I am going through, obsessive thoughts, is this a typical sign of OCD?
I'm 100% straight, no doubt about it, I'm shocked I would even think like this, but my mind will go into episodes where it thinks about something non-stop and tries to convince me. I had convinced myself I had herpes when infact I had the blood results to prove that I didn't but my mind wouldn't let me rest.

I'm going crazy.
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1699033 tn?1514113133
I think you have OCD but again I cannot formally diagnose you on this forum.  Also the reassurance I give you will only last for a short while and then you will be back at it again and that is because you don't know how to help yourself.  So please call around for a psychologist on Monday so that you can get diagnosed and a treatment plan can be put in place.  
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Thank you so much for your help, it has reassured me. I must suffer from extreme OCD, besides locking up and checking the banking like 5 times (I kept repeated the number in my head in fear or paying wring amounts). I was exposed to genital herpes several months back. Since then my life has been hell. I was tested and don't have it however I convinced myself I did and I was frustrating everyone around me, the ordeal is gone now but on Tuesday, just the thought if being gay popped up and I was shocked to think it (as I'm boy crazy and have no gay tendencies, except when I was 10, I was pretending to be husband and wife with my female friend and we were fooling around in bed?!!!!! Now I'm terrified I'm gay. Immalso an artist and draw girls as they have a better form to draw..... Do I have classic case of hocd? Will it go away? Or am I gay? I'm nearly 26 and no one in my family or dust and relatives is gay?!!! Help me please
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I now can't stop thinking I'm attracted to girls, when in reality if a cute guy walks past all my attention is on him. Can someone please help me?!!!
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