Can anyone tell me if they got over this? Did you have medicine? Therapy? What helped you!?
I've been going through the same as you, its horrendous but I have been able to help myself a fair bit these past few weeks. Firstly by telling my boyfriend I'm bi sexual. Now I have never been emotionally attracted to a member of the same sex and all my sexual attractions have been to girls on tv or made up girls in my head, but once you come out and say it you realise you are probably less bi than you thought you were but you also have the option to be which takes immense weight off your shoulders (or so I found). Also try mindfulness techniques, can work quite well but needs to be kept up and just remember that we're all different, no one can tell you who or what you are so by ruminating the internet for answers you may come across things you do and don't want to hear and that do not apply to you. In my opinion sexuality is fluid, everyone is to some extent bi sexual, some of us more than others and women especially seem to be more fluid/flexible when it comes to sexuality so don't beat yourself up about it, sooo many girls watch lesbian porn, its normal. Hope this is of some help to you, I have been finally getting better these past few weeks due to using certain techniques though I'm still hoping I dont fall back into it again. Best of luck!
I googled a conversation about this and it freaks me out that other females are dealing with this too!!!! It can really bother you as it has been bothering me endlessly since the dirt couple of days of January! It's been weeks and I haven't watched ANY porn because although I liked gay (guy on guy) porn too, I feel like it's just a few clicks away for me to end up on some lesbian porn and I'm not with it. I can't do it because what really made me upset was thinking about this one time in particular that a guy that I think I may have been in love with were having sex and I was fantasizing about some lesbian stuff and I had an orgasm. All I can do is shake my head and look for support online because he is the only person I told about my sexual interest in women and we are having some issues right now but not because of that at all but he knows it is bothering me and I think he may soon be convinced that I'm a lesbian which is something I WILL NOT accept let alone bisexual.
I googled a conversation about this and it freaks me out that other females are dealing with this too!!!! It can really bother you as it has been bothering me endlessly since the dirt couple of days of January! It's been weeks and I haven't watched ANY porn because although I liked gay (guy on guy) porn too, I feel like it's just a few clicks away for me to end up on some lesbian porn and I'm not with it. I can't do it because what really made me upset was thinking about this one time in particular that a guy that I think I may have been in love with were having sex and I was fantasizing about some lesbian stuff and I had an orgasm. All I can do is shake my head and look for support online because he is the only person I told about my sexual interest in women and we are having some issues right now but not because of that at all but he knows it is bothering me and I think he may soon be convinced that I'm a lesbian which is something I WILL NOT accept let alone bisexual.
im going through the exact same thing as you! its so confusing because i was so confident in my sexuality until my obsessive thoughts kicked in. Being aroused occasionly by lesbian stuff didnt bother me but when its always on your mind, you're aroused more, but thats because it's on your mind etc it goes round in circles, I hope you have come some way forward since you posted and have got through this as it is the worst thing thats ever happened to me also.
In a sense of dealing with it, everyone around you knows by the sound of it.. If you're happy with your partner, don't even worry what turns you on... Tell yourself it doesn't matter what turns you on... And tell yourself that you're happy with him...Even if girls turn you on.. It doesn't really matter in the end.
Ohhh... You're not alone. I have been watching lesbian porn for years and it's the only porn I watch.. I used to have a boyfriend I was with and hid it all from him completely for 4 years.. It would come into my head all the time during sex.. Now with someone else who accepts it, it's become a lot easier.. I can share anything with him and he enjoys it too.. I feel so awkward around females too and always have.. Unless they're bi and know I am too.. I feel more comfortable then. I haven't actually experimented with a female.. But I worry too if I did I'd turn into one.. But if your boyfriend is willing to do it with you, you may as well take that choice.. And if you love him and want to be with him nothing will turn you into being with a girl... Because of everything you have with him.. I don't think you'd find a girl to be with who you'd love more than him... It's be very difficult.. So if you find a girl to experiment with, that may be good.
It's scary how closely our stories match. I have been dealing with since I was younger every time I didn't have a boyfriend/ like anyone I thought OMG I must be a lesbian. I even told my boyfriend I watch lesbian porn said "don't turn into one which made me feel even worse." I went on a web site that told you to just invite the thought the more you try to compel then the more you'll think about it. When the thought is over you can be happy because you truly know Hey I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!! I'm still working on it. It doesn't help that my bf is home for the summer and I work with a bunch of women but you'll eventually will feel like your in control again.Your lucky you have a support system with your mom and bf. my family is every homophobic which is why I think my HOCD was triggered. I fighting with you girl! You're not alone!
Sorry for the delay Grace...so in reading your posts you use some very, very strong language that indicates that you are really not interested in women in a sexual way. The porn watching is a different story because it really is the content rather than the players, at least in my opinion which would be in agreement with your therapist.
It is so hard for us to get out of our heads sometimes. If I told you not to think of a purple dog, the first thing you would think of is a purple dog. This is what is happening with you. You are fighting these thoughts and because you fight them, they don't go away. You test yourself repeatedly which is also fueling the fire here. What you really need to be doing is replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones....you are not gay and you never will be. Also, what if you said out loud to yourself 'Okay, I'm gay." Do you think you would stop liking guys and start being attracted to girls? You wouldn't because you are not gay. I happen to believe it is genetic and we are either born gay or we are not.
I say stop the testing, stop the fighting, adopt a whatever attitude because once you stop fearing these thoughts, they will go away. Do a bit of self-coacing with "NO, I AM NOT GOING THERE AGAIN" and then busy yourself with a book or a walk. And most of all, keep seeing the therapist. It is going to be good for you and you will learn how to cope with the anxiety these thoughts bring on.
Because it is going to take me a while to read the post I just want to say that suicide is not the answer to anyone's problems let alone a problem that is treatable so get that out of your head now. Let me read the post and then I will get back to you later on.