Guys, I'm losing my mind here!
Please read my whole story and tell me what you think.
I am a 16 y.o. male who has always considered myself straight as an arrow!
This is how my homosexual OCD (I hope) started:
I am not officially diagnosed with OCD. A few days before, I was panicking over the fact that I thought I had type 1 diabetes. I researched, did everything, and got more and more scared. My parents were so annoyed they eventually took me to the doctor, and they did a blood test, and I had nothing. The day after, I got hit in the nose with a tennis racket, and feared so much my nose was broken (despite no pain after an hour), I went to the doctor, took an X ray, nothing...
Then...to compensate my pain, I decided to go on yahoo answers and search up "I am gay how do I come out of the closet!" because I absolutely knew I was a straight arrow. Sure enough, after reading some of the answers, I started thinking..."what if I'm gay?"
I suddenly had a panic attack, followed by an urge to masturbate (I guess due to adrenaline) and I was calm after.
This was two months ago. And for the week after I had my panic attack, I was OK for the most part. But after that, things got disastrous! I started fearing I was gay. I went to my friend's house (who I've known for YEARS) and suddenly started to think about gay thoughts, I HATED them, I wanted them to go, but I convinced myself I must be gay. I have been in torture!!! I can't take it.
Anyways, later on, every time I see a guy now, I imagine a penis there, and there's nothing I can do, I am SO SICK OF IT. But I am telling myself I like it.
I always had watched straight porn (only focusing on the woman) and now I cant. I only watch lesbian, or put up pictures of nude woman and masturbate to that. When I'm doing that, I think "oh wow, no way I can be gay!"
All my sexual fantasies (before this) were about woman, not a SINGLE MAN. I always dreamed, loved woman. From the youngest age. Let me tell you just how confident I was, how I had NO DOUBTS of EVER being gay or bi. I went on an online chatting site once, and pretended to be gay, it was SO FUNNY, I posted pics of a penis as well, but I NEVER EVER got aroused, NOT A SINGLE THOUGHT LIKE THAT. Just all laughs. I even used to play gay with my best friends, slapping their butts, NEVER ENJOYING IT. I cannot talk to girls though, as I get super shy.
I was a huge fan of WWE wrestling for several years, seeing shirtless guys, never wanting to have sex or a single thought like that.
I was still fearing it, and one night I had a dream, and it was a naked gay man pinning me down and getting on top of me. I first thought "few, at least I don't have a boner", but then I started panicking, "oh no what if I get a boner!!", I kept panicking and panicking, and woke up ejaculating. Now WTF!!!! I've never had a perfect enjoyable sexual dream with a woman and ejaculated, but this time I did with a man?!?!?!?! It was so not enjoyable though!!
I've had nights where I think of gay thoughts, don't get hard, and then think of woman, and get super hard, by not even touching!
Was it the adrenaline ??? I woke up in severe panic, and I notice that when I panic I have a need to ejaculate no matter what. But this got me so fking scared that my life has been so miserable.
But then last night, something bad happened. I was looking up pictures of nude woman, and a GUY was there. But I remained calm. I looked at him, and went soft immediately, I thought "HA! No way I'm gay/bi". I went back to the woman, got hard. (this is with out touching, by the way), then I went back to the guy, got soft, back to woman, got hard.
I was OBSESSING. I kept saying "just one more time to prove to myself". I did this probably 6 times, and finally I went back to woman and I wouldn't get hard (with out touching). I started getting stressed, I touched and got hard. I said "few".
Then, to test myself further, I went to gay pictures, got soft. When I got soft, I am always very calm. But, then again, I started saying "what if I like this?", the SAME panic in the dream hit me, and while I didn't get a boner I got such a need to ejaculate, I went to the woman, gave a single pump and ejaculated. I did not have a need to ejaculate to a man! It is just that when I'm panicking, my penis gets tingly and it makes me ejaculate for no reason. When I am calm, I NEVER found the men attractive. And I still didn't panicking! But I needed to ejaculate because I was panicking and I believe it's an adrenaline response but I dont know!
When I was calm, I never found the male pics sexy. And I'm torturing myself over this! I dont get it!!!
Then, today was the ABSOLUTE WORST!
I put on videos of woman dancing in bikinis, and got extremely hard. I loved it. Then I went to a shirtless guy to see if I would get soft, and started the "what if I like this??" and again, started panicking, I ejaculated panicking and I didnt even TOUCH my penis???? It's always when I'm in the middle of a PANIC! I have NEVER looked at a woman and ejaculated with out touching, but this man automatically triggered panic and I ejaculated. now WTF!
This has never ever happened before with a woman and I just don't get it! I am so afraid of being gay/bi and I dont know what to do! I've never had a sexual thought with a man I've enjoyed, i've been in hot tubs with guys , never a sexual thought, and now when I panic I ejaculate always! It's like men trigger this panic, and the panic makes me ejaculate.
I've had dreams (just the other night) of me having sexual intercourse with woman, and men show up and I get grossed. It's only when I start overthinking it, is when I panic, and when I ejaculate for no sexual reason!
PLEASE tell me what you think, and why this is happening!!! Could adrenaline be causing this when I panic? I dont get it and I need help! I have ruined my perfectly happy, thought I was always straight life.
I also wanted to say I can't even look at my brother now because I've convinced myself I like him and I seriously need help! He's triggered panic attacks as well where I need to ejaculate to release the stress.
When I'm calm, I NEVER get horny to a guy, it's when I start panicking I need to ejaculate to release the stress or something and its uncontrollable! I have had SO MANY urges in school to have sex with woman, SO MANY. All my non-porn masturbation was over woman. (this is for 3 yrs of masturbating). ALL of my dreams were of woman.
I have NEVER had a happy gay thought. Now that I fear it so much, I get panic attacks when I see guys testing myself, and the panic causes me to ejaculate? When I am calm, I get soft to men in an instant. One night, I was imagining woman sex, got super hard, then men, got soft.
Another time, I was looking at pics of men to test myself, nothing, then a woman in short shorts came, got hard.
It is ONLY when I panic, is when I have uncontrollable ejaculation. PLEASE HELP GUYS! I am so afraid I am gay/bi even though I KNOW I would never do anything with a guy in real life. Is this panic or what?
Please tell me what you think guys in losing my mind!